To Foxile:
He is a post I made to another player moving up from Warlord to Regent. The same advice holds in moving up to Monarch:
"The feelings you express are normal and will pass in time as you get more experience. You may have felt the same way on Warlord level at first. There are two secrets for becoming a better player: Play a lot and read the advice in the War Academy. The War Academy contains many strategy articles written by some of the better players. It is in the left sidebar on the main page or go here:
http://www.civfanatics.com/civ3academy.shtml
For the problems you are currently having, I would recommend that you read the article entitled Faster Expansion - A Key Element of the Early Game. After you finish that, read the two articles by cracker. GOTM9 Japan Campaign Site will show you how to plan, and effectively wage, a war. His Civ3 Opening Plays Site is the bible with regard to making the right choices about developing your land in the early game. Cracker is a top player and also is in charge of the Game of the Month (GOTM). His articles are very detailed and take a while to assimilate. However, they will vastly improve your game. I know they did mine. After reading his 2 articles and playing a few games, I am now doubling my score. I am sure you will also."
Also here are some tips on the very beginning of the game from Moonsinger, a top player:
"Regent, Monarch, Emperor, or Deity, the starting method is really the same for all levels.
1. Start your first city at 4000BC and tell it to build 2 warriors. If you don't have Pottery, research it now and set your science slider to 100%. You will discover Pottery within 22 turns or less (22 turns at Deity level, much less at lower level).
2. After building the first 2 warriors, set it to build a great wonder, barracks, temple, or whatever that takes the longest time to build. Note: we just want to store the shields at this point. Once we discover Pottery, we will immediately switch it to build a granary. In the mean time, road and irrigate the food bonus tiles within the city. After the granary is built, set it to continuously produce settlers. That's it. We now have a settler production structure in place.
3. Find a good spot to build your second city (make sure it get good shield production and not too far from your palace) and immediately build a barracks. After the barracks is done, set this cities to continuously produce military units. That's it. We now have a war production structure in place.
4. Depend on your playing style, do what you will with the rest of your cities. You could build more settler production city or more military production city or even great wonders (culture production city)."
Good Luck!!!