So, I want to take my neighbor's capitol, but I don't want the big diplo hit. If I understand how things work, it should be possible. If I only take one city and never refuse a peace treaty, and didn't start the war myself, there should be little diplomatic penalty, yes? So, how best to go about it? How do I make him DoW me? Forward-settling obviously. Refusing to stop settling near them. Getting caught spying on them. Refusing to stop. All helpful. Telling them not to spy on you or settle near you. Buying tiles near them. Refusing to stop buying tiles near them. All good! Denouncing them helps but maybe it's risky, because if someone else becomes their friend, they'll hate you for denouncing their friend. Maybe still worth it? The question is, will this ever push them into a war? Or is leader personality going to overrule this? Is this even a viable idea? I've tried it before and it rarely pushes someone into a DoW.