I've played a couple games now but still a very fresh newbie. 
Grigori, then Malakim to Mercurians, then stayed there for a while, still haven't dabbled much in magic, then now trying Khazad. (The dwarf people, if I spelled it wrong
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I was loving the feel but got massacred by Flauros's Calabim next door by turn 300-ish. They're score was already up to 1000 when I was around 600/700, along with his stupid friend the Elohim at 900ish.
I didn't beeline Iron Working because I wanted to develop some of my gold-building techs first like the path along Mathematics I think, Arete, founded RoK, got some Mage Guilds to plop down, worked on Bone Palace.
Sooo, any tips? Is it obvious that I should have focused on defense/offense? How the hell did he grow so fast? I was at 4 cities at abundant/full (1 was just started) at around that point. Too slow?

Grigori, then Malakim to Mercurians, then stayed there for a while, still haven't dabbled much in magic, then now trying Khazad. (The dwarf people, if I spelled it wrong

I was loving the feel but got massacred by Flauros's Calabim next door by turn 300-ish. They're score was already up to 1000 when I was around 600/700, along with his stupid friend the Elohim at 900ish.
I didn't beeline Iron Working because I wanted to develop some of my gold-building techs first like the path along Mathematics I think, Arete, founded RoK, got some Mage Guilds to plop down, worked on Bone Palace.
Sooo, any tips? Is it obvious that I should have focused on defense/offense? How the hell did he grow so fast? I was at 4 cities at abundant/full (1 was just started) at around that point. Too slow?