Is marrage irrational?
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CurtSibling
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It has nothing to do with spirituality. Marriage is a financial/social/cultural factor.
Just another of humanity's little mechanisms of stratification.
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Just another of humanity's little mechanisms of stratification.
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ComradeDavo
Formerly God
I resent you telling me how I feel.
Cheezy the Wiz
Socialist In A Hurry
That's not necessarily true. In France, you are married not by the Church, but the State: a Judge is the one who presides over the ceremony. You can get "married" in a Church also, if you wish, but its only a legal marriage if its performed by a Judge.
This also implies that only a religious party can be married, which is very much not the case.
CurtSibling
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That is exactly what religious people wish to imply. If they do indeed even imply.
The think marriage was invented by their particular religion, just like morality.
Complete bunk, of course.
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Catharsis
catch u on the flip scythe
How does everyone define love? I would call love eternal, and thus it would be impossible to 'fall out of love with' someone, as then you would not have been in love anyway.
But then, I ain't bright.
But then, I ain't bright.
Why is everyone assuming that marriage is only about love anyways?
skadistic
Caomhanach
Conditioning.
Eukaryote
Deity
Elrohir said:
Go sit in the corner and take your medication.
I don't think that love is irrational, romantic love happens because each person makes the other feel a certain way and that leads to love. Sounds about as rational as 2+2 to me.
I don't wanna!Go sit in the corner and take your medication.
I don't think that love is irrational, romantic love happens because each person makes the other feel a certain way and that leads to love. Sounds about as rational as 2+2 to me.
But is it possible to truly love someone for who they are, rather than simply how they can make you feel? If you only love someone because they make you feel warm and fuzzy inside, then you don't love them at all - you're just selfishly wanting to feel warm and fuzzy. If you can truly love someone, not just because they make you feel good, but simply because you love them for who they are, then that's great - but it's also not rationally in your best interest, or rational at all.
I'm not saying love is bad. On the contrary, I think it's a great thing. But it doesn't have to be rational for it to be positive.
It's the modern day interpretation.
MobBoss
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Kinda obvious who has been married and who has not. Being married for over 20 years, yes, I will say that marriage does have plenty to do with spirituality. Sharing such a bond with another person as to make yourselves one has far more to do with spirituality than it does finances or social-isms.
bathsheba666
Fast 'n Bulbous
Given the odds, perhaps the hope is irrational, but it does occasionally work...
...even if the reasons might be those given by one couple in Annie Hall..
...even if the reasons might be those given by one couple in Annie Hall..
I have yet to have a divorce client express spiritual matters. Usually one partner screwing up the finances and/or socail arrangements are the reason they are in my office.
Perfection
The Great Head.
Why spiritual and not emotional? And why do you use this definition?
I suspect that trying to find a universal reason for marriage is bound to failure. Marriage seems to be comprised of numerous different aspects and to try to boil it down to one would be to grossly oversimplify things.
happy_Alex
Happiness set to 11
That depends on your definition of rational. From your personal perspective it might be, but I'm married and it makes sense in so many ways: emotional stability, companionship, shared goals stuff like that. And the whole is more than the sum of it's parts.
It seems very rational from a genes point of view, a stable marriage gives a stable home and balanced environment for kids IMHO. I think children who come from a stable background have less variables to worry about, and can concentrate on growing as people. Better for gene propogation and maybe why marriage is a meme.
Sephiroth
One Winged Angel
I belive it is...
you just can't deniy human nature
you just can't deniy human nature
MobBoss
Off-Topic Overlord
Of course not....that would obviously be a marriage that has lost its spirituality.
/shrug. People today dont understand what love really means. What can I say.
MobBoss
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Because a true marriage with a spiritual relationship goes beyond emotion. Its honest to say that married couples will love each other and hate each other at times during their marriage. Thats just emotion. However, a true spiritual relationship will bypass emotion. People without that connection will get divorced at the drop of a hat - people with it will stick together through both the good times and the bad times.
For better or for worse does have meaning you know. Its not just a line in a ceremony.
