actually, barbarians are not that hard to handle, I find them annoying more then anything else. In last game everyone expanded so quickly that they didn't make any difference. Some people see them as obstacle I see them as new city without settler. We could turn them off in new game however.
As for financial.
I like Incas for their excellent UU, so even if we do have barbs, we could own them easily. Munsa is very versatile with his spiritual trait. Also has solid UU, in case we have no bronze (and choose to play with barbs).
So it’s not that I really want financial because of the trait itself, although when playing immortal, it is a huge bonus. I don't see why you hate that trait.
As for map, i'd really like to play Inland_sea, i think it's cool map, but i know you hate it, so whatever we decide is ok.
What do you suggest for civ and map?