After researching on Wikipedia about Cocaine I came to realize my mom does indeed use crack cocaine. She has DENIED using it for as long as I can remember, but I sometimes find brillo pad in the sink and a long nail like structure. I never thought much of it. Then I started finding pipes after she'd get drunk and pass out. I thought it might've been 'Crack'. Then, a week ago, I found a spoon with the actual cocaine residue for making coke. I then realized that I should research it. Finally I can say, with out a doubt, my mother smokes crack cocaine.
My Mother Smokes Crack Cocaine.
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I think he might be asking for advice. Unfortunately, I don't have enough personal experience with this to deliver any. Sorry.
That sees like it would explain some of the circumstances you have talked about in the past. 
andrewgprv
Second Class Citizen
Somewhat of a personal question so don't answer if you don't want to. Do you consider her a good mom?
Syterion
Voodoo Economist
Kind of off topic, but I'll ask it anyway. What exactly is "crack cocaine?" I thought there was crack, and then there was cocaine. What's crack cocaine? Is it another name for cocaine?
EDIT: Nevermind, the wikipedia link explained it.
On Topic, I'm sorry for you Azadre(assuming you don't like this fact). Focus on your fiancee and upcoming marriage.
EDIT: Nevermind, the wikipedia link explained it.
On Topic, I'm sorry for you Azadre(assuming you don't like this fact). Focus on your fiancee and upcoming marriage.
It is your mom life, her choice. The only thing you can say is how you fell about this to her.
Especialy dont call the police, in USA they create more problem then anything else. I mean putting an addictive into a steel cage is not a solution.
If you dont agree with her choice then leave and forget her. Otherwise you will probably suffer much more.
Especialy dont call the police, in USA they create more problem then anything else. I mean putting an addictive into a steel cage is not a solution.
If you dont agree with her choice then leave and forget her. Otherwise you will probably suffer much more.
Riesstiu IV
Deity
Tassadar said:
Why would anyone call the police to turn in their own family members? The thing to do is convince your mother to check herself in a drug rehab program.
marshal zhukov
good economist wannabe
Yo mama is on crack???
This thing is something hard to believe. How long has she been using it?
I think that instead of talking about it here you should seek help for her. I think she needs it.
This thing is something hard to believe. How long has she been using it?
I think that instead of talking about it here you should seek help for her. I think she needs it.
King Alexander
Universe explorer
@Azadre: First, don't ever think to give up. Life is ahead of you, you can be married, have your job and enjoy your life, for as long as it lasts(I hope it lasts MANY years).
Could it be very hard for you to just talk with her? Don't push her much, just make it clear if she's on it or not. You're her son, and you care for her and love her more than anything in the world(you can say it), say that you can be good/close friends.
Show some understanding: people don't think clear when they're in drugs.
Discuss with her, what could be done for that? Ask her, what are her problems, ask how could you help with her problems: even small things that she could ask and seem silly to you, could help her a lot.
Make her understand that you'll be always by her side.
I know that it's hard, but try to be positive and show her that you're full of energy for life. Take her for a walk, when she can.
I don't know how much I've helped, but I thought you'd get a bit bennefited from some ideas. Hope all will be better.
Could it be very hard for you to just talk with her? Don't push her much, just make it clear if she's on it or not. You're her son, and you care for her and love her more than anything in the world(you can say it), say that you can be good/close friends.
Show some understanding: people don't think clear when they're in drugs.
Discuss with her, what could be done for that? Ask her, what are her problems, ask how could you help with her problems: even small things that she could ask and seem silly to you, could help her a lot.
Make her understand that you'll be always by her side.
I know that it's hard, but try to be positive and show her that you're full of energy for life. Take her for a walk, when she can.
I don't know how much I've helped, but I thought you'd get a bit bennefited from some ideas. Hope all will be better.
Stapel
FIAT 850 coupé
Some questiosn, some remarks
Azadre,
-How old are you? And how old is your mother?
-How often is she drunk?
-How often does she use cocaine? And how much?
-Cocain isn't cheap. Can she afford it?
In other words: Is it a problem?
to all:
-Using drugs is not the same as being addicted to drugs. The same applies to alcohol. Cocain is said to be more addictive than most other stuff.
-Using cocain for many years is not really healthy, but it is either very destructive. The short term risks are rather big though. Overdoses are lethal.
-Cocain is expensive
-Heroin is cheap, and thus a common surrogate for addicts
-Heroin is very very destructive. It's lethal.
Azadre,
-How old are you? And how old is your mother?
-How often is she drunk?
-How often does she use cocaine? And how much?
-Cocain isn't cheap. Can she afford it?
In other words: Is it a problem?
to all:
-Using drugs is not the same as being addicted to drugs. The same applies to alcohol. Cocain is said to be more addictive than most other stuff.
-Using cocain for many years is not really healthy, but it is either very destructive. The short term risks are rather big though. Overdoses are lethal.
-Cocain is expensive
-Heroin is cheap, and thus a common surrogate for addicts
-Heroin is very very destructive. It's lethal.
Ancient Grudge
Its all in this life
It's so easy for people to say walk away and leave or tryt and get your mum to find help but its not easy at all, you can't just walk away you are her son, she bought you into this world, she has cared for you, loved you, you have to try and help her somehow..... but if she doesn't see it as a problem then no matter how much you ask her she wont try and get help.
I agree with King Alexander just talk to her tell how much you care, show her that there is more to life than drugs and alcohol.......
crap advice i know,i hope it all works out somehow for you
I agree with King Alexander just talk to her tell how much you care, show her that there is more to life than drugs and alcohol.......
crap advice i know,i hope it all works out somehow for you
Azadre,
-How old are you? And how old is your mother? 16 / 42
-How often is she drunk? 2 -3 times a week
-How often does she use cocaine? And how much? Not sure about either, but it's once a month I find it.
-Cocain isn't cheap. Can she afford it? No, the only way I could see her buying it is using money from child support.
In other words: Is it a problem? It is, but I am only here for a little less than a year before I move out and become emancipated.
-How old are you? And how old is your mother? 16 / 42
-How often is she drunk? 2 -3 times a week
-How often does she use cocaine? And how much? Not sure about either, but it's once a month I find it.
-Cocain isn't cheap. Can she afford it? No, the only way I could see her buying it is using money from child support.
In other words: Is it a problem? It is, but I am only here for a little less than a year before I move out and become emancipated.
Jawz II
Oh Dear
try to always remember these things:
1.its not you, its 99% her
and if she gets her life together same thing applies,its 99% her decision,all you can do is to offer your love and support although it might be hard at times,dont stop loving her completely,thats all you can do the rest is up to her.
shes after all your mother,but that goes both ways,she is the mother and you are the offspring,she should take care of you not the other way around
2.youre no longer a child but a man,and in a year you can move out, just try to make the best life you can for yourself,things like this tend to make people really strong but also harsh and cynical,try to keep the strenght but not the bad stuff,go on with your life
3.if you feel really bad at times get a really sad movie/book/song and cry your eyes out, cry all you want, you will be surprised how much better you feel afterwards,its really really healthy, although it sounds like something old women would do!
if you do that maybe once or twice a year you will never develope psychoses(this is something i used to do but havent done in a while,its a really good trick im teaching you here with risk of looking like a wuss
)
be strong dude
1.its not you, its 99% her
and if she gets her life together same thing applies,its 99% her decision,all you can do is to offer your love and support although it might be hard at times,dont stop loving her completely,thats all you can do the rest is up to her.
shes after all your mother,but that goes both ways,she is the mother and you are the offspring,she should take care of you not the other way around
2.youre no longer a child but a man,and in a year you can move out, just try to make the best life you can for yourself,things like this tend to make people really strong but also harsh and cynical,try to keep the strenght but not the bad stuff,go on with your life
3.if you feel really bad at times get a really sad movie/book/song and cry your eyes out, cry all you want, you will be surprised how much better you feel afterwards,its really really healthy, although it sounds like something old women would do!
if you do that maybe once or twice a year you will never develope psychoses(this is something i used to do but havent done in a while,its a really good trick im teaching you here with risk of looking like a wuss
)be strong dude
Stapel
FIAT 850 coupé
Is mammy adding anything material to your life? Does she buy and cook food? Does she provide cloths?
Double Barrel
Deity
Azadre, I am very sorry and sad to hear of your plight. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, which, to be honest, is very tough when living with a parent as addict. You are to be commended for rising above it, because these things can really bring a person down.
I've known my share of crackheads (too many honestly), and that stuff steals the soul. Do not feel any responsibility for her addiction, as it is 100% her decision to start it, as well as stopping it.
There are different routes you can take, and it varies depending on the addict. Many folks will say be compassionate, but this can easily be a waste as addicts can/will take advantage of your compassion. Of course, since this is your mom, I can't blame you at all if you give her unconditional love and support to work through this ordeal.
Another route is "tough love", which is another may/may not work idea (depending on the individual addict). Many times, tough love is the result of failed compassion, because addicts can burn you out and create bitterness within your own though patterns.
Sometimes you just have to walk away, because like the old saying - "you can take a horse to water, but you can't make it drink" - there are times when you can only do so much.
Depending on your relationship with your mom, and her circle of friends / family, you will have to make a very personal decision for what is best for your life. It is a decision that you alone have to bear the burden, but you can seek guidance and understanding from those that have experienced these situations and/or have deeper professional viewpoints of what you might do to solve the problem.
I sincerely hope you can find a way to get your mom into help. And I hope that you do not let this situation bring you down, because you have your whole life in front of you.
Peace be with you, and stay strong!
DB
I've known my share of crackheads (too many honestly), and that stuff steals the soul. Do not feel any responsibility for her addiction, as it is 100% her decision to start it, as well as stopping it.
There are different routes you can take, and it varies depending on the addict. Many folks will say be compassionate, but this can easily be a waste as addicts can/will take advantage of your compassion. Of course, since this is your mom, I can't blame you at all if you give her unconditional love and support to work through this ordeal.
Another route is "tough love", which is another may/may not work idea (depending on the individual addict). Many times, tough love is the result of failed compassion, because addicts can burn you out and create bitterness within your own though patterns.
Sometimes you just have to walk away, because like the old saying - "you can take a horse to water, but you can't make it drink" - there are times when you can only do so much.
Depending on your relationship with your mom, and her circle of friends / family, you will have to make a very personal decision for what is best for your life. It is a decision that you alone have to bear the burden, but you can seek guidance and understanding from those that have experienced these situations and/or have deeper professional viewpoints of what you might do to solve the problem.
I sincerely hope you can find a way to get your mom into help. And I hope that you do not let this situation bring you down, because you have your whole life in front of you.
Peace be with you, and stay strong!
DB
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