TMIT: I read your write of that victory. It was a fun read, and I also skimmed your speed playing article although I am not really all that interested in playing blazing. Setting rally points would really help. I can't way to use that in my next game.
As far as being behind goes. The whole fun of playing this game (on higher levels) is the battle to reach parity. Generally when the human player reaches tech parity he is going to win that game. There are many way to reach parity. You can tech early and carefully, you can expand and use your large empire to tech later, you can tech key military and crush someone to either demand tech or grow larger. I understand all of these and I have done them all back when I moved up to monarch. At first I felt like "OMG I am so far behind in tech how will I ever catch up!?" well I learned how. Superior city management, or a good old fashioned war. I guess I feel the same way on emp, except on emp I have no tech, or land, or power... I suppose I just need to keep at it and micro as best as I can. More fun to try your best and lose, than half-ass and dominate.