Making a Big Change...

[Ohwell]

Lately I have been feeling quite depressed, and am very sad. I miss my family, friends, and I need some inspiration in my life. My job isn't getting me places, and my job is my life. I have nothing interesting in my life. So, I have decided to move back to New York. It is a big change for me, but I need some serious soul searching. But I fear I will miss Frankfurt too, it is a wonderful city with great people(In their own way). And I am very stuck in a serious dilemma. I need some sort of big change, and I think I must do this. I am telling you this because you all seem like you can give me support, and that I think of you all as my good friends. I need somebody's opinion on this, you know, telling me if you have had any similair experiance, and how you coped with it.

I really have no choice...

 

[Ohwell]

Anybody? Does anybody care?

 

[Flatlander Fox]

Move to Nuernberg!!!

I lived there for 4 years, and it is the greatest city in the world!!!

Why pack up and go home? (I was forced to pack and leave, no fun)

But whatever you do, put all of your effort into it... The only way to be successful...

 

[Ohwell]

Nuremberg? Why would I want to move there? I really think I should go back to my roots, get some soul searching done, and find some inspiration to stay alive... I do realize that everyone who knows me here claims to be my friend, but It doesn't ring anything inside me. Remember Wiemar Republic/Pellaken? I read his thread "life" and it touched me very much so. I realzied I am not the only one, and Pelly has a life uncannily similair to mine...

 

[Achinz]

Without knowing more about your private circumstances it's not easy to offer specific advice. On a general level I would recommend

.developing interests away from your work - eg in this website, what about computer games

.start a relationship with someone or extend your group of friends through an interest group. You may get some ideas from the wide range of topics in forums such as this.

There is always Australia, at the other end of the world. The Germans I've met here seem to have settled in well. Lots of variety of landscape and a real change from Germany!

 

[damunzy]

Please don't bring up Wiemar Republic/Pellaken. I tried talking to the man but he seemed to only want the attention, not to try to improve his life.

Are you in Germany with family right now? What are some of the details of your situation. Aren't you having fun playing Broodwar with me?

 

[Ohwell]

Originally posted by PaleHorse76
Are you in Germany with family right now? What are some of the details of your situation. Aren't you having fun playing Broodwar with me?

No, my family is in the States, and that is a big reason I want to move back there. Most of my family lives in New York, some in New Jersey, FLorida, Colorado, California, and even Arkansas
I moved here a couple of years ago because I didn't like the political stance of the US, and also I wanted to be in Germany because I am German, and because it is a great country I was told. And it is, but I really need to go back and meet people I know. I hardly talk with family. My job- I work in the sales department of Skagen, a watch/accesory company in Dennmark. Visit the website, it's in english. I make adequate money, but it is a dead-end job. I have no interests other than computer gaming and browsing this forums all day. I think this sums up my situation.

And of course I have fun playing Brood War with you

 

[Leowind]

You will not find true Joy (as opposed to surface happiness) in jobs, money, the city you live in, or anything else, apart from meaningful relationships. Family, friends, lovers, spouses, children, whatever. I truly believe relationships are the key. Personally I believe relationship with and seeking after God (honest, intellectually grounded seeking) are the true key, but even apart from that, relationships with other people are really the only thing IMHO that will bring true Joy to your life and make the rest of it all (jobs, money, etc) worth having. I don't know how old you are, but most in this forum are young, so I'll assume for the moment you are early-mid twenties? This can be a very difficult time as you are away from your family--your old set of relationships--but haven't yet established a family and/or circle of friends yourself yet. Try to find ways to establish some close relationships, realizing that it will take time and investment of some energy on your part, even some risk. Perhaps moving closer to your family would be helpful, assuming you take advantage of the opportunity for relationship with them. Only you can decide whether doing so would help or hinder establishing meaningful relationships.

Best of luck to you, and my prayers are with you. Keep us posted on how it's going with you.

 

[CurtSibling]

No offence,
but I always find these threads odd,
you see, I never get depressed...
I have never experienced this feeling some people tell me of.

I am always in the same mood, and I'm always feeling upbeat.

I think your solution is to tackle the crux of your problems,
whatever they may be, only when you have satisfied your mind
you will feel ease.

Looking away and avoiding your problems will not always help,
But maybe you need to find a hobby or something you love to do,
and just do it, home is where you are happy.

Don't be where you do not want to be, my friend.
Please your mind, and the rest is easy!