Coming out of the Christian Closet

[GoldEagle]

Alright, I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the lies of Christianity, all of the doubting, all of the untruthfullness. One problem: my parents. I'm want to to them that I'm a full Agnostic, but they're both Christians. My dad, an extremely die-hard Catholic, got super pissed off at me because we arrived to church at 8:44 (Mass startes at 8:45). We can never miss a week of church. Never. My mom is an extremely devout Evangelical Christian.

So, how should I break it to them? I'm pretty sure they'll flip out/ground me/lose respect for me...what's the easiest way to tell them?

-GE

BTW: Don't make this a religious discussion thread. I'm not converting back to Christianity.

 

[Xanikk999]

Say that if they do not respect your religious beliefs then they are no better then fundementalist muslims in iran!

Honestly i dont know. I would hate to have your parents.

 

[GenMarshall]

I realy cant say much about this since I feel kind of sad when someone comits apostasy . But its your decision on what to do.

I would have a feeling that your parents would react negatively about it.

 

[Xanikk999]

If i had fundies for parents and they wanted to convert me. I would disown them before the disowned me.

I mean if they would disown you just because of your religion!

Not only is that un-christian. Its extremely bigoted and makes you a very bad parent!

You should love your kid no matter what religion he is. In fact if it were up to me i would make it a law that you cannot impose your religion on your kids at any age.

 

[GoldEagle]

If i had fundies for parents and they wanted to convert me. I would disown them before the disowned me.

I mean if they would disown you just because of your religion!

Not only is that un-christian. Its extremely bigoted and makes you a very bad parent!

You should love your kid no matter what religion he is. In fact if it were up to me i would make it a law that you cannot impose your religion on your kids at any age.

Well it's not like they'll abandon me or not love me. It's just that they'll lose respect for me as a person.

 

[Xanikk999]

Well it's not like they'll abandon me or not love me. It's just that they'll lose respect for me as a person.

Then your better off without them. I really hate i mean HATE people who would lose respect for someone just because they are a different religion.

Its extremely childish and 19th century behavior.

Go tell them that. And tell them to stop imposing thier beliefs on you.

Better yet tell them to read this thread several days later after things heated up.

 

[skadistic]

Well it's not like they'll abandon me or not love me. It's just that they'll lose respect for me as a person.

Only for a minuet. Just tell them one day while out at a resturanye that way the public setting will keep initial actions and reactions more subdue. Bottem line is just tell them.

 

[GenMarshall]

Well it's not like they'll abandon me or not love me. It's just that they'll lose respect for me as a person.

Thats what many devout Christians would do when they hear that their son or daughter deconverts to atheism or agnosticism. Even people with Protestant parents would be deeply upset when their child wants to convert to Roman Catholicism and vice versa.

 

[GoldEagle]

Then your better off without them. I really hate i mean HATE people who would lose respect for someone just because they are a different religion.

Its extremely childish and 19th century behavior.

Go tell them that. And tell them to stop imposing thier beliefs on you.

Better yet tell them to read this thread several days later after things heated up.

Then they would double ground me for talking to people I don't know online

I'm only 15. How the hell would I live without them? I don't have any other family in state, and I can't even drive.

 

[Xanikk999]

^^ Why do some christians even have anything against agnostics?

Agnosticism is a non offensive neutral point of view. Its not preaching there is no god like athiesm.

 

[Xanikk999]

Then they would double ground me for talking to people I don't know online

I'm only 15. How the hell would I live without them? I don't have any other family in state, and I can't even drive.

Well then just go along with the christian theme until your old enough to live on your own. And enjoy the idiocy while you can at churches and youth groups. I wish i could actually be in your shoes so i could humilate some fundies!

 

[skadistic]

Then they would double ground me for talking to people I don't know online

I'm only 15. How the hell would I live without them? I don't have any other family in state, and I can't even drive.

Forums aren't talking, they are a losely grouped colection of insane ramblings by crazy people.....atleast in CFC OT they are.


Dude your parents are not going to be as uptight as you thing. Telling them now is batter then telling them later as there is a several year adjusting period.

 

[skadistic]

Well then just go along with the christian theme until your old enough to live on your own. And enjoy the idiocy while you can at churches and youth groups. I wish i could actually be in your shoes so i could humilate some fundies!

Don't knock the youth groups. We all know (or at least should) that represed christian girls at youth group are the more ......fun girls you'll ever meat.

 

[Tycoon101]

Thats what many devout Christians would do when they hear that their son or daughter deconverts to atheism or agnosticism. Even people with Protestant parents would be deeply upset when their child wants to convert to Roman Catholicism and vice versa.

I won't care if my children turn Catholic. I believe that Catholiscism is an excellent religeon to follow. I just don't have the will to turn to it.

Oh, and tell them and ask for their forgiveness, that usually helps.

 

[Eukaryote]

If you're going away without them somewhere soon write them a letter about it and give it to them just before you leave. You being away for a few days will give them a chance to calm down.

P.S. To whoever said if a Prodestents kid went Cathlioic the Prodesdent would be upset: I think you're wrong, I'm Prodesdent (Anglican to be spicific) and I wouldn't be angry if I had a kid who went Catholic, I wouldn't even care.

 

[GenMarshall]

P.S. To whoever said if a Prodestents kid went Cathlioic the Prodesdent would be upset: I think you're wrong, I'm Prodesdent (Anglican to be spicific) and I wouldn't be angry if I had a kid who went Catholic, I wouldn't even care.

I have heard stories from a Christian forum, mainly in the Catholic subforums that there are a few Catholic converts who had parents that did not aprove of there conversion.

 

[ComradeDavo]

Alright, I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the lies of Christianity, all of the doubting, all of the untruthfullness. One problem: my parents. I'm want to to them that I'm a full Agnostic, but they're both Christians. My dad, an extremely die-hard Catholic, got super pissed off at me because we arrived to church at 8:44 (Mass startes at 8:45). We can never miss a week of church. Never. My mom is an extremely devout Evangelical Christian.

So, how should I break it to them? I'm pretty sure they'll flip out/ground me/lose respect for me...what's the easiest way to tell them?

-GE

BTW: Don't make this a religious discussion thread. I'm not converting back to Christianity.

Good for you! I say just give it to them straight, say your fed up of it and you don't believe in it and that this is your descion. Say that you respect their own opinions and their rights to follow their religion and you want them to respect your descion.

 

[Corlindale]

It shouldn't really bother them. I am told truth is a very valued ideal Christianity, and as such you might be able to persuade them that it is better to be honest about being agnostic than it is to falsely pretend to be a Christian.
But if they are as religious as you say, you should probably brace yourself for some attempts at "re-enlightening" you. But hopefully you can resist that.
I doubt they'll disown you. They are your parents, and furthermore bound by the Christian ideal of compassion. They may get shocked or horrified, but it'll hopefully pass.

 

[Brian_B]

They won't disown you or anything. Not unless they are just flat out awful parents. Dick Cheney's daughter told him she was gay and he said he didn't care because she was his daughter and he loved her. If they don't respond similarly... find new parents.

 

[GenMarshall]

For me, I am on the opposite end of the spectrum where I am converting from agnosticism to Roman Catholicism (and its my own decision).

After the age of six, I had no interested in attending church because I felt that I was not ready. Though my Mother and Step-Father tried to force me to attend a Baptist Church that they gotten married into. Though now they say I have no interest in religion.

Right now, I am afraid of my parent's reaction when I tell them that I plan to return to the Catholic Church. Though I am 23.