Dating Help: Should i blog ??

[Ramius75]

Just ask her then, once you know where you stand you'll know whether or not to stay or move on.

Group dating is normal, just invite some of your male friends along to distract all your obstacles.

Easier say than done, but ya, i sort of agreed with u. but some of my friends advised me to take it slow. which i also agreed

 

[Gr3yL3gion]

Easier say than done, but ya, i sort of agreed with u. but some of my friends advised me to take it slow. which i also agreed

Depends on the momentum that you set upon when you first know her, if you feel it's alright to take it slow, take it slow then.

Women can be very discreet when making some advances, so pay attention to the signals that she send you and react to it.

Well, that's just my opinion. Anyway, good luck

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Well if what you want with her is a serious long term relationship, then youre going to have to stop acting like a puppy dog, leaping to satisfy her slightest whim. She expresses an interest in blogs? Great good for her. What are you going to do if she mentions she likes tap dancing, start taking lessons? Dont perform tricks on command like a puppy. Women have long term relationships with puppies, but not the kind youre looking for.

 

[Ramius75]

Depends on the momentum that you set upon when you first know her, if you feel it's alright to take it slow, take it slow then.

Women can be very discreet when making some advances, so pay attention to the signals that she send you and react to it.

Well, that's just my opinion. Anyway, good luck

Thanks, not very experience in this thats why.

Took me very long to get her on a first "group outing" and then very long for the second, only recently, we got out more and more often. pretty slow by any standard.

 

[Ramius75]

Well if what you want with her is a serious long term relationship, then youre going to have to stop acting like a puppy dog, leaping to satisfy her slightest whim. She expresses an interest in blogs? Great good for her. What are you going to do if she mentions she likes tap dancing, start taking lessons? Dont perform tricks on command like a puppy. Women have long term relationships with puppies, but not the kind youre looking for.

I do object to some of the hobbies she had like driving fast car and racing and she told me she will changed, so it aint that bad either. But thanks, i do think i gave in to her quite often than the other way round.

 

[Stapel]

-Go make this blog she wants you too
-Ask her for a day out to the zoo (or whatever suits you/her fine)

I now this sounds ridiculously easy, but it works. at least it should give you a decent idea whether she is interested in you too.

 

[Ramius75]

-Go make this blog she wants you too
-Ask her for a day out to the zoo (or whatever suits you/her fine)

I now this sounds ridiculously easy, but it works. at least it should give you a decent idea whether she is interested in you too.

Already made it, just that not sure if i wrote too much, haha, i think most of the things i wrote down are quite fine as it is, but some are quite revealing also.

 

[amadeus]

Singapore has a government-sponsored dating website. Why don't you try there?

 

[Ramius75]

Singapore has a government-sponsored dating website. Why don't you try there?

Not when they ask me to pay for the service

 

[Aphex_Twin]

Dating Help: Should i blog ??

Yes, if you want to marry your computer

 

[Riesstiu IV]

You could always try the old fashion way and express how you feel after becoming intimate friends. The worst she could say is "no" and slice your heart like a hot knife through butter.

I don't know... The idea of using a blog to find a girlfriend seems kind of lame.

 

[Alpine Trooper]

Let me provide you with three simple rules of the internet.

1. Never discuss your personal life.
2. Never discuss your personal life.
3. Never discuss your personal life.

 

[Lambert Simnel]

Well, I'm torn.

I scanned your blog, and, to be honest, I wouldn't date you.

On the other hand (and to paraphrase Dilbert), you might still have a chance, as you'd think anyone called "Princess of Torture" would compensate by being extra nice....

Why not just ask her out & go for a meal ? After all, your blog suggests you're 30, not the 19 years the tone of your initial posts suggested.

 

[feline_dacat]

Hey - I like blogging, but don't blog just because SHE wants you to. Its a good indication that she finds you interesting and wants to find out more cos she asked you to start one. You already said that you enjoy blogging, so carry it on. As for what you want to say in it, thats up to you. I personally do bare (almost) all, but only to a few select people with the help of filters.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Ok, am desperate for help here.

Im interested in a girl lately and notsure of her feeling to me. She started a blog recently and asked me to make one too, so that she can link her blog to mine and vice versa. very soon, im writing almost everyday.

now i need some professional helps. preferbly, casanovas, females, married men.
To comment on my blog. am i revealing too much ? or should i continue bloggin, just becoz she wants me too.

Thanks !!

http://ramiuslim.blogspot.com/

I'm not a professional. I am a married man.

Here's my advice.

From what I could glean from her blog, she doesn't have a boyfriend, so this is good.

The fact that she asked you to link your blog to hers suggests that she at least sees you as worthy of a friend, which is good. (However, in some schools of thought, this can lead to the dreaded "friend zone". But I don't believe that really happens.)

You should capitalize on this by approaching her, preferably in the most confident way you can, and ask her out. It doesn't matter where. Ask her to dinner and a movie. That's standard enough. If she refuses or makes excuses to avoid it, you have your answer.

There are other ways to approach this. You could try to "feel out" the situation by watching her response to various approaches of yours, such as whether she flirts with you when you flirt with her. But this takes more practice and I think the first way I mentioned is easier and will have the same effect in the end.

Good luck!

PS. As far as I'm concerned, the blogging itself is completely useless.

 

[Ramius75]

You could always try the old fashion way and express how you feel after becoming intimate friends. The worst she could say is "no" and slice your heart like a hot knife through butter.

I don't know... The idea of using a blog to find a girlfriend seems kind of lame.

Will do that when im ready, well the reason of the blog maybe to share the thoughts also, if she buys it, then good for me, if she dont, then i got nothing to lose also since it will never work out anyway.

but thanks

 

[Ramius75]

Well, I'm torn.

I scanned your blog, and, to be honest, I wouldn't date you.

On the other hand (and to paraphrase Dilbert), you might still have a chance, as you'd think anyone called "Princess of Torture" would compensate by being extra nice....

Why not just ask her out & go for a meal ? After all, your blog suggests you're 30, not the 19 years the tone of your initial posts suggested.

ok, i know im a real stoner and bored

dont know why she is interested in me anyway. Maybe coz she is like what u think, a twisted sense of perception..

Maybe 30 but when comes to relationship, i cant even hold a candle compare to a kid. The last 1 was 12 years ago.

 

[Fifty]

Too bad so sad, there is probably a 95% chance you'll never get her now.

You have already forfeited your chance to show yourself as an assertive "alpha male" type (the type of guy girls like), and now you have lapsed into "best guy friend" mode. The girl will remain your good friend forever, and it will torment you, and you'll long for the day when it becomes "more than just friends" but that will probably never happen. Instead, you'll be the guy she calls up whe she has guy trouble with other guys, and you'll sit there kicking yourself wondering why she dates "jerks" instead of nice guys like yourself. She'll probably even say "I love you", which will torment the living hell out of you because you'll hold out hope (beyond all reason) that she means the type of love as in "relationship love" when all she really means is "best friend love".

Although I'm almost sure you won't get her now, here is my advice for how to make the best of the situation and maximize whatever little chance you have:

1.) start being somewhat of an "overconfident" type to everyone but her. You can't act like that around her now because you've already revealed yourself to be the "gentle, best guy friend" type, so don't try it because you'll seem fake.

2.) hope that she asks why you act so different to her.

3.) if she does, say that you don't know, and that she just makes you want to change. girls LOVE the idea of changing a guy, it makes them feel like they are good manipulators, and girls love manipulating.

4.) keep yourself just out of touch with her, to increase a sense of wonder or scarcity

5.) get another girlfriend, to make her jealous

6.) while dating other girl, sortof ignore her to increase that sense of wonder/scarcity

7.) start flirting with her while you are still dating the other girl, and slowly start spending more time with her while treating the other girl worse and worse.

8.) check for signals that she is digging you. If she is, good job. If not, game over forever.


None of that was meant to be mean or a joke. Good luck! And remember: there are millions of fish in the sea. I know you think this girl is probably unique or special, but don't worry if you fail. Just give it a few months and you'll be diggin' someone else. Whatever you do don't seem desperate. Girls smell fear.


edit: also, if you aren't into "tactics" oriented dating (I'm guessing you are though because you made the topic), there is of course the ever-so-tiny chance that you are after one of the extremely rare girls that actually likes the whole "pour out your heart" type. This is most likely if she just got done with a major ******* for a boyfriend or had an f'ed up childhood or something. Thank your lucky stars if this is the case, because you could still be in the game!

edit2: and if she IS one of those rare girls, just ask her out. Make yourself seem unique and give her a TON of attention. I mean shower her with it. Go nuts. Girls with f'ed up childhoods or ******* boyfriends are even bigger attention-lovers than most girls (which is saying a lot). Make her feel really really special and do unique things for her, without seeming clingy. Give her a date full of fun and attention (you want to be on your A-game here for sure) and then ditch her for a few days so she starts to want that attention again. rinse and repeat until it is obvious she is digging, then go in for the kill.

 

[Ramius75]

Hey - I like blogging, but don't blog just because SHE wants you to. Its a good indication that she finds you interesting and wants to find out more cos she asked you to start one. You already said that you enjoy blogging, so carry it on. As for what you want to say in it, thats up to you. I personally do bare (almost) all, but only to a few select people with the help of filters.

Hey thanks

Will continue writing, i find it nice to have some audiences and sharing things too. Feel free to comment.

 

[Ramius75]

I'm not a professional. I am a married man.

Here's my advice.

From what I could glean from her blog, she doesn't have a boyfriend, so this is good.

The fact that she asked you to link your blog to hers suggests that she at least sees you as worthy of a friend, which is good. (However, in some schools of thought, this can lead to the dreaded "friend zone". But I don't believe that really happens.)

You should capitalize on this by approaching her, preferably in the most confident way you can, and ask her out. It doesn't matter where. Ask her to dinner and a movie. That's standard enough. If she refuses or makes excuses to avoid it, you have your answer.

There are other ways to approach this. You could try to "feel out" the situation by watching her response to various approaches of yours, such as whether she flirts with you when you flirt with her. But this takes more practice and I think the first way I mentioned is easier and will have the same effect in the end.

Good luck!

PS. As far as I'm concerned, the blogging itself is completely useless.

Hey thanks. am thinking about ur style of approach too, hope it turn out well.