5 Finger Discount Part the Second

[floppa21]

Okay, so maybe not a "crime" but a moral slippage in the eyes of the general public. Who here has been unfaithful to a loved one? Who here has CHEATED? I personally have not. I had the opportunity twice but did not. Looking back on it, I wish I had. But looking to the future, if/when the opportunity arises again, I most likely won't. For a while there, I said I would cheat on the next girlfriend just to do it, but I didn't. So call me a morally upstanding guy (even though I nicked/rinsed/stole:crazyeyes ) or call me a "When you find yourself in danger when assaulted by a stranger when it looks like you will take a lickin Bok Bok Bok Bok!" FloppaChicken!

 

[Mikoyan]

You're demented, man.
Karma, dude! KAR-MA!

 

[floppa21]

This from an anarchist with a dead mohawk??? I am thinkin not so many people will post in here. As an addendum to the 1st post, doesn't have to be currently active cheating. Just curious. Details would help as in WHY, WHEN, how it all finished up...

 

[Mikoyan]

Uh-huh..
BTW, what is it with you and that smilie? He looks like he's got a big'un up his behind.

 

[floppa21]

He's smug so GET OFF!!!

I didn't think there'd be much posted in here. Maybe nobody saw it? This post should bring it back to someone's attention hopefully.

 

[Sixchan]

I've been cheated ON. Some slutty ***** named Amy.

 

[Becka]

I haven't. Of course, I haven't had the chance, either.

 

[allan]

I think I've paid some Karmic debts for sleeping with other people's wives....

Including the two-year relationship and near-marriage to a girl who was married when I started with her--she did it to her husband, so why did I think she wouldn't ever do it to me? Of course she gave me some sob story about how her husband was "abusive" and such.... Boy was I ever a softie when I was young....

Nowadays I will not enable a woman to cheat, nor would I cheat on a partner once a steady relationship was established and understood (i.e. that could be even well before any marriage). Nor will I tolerate a partner doing the same.

 

[Morgasshk]

i'm pretty sure every girl I've been out with before this one has cheated on me...
wouldn't be surprised...

Cheating is for losers... You either want her or you don't.

Never have and never will...

Morgasshk.

 

[Magnus]

I've never cheated on anyone but I have been 'the other lover'. So I guess I have dated cheaters.... hmmmmm.....

 

[floppa21]

Good point Magnus. I started out thinkin along the lines of dating = seriousness. I gave up on that eventually. In a perfect world, at least ideally eh?

Allan, you won't "enable" a woman to cheat? Elaborate por favor.

 

[Magnus]

Well, floppa21, reagrding your comment about dating and fun/seriousness, I have come to hold dating even more sacred than marriage.

when you date, you are choosing your lover and they are choosing you, and the only thing that holds you together is love. Once the love is gone, the relationship generally ends - as it should.

marriage on the other hand - it is artificial, it is forcing two people together by religion and law customs, thus if the love dies, then the people are trapped together. the proof here is how many times have you seen a great dating couple get ruined by marriage, suddenly all the things you did because you wanted to now become required, people stop caring about each other as much because now they dont really have to hold up their end of the bargain, there is no more reason for pursuit. people get fat and stop caring what they look like and selfishly delve into their own pursuits, not including their spouse, like they did when they were dating - in fact people stop dating altogether once maried in many cases!

of course this does not apply to all marriages, I am sure many married folk here at the forums would beg to differ, but I bet some divorced folk would also agree. In my experience there is certainly a much greater incidence of such 'unloving' behavior when one is married than when one is not. Thus, to me, dating is a better state of affairs than marriage.

 

[VoodooAce]

Lol....

I started seeing my last girlfriend while she was 'attached' to somebody else. She broke up with him, we got together, and about 4 months in I found out she was cheating on ME.

Surprise, surprise. Actually I was, cuz I'm a god dam* dolt. I can add 2 and 2, but for some reason I never put the two together.

My friend (the big-hearted one) said, as I told him how bummed I was, 'you dumbas$, how did you get together with her in the first place?'.

Ah, FOUR!!! 2 and 2 is FOUR.....

Anyway, it IS karma, bro's.

 

[VoodooAce]

Originally posted by allan


Nowadays I will not enable a woman to cheat

But what if she escapes?

 

[floppa21]

Good point Magnus... (deja vu) Makes sense to me. Maybe I am brainwashed into wanting the relationship marriage thing... I dunno... But I do agree with the marriage going downhill and all that. Divorces are frequent.

 

[drake]

Cheating is for cowards that can't tell their partners that they arent satisfied. If the sparks gone, a relationship should end. If a guy/girl is doing it just because he/she feels important juggling two people at a time, they're an insecure schmuck. Weak.

 

[CrayonX]

What do you mean by 'cheating'? Is there an implied..er...'act' which has to take place?

I used to go out with a girl who defined talking to another woman as 'cheating'. Others I know say that you should not dine with another person 1-on-1 if you are in a monogamous relationship.

 

[Magnus]

Very true, CrayonX! What constitutes cheating is such a grey area - and is largely dependent upon the how secure both members of the relationship are. Insecure people will deem almost anything as cheating, and very secure people will almost put up with anything, because they know at the end of the day, that it is they who their partner is coming home to be with. I think the definition of cheating depends on the personalities involved but oooh such a touchy subject to bring up!

 

[floppa21]

The one who cares less has more control in the relationship. This came to mind when I read security/insecurity...

Anyways, for the thread purpose, I meant having Biblical knowledge... But yah, cheating can be defined in varying ways. That would be a thread topic eh? "What's constitutes cheating?"

 

[allan]

"Allan, you won't "enable" a woman to cheat? Elaborate por favor."

Bueno, I meant that I will no longer be "the other man" for a woman who wants to cheat on her significant other....

Thus I will not ENABLE her to cheat, but that doesn't mean I'll DISABLE any woman from cheating with others. Me entiendes?

The term "enable" is often used with alcoholics as well--i.e. giving an alcoholic a drink="enabling" the alcoholic. But NOT enabling does not mean preventing (with any force necessary) the alcoholic from getting a drink somewhere else, just not from YOU.