Fifty said:Too bad so sad, there is probably a 95% chance you'll never get her now.
You have already forfeited your chance to show yourself as an assertive "alpha male" type (the type of guy girls like), and now you have lapsed into "best guy friend" mode. The girl will remain your good friend forever, and it will torment you, and you'll long for the day when it becomes "more than just friends" but that will probably never happen. Instead, you'll be the guy she calls up whe she has guy trouble with other guys, and you'll sit there kicking yourself wondering why she dates "jerks" instead of nice guys like yourself. She'll probably even say "I love you", which will torment the living hell out of you because you'll hold out hope (beyond all reason) that she means the type of love as in "relationship love" when all she really means is "best friend love".
Although I'm almost sure you won't get her now, here is my advice for how to make the best of the situation and maximize whatever little chance you have:
1.) start being somewhat of an "overconfident" type to everyone but her. You can't act like that around her now because you've already revealed yourself to be the "gentle, best guy friend" type, so don't try it because you'll seem fake.
2.) hope that she asks why you act so different to her.
3.) if she does, say that you don't know, and that she just makes you want to change. girls LOVE the idea of changing a guy, it makes them feel like they are good manipulators, and girls love manipulating.
4.) keep yourself just out of touch with her, to increase a sense of wonder or scarcity
5.) get another girlfriend, to make her jealous
6.) while dating other girl, sortof ignore her to increase that sense of wonder/scarcity
7.) start flirting with her while you are still dating the other girl, and slowly start spending more time with her while treating the other girl worse and worse.
8.) check for signals that she is digging you. If she is, good job. If not, game over forever.
None of that was meant to be mean or a joke. Good luck! And remember: there are millions of fish in the sea. I know you think this girl is probably unique or special, but don't worry if you fail. Just give it a few months and you'll be diggin' someone else. Whatever you do don't seem desperate. Girls smell fear.
edit: also, if you aren't into "tactics" oriented dating (I'm guessing you are though because you made the topic), there is of course the ever-so-tiny chance that you are after one of the extremely rare girls that actually likes the whole "pour out your heart" type. This is most likely if she just got done with a major ******* for a boyfriend or had an f'ed up childhood or something. Thank your lucky stars if this is the case, because you could still be in the game!
Thanks for the advise, was told the same thing too from another guy friend. But to get another girl just to make this 1 jealous seems so not right. Another girl will be hurt in the process.(unless she knows that she is playing a game)
Dunno what she sees in me in the first place except that i keep her in contact(on and off) for almost a year b4 i even meet her. Then seems like we are meeting once a month to now like almost every week.(but still with her groups of friends) so maybe let me pray hard then(atheist here) and hope for the best.