Zardnaar
Deity
It's part of the reason why i can't really be bothered with the attempts in this thread to "logically' or "objectively" defend transphobia in this thread.
It's punching down on an already marginalised group in society and i genuinely believe that they (cispeople, white males, the "norm", but not all) feel threatened by any attempt to equalize the playing field in terms of language, norms and behaviour. They think (even if they won't come out and say it) that treating transpeople with a basic level of dignity and humanity comes at their expense and is a threat to them, hell this applies to ALL minorities and even women, when it comes to treating them as equals or being respectful. It's why there is such a big pushback, such a defensiveness on their part, such an eagerness to be petty over matters that barely impact upon them, why they have this victim mentality and feel they are "losing the culture war".
The reality isn't that they are losing power, but that society is slowly unstacking the priviledges and social power they assumed were always there's and it's going to continue to equalize and they're just going to have to deal with that.
I have had a look at some trans forums and the topic was something like "Is it transphobic to refuse to date trans people".
Some people claimed that it is even pre op. To paraphrase they called hetero men who would not date trans with penis transphobic.
Some were claiming that post op it was still transphobic. AFAIK sex won't be the same and I don't want kids as such but I want that option. My wife doesn't want kids, if she did I would probably go along with it. And adoption here is functionally impossible.
I would be interested in your opinion on this. The way I look at things is people are wired the way they're wired if they're not pan sexual it's just the way it is.