I would like to thank everyone for their participation in this thread. I am looking for a setup of Civ that is entertaining and enjoyable. I found roadblocks toward achieving that goal.
I brought up scenarios that occurred to me in this game, and either other people have experienced the same thing, or people mocked me for interpreting things strangely. No where is there an indication that these problems are just in my head. These problems are real, and added together they are significant.
As long as the virus is a thing, I will put some time into Civ VI. With the help of all of the wonderful responses in this thread, including the ones mocking me, I've found the niche that Civ VI will play in my life going forward. I have the scenarios that work for me, I have an idea of how the AI acts (and barbarians in games I include them), and I play the game in a way that suits my needs.
imho: Civ had a great reputation coming into Civ VI. It did not live up to these expections. Not even close. I wish it did, but it just does not. And fixes to it would be quite expensive.
I’ve put a LOT of time and effort into making this game work for me, probably more than I should have.
What I have found is to make the AI even remotely competative:
None of the modes. None of them. The AI cannot remotely take advantage of them, and Barbarian Clans and Dramatic Ages guts them.
Turn Barbarians off. The combination of how OP they are and how terrible the AI is at fighting means any AI confronting one or more camps is going to be severely handicapped
Legendary Starts and Abundant Resources. The AI is terrible at builders, so this helps them
Don’t allow yourself to build walls. The OP nature of walls, the stupidity of ranged strikes, and the AI’s terrible warmaking skills means you can often defeat an invasion with walls and nothing else.
No unit upgrades. As well as being terrible history it does the usual Civ6 positive feedback win harder thing where you can cheaply upgrade an increasingly veteran army with no downsides.
Again, both broken and horribly ahistorical
Even with all of the above the AI is hilariously bad at warfare, and most things except sniping wonders, because of course it’s good at something that annoying and stupid.
I played a game this morning where I was next to Rough Rider Teddy, who had almost triple my military score and thus Surprise War’s me early in the classical era
Which is smart strategy. I didn’t have iron yet to boot. I had a few warriors and archers
I discovered horse back riding and Oligarchy just after.
He lost the war. Didn’t even take a single city. He lost it so badly I took Washington and his other two cities will follow shortly.
I will thus have roughly doubled the size of my civ half way through the classical era.
So the game is already over