I think my question/thread is really concerned with two different things. One is providing a reasonably deep, perhaps formal, definition of "number." The other is understanding how these "numbers" fit in with the world.
I don't think any of the definitions of "number" given here so far have been very satisfying. For example, with regard to Erik's set theoretic defintion, I agree with nihilistic:
nihilistic said:
Sure, it can be constructed that way. However, the set theoretic construction is not necessarily a "definition" in every aspect, i.e. the numbers are still interpreted as quantity and rarely as sets.
So, since there doesn't seem to really be a good definition out there, I am going to have to agree with Petek:
Petek said:
In any axiomatic system, you have to have certain primitive concepts (also called undefined terms). Primitive concepts aren't defined, because otherwise you'd just keep defining concepts in terms of other concepts, ad infinitum.
I think this is the best possible answer. Like you said, Petek, in the world of mathematics, there must be undefined primitive concepts just as there must be unproven axioms, and I guess "number" is a perfect place to start. And, like you said, if there
is actually a suitable definition of number, it'll inevitably require some other primitive concept; for example, Erik's definition leaves "set" as a primitive concept. So yay, you win.
...I think that settles problem #1, but there's still the other half of the mystery (which is perhaps a completely separate mystery, and has nothing to do with what a number is---or maybe it does?), which arises from the fact that mathematics is paradoxically both perfectly concrete and perfectly abstract. Its truths are a priori, yet they can elucidate reality. As Birdjaguar pointed out, mathematics rose out of the need to count things, and that is still the way that (almost?) everyone on this planet is first exposed to math. Some intellectuals even go so far as to dismiss the idea that mathematical truth is in its own little a priori world: in the words of the mathematician Vladimir Arnold, "Mathematics is a part of physics. Physics is an experimental science, a part of natural science. Mathematics is the part of physics where experiments are cheap." (See
here.) Could he be right?
One way to think about this is to look directly at the axioms of math. Are the axioms just arbitrary starting points? Or is there a good reason to use them---perhaps the axioms are actually
true?
Most people probably don't think it's much of a mystery that the world can be described mathematically; they just take it as a given, as the natural order of things:
obviously physics and math are connected; that's just how it is! But there are certainly people who marvel(ed) at the fact:
Albert Einstein: "How can it be that mathematics, being after all product of human thought which is independent of experience, is so admirably appropriate to the objects of realtiy?"
Richard Feynman: "Mathematics is not real, but it feels real. Where is this place?"
Now, if these two brilliant theoretical physicists think there's a mystery, there damn well is a mystery!

For more on it, see
here. Earlier, I brought up a thought experiment, which I don't think anyone commented on: Imagine we lived in a different universe. (Of course, if the universe were different, we would be different, but just ignore that.) Now, is it possible that, living in that universe, we might be unable to describe its properties mathematically? Or would we always be able to use math to describe the universe, no matter what it's like? Is "using math" simply a matter of finding patterns, and we humans could find patterns in anything---and so the connection between math and reality is, after all, unremarkable?
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sanabas said:
Proof by induction is rigorous, and has plenty of uses. In fact, one way to define the set of natural numbers is by induction.
I'm assuming you're talking about
this kind of induction, which is actually a type of deductive reasoning, not inductive reasoning. True inductive reasoning, I'm sure you'll agree, is not mathematically rigorous.
FugitivSisyphus said:
Are you in a philosophy class?
Nope, I am philosophizing on my own free will.
Ayatollah So said:
Cool question! I suspect that this kid would be less likely to become extremely good at math - the real-world connections probably provide some insight. I have no evidence whatsoever for this hunch.
Yep, that's what I think. sanabas gave us some evidence of this; it'd be interesting (but probably cruel) to see a full-blown study of this.