I've been playing civ 4 now for a long time, love the game, played civ 1, 2 but missed on 3 for some reason... since I've been married, I tried to get my wife to play the game, about 6 months ago, I finally convinced her... but here is the problem... she loves starting games so much she just cant finish one... once she gets to just before the infantry stage she gives up and starts again... stating..."I just love the exploring stages". can anyone suggest a way to convince her to stay the course and complete a game?
My Wife's Starting Problem
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Jerrymander
Epistemologist
Not really? Isn't the point of playing Civ to have fun? If your wife is having fun, then the mission is successful.
ParadigmShifter
Random Nonsense Generator
Tsk! Women! They have such short attention spans!
Tell her you will buy her a pair of shoes if she finishes a game.
Tell her you will buy her a pair of shoes if she finishes a game.
This ^^^
I remember a thread recently asking if players finish games. I think it was almost 50-50 of people who play to completion versus those who lose interest 2/3 of the way through and want to start over. Your wife isn't even unusual. I wish I could get mine to show that much interest.
I actually prefer starting about 1/3 of the way through, but I think I'm unusual. That's why I like Earth1000 and Rhye's, probably.
jray
King
Do you enjoy the infantry stage and beyond? If so, I think you just hit the jackpot with a personalized Late Start option.
TheWilltoAct
I am observe
The beginning of the game is the best, your wife knows what's up.
Sportyatuncw06
Warlord
6K Man
Bureaucrat
I have the same problem - I lose interest, especially if I am far ahead or falling behind by the early Industrial age.
I agree with Jerrymander in this situation... if she is having fun, don't make her change what she's doing.
I agree with Jerrymander in this situation... if she is having fun, don't make her change what she's doing.
A new pair of shoes? That would work on me, no problem. But my partner? She still couldn't see the point. What sane woman would turn down a new pair of shoes? I get chills just thinking about it.
Ryuujin
Chieftain
My saved games folder is a wasteland of games abandoned between 500BC-1000 AD, for no particular reason other than I wanted to try something else.
Mozzington
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"My saved games folder is a wasteland of games abandoned between 500BC-1000 AD, for no particular reason other than I wanted to try something else. "
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Chieftain
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The first part of the game, *is* the best!
thanks for the advice people, i think buying her a pair of shoes is not the answer... however she has said she wishes she could finish one, esp as I showed her what aircraft carriers could do and I got a "wow I want her"... perhaps we should try the quick match... that would surely solve the problem...
skyline5k
Warlord
I do like the exploration/building stage best. There's been a good number of games that I simply haven't finished. Your wife is fine. Wish I could get my missus into it. But then again, she'd be taking up my valuable gaming time with her valuable gaming time.
Can't have that.
Can't have that.
I'm the exact opposite of your wife. The beginning part of the game is boring for me. I hate the expansion phase. I like the industrial/modern eras when I have everything set up and can really start pumping out culture/military.
I guess thats one really good thing about Civ, it has a little bit of something for everyone, especially with all the mods out there.
I tried to getting my wife to play but it didnt work too well. Her native language is Spanish and she doesnt understand English too well, and by the time I figured out you can change the language to Spanish she had already lost interest. She doesnt really like strategy games tho anyways I dont guess. She's more of a Bejeweled person.
I guess thats one really good thing about Civ, it has a little bit of something for everyone, especially with all the mods out there.
I tried to getting my wife to play but it didnt work too well. Her native language is Spanish and she doesnt understand English too well, and by the time I figured out you can change the language to Spanish she had already lost interest. She doesnt really like strategy games tho anyways I dont guess. She's more of a Bejeweled person.
In all seriousness, shoes aren't the answer. We tend to be less aggressive than men are, but we are usually just as competitive. Why not try a "challenge match?" A hotseat or MP game with a cultural or space win as the goal. Make it fun and good natured. It isn't a contest unless she decides to make it one. If she likes the exploration phase, see if you can get her to learn to explore in other ways. Explore the economic game, the tech tree, some strategy. We love to use our minds. (Well, most of us, anyway.)
Another thing to think about is that the two of you spending time together, and doing something fun together, is more important to her than where to build that next city, or who wins. She gets to share in something that you enjoy, and be a part of it. For most of us, that's what it's all about.
My partner won't play games, but she is teaching me C++ to help with my modding. We both enjoy the learning sessions because we can spend some time together doing something that we're both interested in, and there's often ice cream involved. It's much better than watching the telly, we both get something out of it, and she is a small part of my Civ life despite her protests.
Fleme
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Well said, Dr.Null.
I too enjoy the beginning of the game. In fact, that's the main reason I play Marathon - I get to extend the classical-medieval periods and preferably end games by the time renaissance is at it's peak or perhaps at the early stages of the industrial era. Either way, I'm notorious for deciding that I have the game in the bag as an excuse for me to start a new game. Starting is fun and you're lucky to have a civ-playing wife over one whose only comment is "I can't see what's so interesting about that game that it makes you play it every day."
I too enjoy the beginning of the game. In fact, that's the main reason I play Marathon - I get to extend the classical-medieval periods and preferably end games by the time renaissance is at it's peak or perhaps at the early stages of the industrial era. Either way, I'm notorious for deciding that I have the game in the bag as an excuse for me to start a new game. Starting is fun and you're lucky to have a civ-playing wife over one whose only comment is "I can't see what's so interesting about that game that it makes you play it every day."
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