ni hao hclass, 
I think Civ V can satisfy you just fine, as long as you're willing to accept that the default game will not be made for you. You can just mod in what you like. Please understand that one man's "obvious truth" is another man's "obvious falsehood." Sometimes the things we are passionate about are only important for us. And please also understand that "big numbers" isn't important for many Civvers -- you can see it in this thread! And the game needs to be made for the majority of potential players, because it is business, not charity. But in a world with modding, there's room for you and everyone else with a minority gameplay need to make the game you really want to play.
Modding is hard work, but you yourself stressed the importance of not being lazy!
Alternatively you can start playing Civ II again, because many of the specific features you mention are in Civ II, with no need to mod. Or play Sid Meier's Alpha Centauri, which has about the same number of the features you request, but has some of the "bigger" ones. (Terraforming up land bridges? You bet!)

I think Civ V can satisfy you just fine, as long as you're willing to accept that the default game will not be made for you. You can just mod in what you like. Please understand that one man's "obvious truth" is another man's "obvious falsehood." Sometimes the things we are passionate about are only important for us. And please also understand that "big numbers" isn't important for many Civvers -- you can see it in this thread! And the game needs to be made for the majority of potential players, because it is business, not charity. But in a world with modding, there's room for you and everyone else with a minority gameplay need to make the game you really want to play.
Modding is hard work, but you yourself stressed the importance of not being lazy!

Alternatively you can start playing Civ II again, because many of the specific features you mention are in Civ II, with no need to mod. Or play Sid Meier's Alpha Centauri, which has about the same number of the features you request, but has some of the "bigger" ones. (Terraforming up land bridges? You bet!)