Chukchi Husky
Lone Wolf
Earlier today. I cry all the time.
I haven't even found one uniform reason.slozenger said:If he can hold his own- how is he ending up in these situations?
Seems to be with different ones every time.Are these fights with random kids or same one or two people?
Yes, he tells me.Certainly a kid is never going to want to be a grass, but weedling out why they ended up in that situation which resulted in fights is needed. If you ask him would he tell you?
Last autumn he was doing football. Since January he's been doing Taekwondo. He's always had a lot of friends, he's got a brother, it's not like he's been deprived of social interaction with other kids.Perhaps he needs to interact more with new kids- try him at different groups of kids - a swim school, football team... chances are things could develope socially very different, it would also make him learn to be better at meeting and getting on with new people
I appreciate it.(note all this "help" is coming from a 19yr old single child!)
Mathilda said:He's only eight.
He just seems to have been involved in fights almost every day this week.
And it seems to me he gives at least much as he gets.
And it's not the road I want him taking.
He's clever enough, he's popular, and he's got a strong personality.
Some time ago there was an incident where he hit another boy in the neck with a ice hockey stick. After that one we had some major discussions with him and made it clear that he was never to be the first one to hit.
He seems to have managed it so far, but only by doing other stuff instead. Putting people to the ground and holding them there and spitting are this weeks examples. And then hitting back, when the other one hits first.
His school finishes, typically for Finland, at twelve most days and in the afternoons he goes to an afternoon club at a park near the school and most of this takes place there. The people who work there have, rightly, a very strict wiev on violent behaviour and tell him he should go and tell a grown up if there's trouble instead of trying to sort it out himself. He says he doesn't want to be a grass. And I don't find it me to insist that becomes one.
So how do I help him to find a different way?
anarres said:My cats dying is also very painful, although I've seen at least 6 or 7 die over the years (we had many cats as kids).
Hey, me too.Chukchi Husky said:Earlier today. I cry all the time.
What type of physical pain causes instant tears? Onions thrown in your eyes? Pepper spray? I can understand cursing and yelling, but I don't see why crying would necessarily be a result of physical pain. What happened to you?Shaihulud said:Trust me, as someone who is very use to physical pain. When it gets too bad, tears flow spontaneously.