Narz
keeping it real
@Mise, doesn't sound like it's either of your "faults", like you said just a difference in personalities. I find it hard to be around those who identify too much with their opinions & if you dismiss their opinions they feel personally slighted. We probably all identify & get offended when people dismiss our opinions to some degree. A little tact helps. If you dismiss someone's view with a comment which is basically saying "That's dumb & you're dumb for believing it" it's pretty natural they won't have the best reaction. This is pretty common on the Interwebs & this is the type of start to a argument that rarely goes well.
The relationships you have with your friends sound pretty healthy. I have a similar one with my housemate. We'll argue & debate & get loud but he's quite intelligent & usually, even if I don't change my view I learn something & occasionally one of us will change our views. We argue alot over chess positions also as we're going over our tournament games, he says my ideas/moves are junk, I counter, we play it out & see who wins, then occasionally we'll turn on a computer chess engine which invariably points out both of our ideas/plans are flawed & the real way to win/draw. It's pretty fun most of the time (though he's more social than me & usually wants to talk/hang-out 'til way later than I do) so I usually cut out to my room at some point.
The relationships you have with your friends sound pretty healthy. I have a similar one with my housemate. We'll argue & debate & get loud but he's quite intelligent & usually, even if I don't change my view I learn something & occasionally one of us will change our views. We argue alot over chess positions also as we're going over our tournament games, he says my ideas/moves are junk, I counter, we play it out & see who wins, then occasionally we'll turn on a computer chess engine which invariably points out both of our ideas/plans are flawed & the real way to win/draw. It's pretty fun most of the time (though he's more social than me & usually wants to talk/hang-out 'til way later than I do) so I usually cut out to my room at some point.
