Ok, this is really weird. I think I need serious help on exactly how this game works.
Apparently, what happened was I met Asoka (India) while pullin' a Magellan 'round the world, and she offered me Astronomy/Education for Printing Press and/or Gunpowder. (I don't remember if it was equal or 2:1 or what...keep in mind this was late in an 18-hour session and the

was getting pretty thick.) Since I'd just learned P.Press and had a monopoly on Gunpowder (at least on my own continent) and hadn't learned the suckitude of Caravels yet

I declined, thinking I could just go back and trade them later.
Instead I made this deal (Asoka = Me):
Silk (1 of 1) = Banana (1 of 3)
Corn (1 of 2) = Ivory (1 of 7)
Wine (1 of 1) = Rice (1 of 9)
Pig (1 of 2) = Spices (1 of 2)
7 gp = Horses
Open Borders
The N3Wb in me thought this kind of trade would butter her up so I could call her up later and get a sweeter tech deal. I didn't care about Ivory/Horses because they're nearly outdated on my continent, and while I didn't have any of hers I didn't really need them that much (except the 7GP since money's tight...in fact that was twice what I'd gotten for a single resource thus far!)
Fast forward to NOW...I can still offer P.Press/Gpwder, but her Edu/Astr is redded out. She's offering NO resources (not even the ones from before!!) and all I can give her is Dyes (3), Marble (2), Wheat (3), Sugar (3), Gold (3). We can also trade World Maps or I can offer a Defensive Pact (but only one-way...hers is redded out.) Oh, and I can also ask her to adopt Pacifism...not sure what that's all about.
I gave her Marble, Dye & Sugar, and even a World Map...she just says thanks and goes away. Next turn, she DEMANDS that I stop trading with Kublai Khan, her mortal enemy! (Everyone seems to hate the Mongols, for some reason!) Now, all I'm getting from Kublai is 1gp/turn which I extorted from him the first time we met. Like I said, everyone seems to hate poor Kublai.

BUT -- Here's the weird part --
I can't cancel the trade!! Every click on it gets me the msg:
"This trade cannot be cancelled at this time." I tried cancelling Asoka's trades too, and get the same message! (And I'm not showing the option to "Stop Trading" in my trade window, either!) WTH?!?!?
Do resources/techs only show up randomly on the trading window? George Washington, for example, I can offer totally different stuff: Marble (2), Stone (2), Dye (3), Ivory (7!!!) plus totally different techs: Guilds, Divine Rite, Paper, Engineering, Optics. He offers me NO techs! (In fact, nobody else has techs for sale anymore!) And I have no trouble cancelling the earlier trades, either.
(Forget what I said about Egypt, apparently I'm getting them both confused because...like I said...

)
As for gifts to India, all I can give her now is GP (up to 72gp/turn...!!!) or a free tech. Is any of this worth trying???