dreadhead7
Peacemonger
Sorry, Scorch, but my experience has been totally different. There is nothing fake about me, and that's why I tell others to be themselves. Just because you've had bad experiences doesn't mean that my assertion isn't true. But then, I don't allow anyone to get that close to me to hurt me like that. If I see that that's where the relationship is headed, I cut it off at the knees. I then set my heart on the next one, and if I see that they're all about faking and zooming, then, I cut them off at the knees, too.
With all due respect, I think that the difference here is that if some folks see that a relationship is going sour, they stick around and get hurt. Some don't even see anything until it's too late. Me, well, when I see a relationship going sour, I communicate my observations and fears to my partner, and wait to see if it'll get better. If it does, fine. If not, then, I'm out, for I can do better by myself. I think that the real problem here is that you fellows are trying way too hard, and when you do that, you can get hurt. When you stop trying so hard, then, love will come to you. It may not come when you want it, but it will come.
I may be a prude, but something here disturbs me, and that is the tendency among some to equate sex with fun. Sex is NOT fun, it is the deepest expression of closeness to someone that you care deeply for. Yes, it is pleasurable, but it is meant as an expression of extremely deep love--the ultimate expression, in fact. Yes, some of you will laugh at me, and tell me I'm full of it, but you must see where I'm coming from. I, for one, am 36 years old, so I'm a little older than most of you. I was also blessed with parents who were born in the early '20's, and they brought me up with their old-fashioned views on life, sex, and love, and many of these ideals, I hold dear to my hear to this day.
With all due respect, I think that the difference here is that if some folks see that a relationship is going sour, they stick around and get hurt. Some don't even see anything until it's too late. Me, well, when I see a relationship going sour, I communicate my observations and fears to my partner, and wait to see if it'll get better. If it does, fine. If not, then, I'm out, for I can do better by myself. I think that the real problem here is that you fellows are trying way too hard, and when you do that, you can get hurt. When you stop trying so hard, then, love will come to you. It may not come when you want it, but it will come.
I may be a prude, but something here disturbs me, and that is the tendency among some to equate sex with fun. Sex is NOT fun, it is the deepest expression of closeness to someone that you care deeply for. Yes, it is pleasurable, but it is meant as an expression of extremely deep love--the ultimate expression, in fact. Yes, some of you will laugh at me, and tell me I'm full of it, but you must see where I'm coming from. I, for one, am 36 years old, so I'm a little older than most of you. I was also blessed with parents who were born in the early '20's, and they brought me up with their old-fashioned views on life, sex, and love, and many of these ideals, I hold dear to my hear to this day.
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Now, are we together today? No. But she is still the only one I love. I'm trying to change that, it makes relationships difficult with other women. And someone else posted that they could kick themselves for the opportunities they passed up on, well, I feel the same sometimes, but there's a reason I passed them up in the first place. My heart wasn't there. Alright alright, call me a pansy. Bring it on ya CFCers!!!! 
