People complain more often than praise. The fact many people are saying they do not mind is at least some solidarity to the fact that it is more about cosmetic 'feeling' that any damage to the game. This is my argument, there is so much unreal in the game and looking under the hood of joint wars they are not as simple as that
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@MaryKB implies, there is a different between someone acting friendly to you and declaring friendship. There is this occaisional chat about wishing they had a backstabbing leader back that you could not trust.... thats just what "friendly" and joint wars often are
Yes, this is the killer, I see absolutely no issue with someone who has denounced you going in a joint war as formal but the partner should be surprise or say something like the good old "gimme 10 turns to prepare" including a denouncement at 5 turns. However I also would point out that many but not all joint wars have a denounced player already involved, you are aware at least one civ out there could surprise you and I quite like the backstabbing bit personally... they are a backstabbing SOB... just like most of you.
Well yes, the logs do seem to say there is normally ... but not always. It is important to point out that people have complained about a lot of things in the past but when things have been discovered about how they work ... or the mechanic has been changed people suddenly realize things work the way they did for a reason. While the code remains hidden we will not know for sure.
Yeah right, just being in the target land of one party or having gone to war with one of their friends or not sent them a delegation may be good enough. Why not also to do with agendas or any other reason, even if purely for Mayhem, its a reason and a fairly good one.
Sure, I do... I also said I love it and use it, it makes the game more interesting... I also get miffed at times when exploring a new continent, bumping into 2 new civs, sending envoys and making deals and then bam, joint war against you..... I looked at this over the weekend from a game I had, neither seemed to have much reason to joint war me but was clear was they had been beating each other up for a while and it did seem like they just wanted to make friends. I agree in these cases its a bit annoying, I lost all that work and neither had a border anywhere near me. So some proximity and surprise missing but in general that's evened out by the pleasure I get out of using it. Just do not tell me joint wars did not happen, that would be sad to hear someone say.
What annoys me is the vitriol people have to add into a thread over such an issue, its just not needed and you lost your argument in my eyes because of the subjectivity displayed.