Of course cracker is right about making generalizations.
We rarely seem to talk about the games after we have all finished so I just thought I would comment on why my position was developed the way it was (since it was posted). I built my cities to cover that eastern portion of the Island so that I would not have to worry about barbs and make it so that any attack would have to be an invasion by water from that side, this freed my defensives to focus on the frontiers. Although sparing with barbs can really add to your experience and cash flow as cracker has demonstrated, I prefer secure my positions and limit the avenues of counter attack.
I think that if you use a builders approach, that at higher difficulties having more, smaller cites factor into the equation on how to combat lower levels of general happiness (lower difficulties do not force the issue). I think that using your commerce to support temples in your core cites is a fair trade off for larger city size (and increased city corona) but personally, I use the luxury slider to assist along with settler or worker production to spread out my borders with city creation until I meet up with another civ. That is the point that I can then switch production to more military adventures. The reason that I take that approach is that even when going for a domination you need to settle large amounts of land, so settle uncontested areas first, then fight wars to grab more land.
Building wonders is also very dependant on the individual's goals. IIRC, my first wonder was produced in my forth city, that was the Lighthouse and that was based on of the map type. Pyramids are usually one of my favorite Wonders to build but the map type and the Island I was on seemed to steer me away from that course. These Wonder producing cities are the ones that I build temples in cause they will grow over time.
If a player is going for conquest, they can figure that a fair amount of their growth will be from capturing cities so early military production is a very easy decision. Produce as much military as the civ can support before considering the finer things in life.
CB
PS: Serg I'm pretty sure from the posts in GOTM9 that you would have finished up in the 1300's, probably with a conquest.

Would have got the medal!