Håkan Eriksson
Commander of the Swedes.
Any violence against children should be forbidden. No matter if it's the parents or somone else who do it. No matter if it happens one time or if it's done every day.
Originally posted by Gothmog
kids are little emotional antennas
Originally posted by Grandraem
I have no children yet, so I don't know whether or not they'll listen to calm words or whether they'll need to be spanked...I'm still going to try talking to my kids first before spanking, though.
Originally posted by thestonesfan
I was hit, albeit rarely, and never once felt abused or unloved. It is not plain and simple. Parents should not be criminalized by a body that should have absolutely no input in the matter.
Originally posted by thestonesfan
This whole thing is ridiculous and insulting when you think about it. What good can it possibly do?
Originally posted by Sean Lindstrom
If you don't know, Grandraem, then your kids won't, either. Get it firmly in mind that physical discipline isn't an option, and they will too. Otherwise, they will test you, and set the family on a bad pattern.
Originally posted by Sean Lindstrom
. . .and set the family on a bad pattern.
Originally posted by CurtSibling
Says you?
And what power have you to speak for parents who DO hurt their children?
What is good for you is not good for everyone, stones.
Originally posted by CurtSibling
To all those people who expound beating children, remember this:
Can an adult always be relied on to stop themselves from losing control when hitting a child? Hmmmm?
What about stress, and other factors? Hmmmm?
What if a parent 'snaps'? Hmmmm?
How does this fit into your draconian, Charles Dickens-like viewpoint?
Not so easy to quantify, is it?
As stones, points out, people are not sheep.
And they certainly don;t act like them when it comes to violence.
I was never hit as a child, my parents were against such barbarism.
I am grateful for my parents high-minded approach and am an opponent of any child abuse.
If I seen a father hitting his child, I would step and stop him.
If it was a mother, I would threaten to call the social works dept.
Anyone who says beating is needed, is merely a product of a bad, beatings-filled upbringing, IMHO.
Originally posted by thestonesfan
It is clearly NOT the same thing. A wife is an equal, children are not. They can't be expected to be.
Originally posted by thestonesfan
And a law will magically change this? Please.
Originally posted by Grandraem
You're right, and I apologize for my earlier post.
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Thank you for pointing that out to me, Sean.
Originally posted by thestonesfan
And a law will magically change this? Please.
Originally posted by SirJethro
If it don't leave a bruise, it don't deserve to be news......
Really people...our governments are becoming a little heavy handed in dictating how our children are raised. Some real life examples:
- In the last few weeks (forget the state) a man was arrested for taking his 3 MONTH OLD son to Hooters. I mean, come on....
- About a year ago a woman somewhere in the south was arrested because her child got badly sunburnt at a county fair...
I'm sure we could all quote crazy examples of the law stepping in to "save the day" from things that are simply poor parenting choices. We have a responsibility to raise our kids right, but the government does not have the moral authority to tell us how to do it.
Really, it would be fun to take the children of all lawmakers who are setting these laws and compare how they turned out to the "average" kid....
Originally posted by Double Barrel
There is a BIG difference between spanking and child abuse. And don't give me any of that "time-out" crap, because it is utterly ridiculous. For those of you that are against any spanking, how do you propose to teach respect for authority? Does it work with your kids, or do you even have any experience with a 3-year-old that is basically flipping the bird at your time-out sessions? "Reasoning" with a 3-year-old?!? LMAO!! It is simple cause-and-effect, action-and-consequence...works well with adults as well as with children
Originally posted by FearlessLeader2
How did that affect their crime rate when those children grew up?
Originally posted by Gothmog
I expect my kids to emulate me and I don't want to teach them that violence solves anything. For me it is less than a last resort. IMO using violence is teaching a kid that authority should be respected only if it threatens you with violence. That seems awful close to fear to me. I want to teach my kids that authority should be respected to the extent that it is not abused.