I think it's systemic, as oppose to an exception to the rule.
Trust me, your Iranian, Saudi, Dubai Qatari or even Afghani friend would not be like that. I understand why you perceive it like that, but it's far from what you fear.
Cancer is systemic (if you live a "normal" life you will probably get cancer) but if someone purposefully tries to cause you to have cancer it's worse.
Not my friend but the society.
That's an assumption, if this is a fitting analogy it will be "I don't want to go to the town where they will not tolerate my tendency to speak-out about my disdain and presumption toward them uncheck, I will feel threaten and unwelcome there".
The difference between assimilation and integration is there, you don't need to give up who you are and what you belief in order to get a decent non-hostile treatment. People are generally quite interested and curious about the West, and indeed, we still have post-colonial mentalities intact, I mean stay humble bro you are on a good tide peoples will easily in favor and overlook the antique that you are making just be humble and don't be so full of yourself you'll be charming that way. However, we can inspect pattern of behavior in Western tourism for instance In Bali, despite being welcomed, many Western tourists go full-blown crazy by walking around topless or even storming traditional ceremonies butt-naked, refusing to wear safety measures like helmets during road trips, riding motorcycle on mainstreet with bikini and underwear and refusing to stay silent during the Nyepi Festival in Bali, a day when it's forbidden for anyone to be noisy or use loud electronics outside. I'm not Balinese, but when I was there and understood their customs, I too stayed silent. But some visitors just don't get it because that's not how they conduct themselves in the West. This makes me wonder if they also walk around topless in the West. Many people, as well as the Indonesian government, mostly blame the Russians for these actions, while the person who stormed the festival was a German, and the one who refused to stay silent during Nyepi, as far as I know, was Italian, but ofc Russian is easier target.
Atheism does not necessarily equal disdain for religion let alone religious people.
When studied atheists know religion better than your average religious person.
In US socio-political discourse, you may hear the terms "melting pot" and "salad bowl." The assimilationist position is the melting pot, where the myriad ingredients blend together and become indistinguishable from one another. The integrationist model is the salad bowl, where the ingredients retain their individual form and flavor, but work together toward the whole.
Tourists are usually self-entitled and self-absorbed twits, wherever they're from*, but I have to admit that I gained a whole new appreciation for the stereotypes about American tourists when I traveled to other countries and saw them in the flesh, with my own eyes.
Visitors behaving badly was how America came to be.
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This is an endless loop of a conversation, bro. I mean, we can even easily mention how atheists purge theists in the name of progress, like for instance, in China, Cambodia, Russia, etc. In this conversation, aside from being theists and atheists, we are pretty good online acquaintances. I always maintain respect in our conversation, trying not to belittle others or be overly deterministic about my stance. However, it seems this conversation is nuanced, with the "higher ground" atheist interrogating the theist. Questions like, "What do you think about your people killing apostates, huh?" or statements like, "I think you guys are too savage; I could get killed due to a disagreement. Of course, there are good people among you, just like there are good people among criminals." Hence, we can't maintain a healthy conversation about theological discussions like God's existence without getting derailed into this interrogation mode-on. As I expected, this thread has become an arena where low theists are getting stoned and ridiculed.
