"Dates"

[Markus6]

Dates are just one of the many things men happily endure in order to woo women.

If it involves eating I won't endure it, I'll enjoy it. Anyway, it's the girl who has to woo me not the other way round.

 

[Bozo Erectus]

If it involves eating I won't endure it, I'll enjoy it.

On your wedding day, Im sure your fiance will see to it that theres an 'All you can eat' buffet at the altar.

Anyway, it's the girl who has to woo me not the other way round.

Sounds like all she'd need to do is toss a vienna sausage your way every few minutes

 

[truckingpete]

I wonder why there is an upsurge of "dating advice" threads. Its not a good idea to ask for dating/relationship advice in a gaming forum where almost most of the posters dont have GFs .

We are all friends we get too see what to do and not what to do, mostly not what to do part

I've never been on a date yet...but what I think is a date is being with the person that you like, who cares you dont spend money, it's just nice to be with the person. But...money does help

We talked bout this in English class (don't ask...we do more talking in English bout everything and anything then English! oh well, less homework )

 

[Markus6]

Sounds like all she'd need to do is toss a vienna sausage your way every few minutes

Nah, just organise the crane to take me in and out of the restaurant. I swear double doors are getting smaller these days...

But honestly, girls can try and make dates seem like an interview. Stop them doing that at all costs. Confidence is key, remember they have to impress you as well and you won't go far wrong.

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Yeah but most men are pretty damn easy to impress

 

[Markus6]

Yeah but most men are pretty damn easy to impress

Girls don't want guys who are easy to impress. They want to think that you're looking for more than just nice boobs. That's why I have such an advantage with women because I'm hard to impress.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

...Can't it be both?

If you are bisexual, it can be both, yes.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Dates are ludicrous to me. I've never seen such a thing in France and allways thought it was pretty odd when I spent time in the US back when I was a teenager (I'm currently 26).
It's procedural (dinner-movie-lake-kiss-byebye) when the relationship should be spontaneous.

I'm glad you said this, because I have been thinking it for the last several years. I never understood why a 19th century Victorian custom is still preserved in the 21st century. I'm very happy that Europeans have not only realized this, but put the practice into action. It tells you something of the mindset of Americans that this practice continues completely uncritically.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

I'm glad you said this, because I have been thinking it for the last several years. I never understood why a 19th century Victorian custom is still preserved in the 21st century. I'm very happy that Europeans have not only realized this, but put the practice into action. It tells you something of the mindset of Americans that this practice continues completely uncritically.

So you are saying something is somehow inherently wrong with dating? I don't see how; it is a good way to tell if a friend has the potential to be something more.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

So you are saying something is somehow inherently wrong with dating? I don't see how; it is a good way to tell if a friend has the potential to be something more.

No, it isn't. If a friend has the potential to be more than a friend, you will know without the benefit of a date. And if you don't know, a date will not help you in the least. How is a couple of hours of time together going to be any more informative than months or years of friendship?

It's also ritualizing a practice that should be spontaneous. I don't need the equivalent of a several-hour-long job interview to know if I like someone, and neither should anyone else.

In the last few months before I met my wife, I started realizing how stupid dating was, and this went a long way to improving my outlook. I realized that dating is meaningless. You could take your date mudwrestling with pigs, and if she liked you before the date, she'll still like you after, and think it's funny that you took her mudwrestling. On the other hand, if you took your date to the finest restaurant, and finest theater, and she didn't like you much before the date, she'll still not like you afterwards and conclude that you're overcompensating by taking her out to extravagant places. Once I realized how silly the whole thing was, my confidence shot up enormously. I then met my wife and the rest is history.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

I still don't see the problem with dates. The way I see it, it gives you a chance to interact one-on-one instead of a group, which will change the way you act towards each other. And anyways, a first date should never be elaborate or formalized; I am beginning to wonder what everyone else does on dates to make it so non-spontaneous.

 

[Markus6]

No, it isn't. If a friend has the potential to be more than a friend, you will know without the benefit of a date. And if you don't know, a date will not help you in the least. How is a couple of hours of time together going to be any more informative than months or years of friendship?

I met a horrendously cute girl a couple of weeks ago. I hardly ever see her and we'd only had a couple of conversations. So I asked her for her phone number then took her out for dinner. How would I have got to know her otherwise?

 

[Truronian]

I met a horrendously cute girl a couple of weeks ago. I hardly ever see her and we'd only had a couple of conversations. So I asked her for her phone number then took her out for dinner. How would I have got to know her otherwise?

A pair of binoculers?

 

[Pyrite]

"Do I live on another planet or something? How do you all meet new people? Do you not meet people randomly that you think are hot?
I guess living in a city is different.

Dating doesn't require a cost. Maybe a better word is a "meet up". Women here understand the program that there's either a connection or there's not. If there is then things can move to another level."

....I duno, I'll go to a punk show, dance and talk with people, or go to a party..I guess that and anarchist activities/mutual friends is how i meet new people. I do live in a city. Alphabet city manhattan. Meet ups is all I do, this thread I guess was more about actual formal dates.

 

[shortguy]

I wonder why there is an upsurge of "dating advice" threads . Its not a good idea to ask for dating/relationship advice in a gaming forum where almost most of the posters dont have GFs .

1. You're exaggerating. Plenty of people here are in relationships/are married; certainly, there are enough to give advice. I swear, why does someone trot this out every time?

2. Why the surge? Summer, probably. People have more free time, and they're looking for adventure.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

I met a horrendously cute girl a couple of weeks ago. I hardly ever see her and we'd only had a couple of conversations. So I asked her for her phone number then took her out for dinner. How would I have got to know her otherwise?

Any way you want.

 

[Mathilda]

So what exactly is a definition of a date?

 

[general_kill]

Dates are too commercialized and unrealistic. I think your (topic creator's) way is the best. Just chill with who ever you like and follow the flow. It doesn't take $100 to start a relationship.

 

[RameNoodle]

Eh, do you really want to bother? I mean, you're only just removed from high school, right? High school girls are the worst. Dates mean nothing to them, only what you buy them. Boy, I'm glad I'm not planning on getting "in" to the dating scene at my school. All a bunch of rich, selfish, catty girls, who happen to hate each other. Welcome to high school, I guess.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Eh, do you really want to bother? I mean, you're only just removed from high school, right? High school girls are the worst. Dates mean nothing to them, only what you buy them. Boy, I'm glad I'm not planning on getting "in" to the dating scene at my school. All a bunch of rich, selfish, catty girls, who happen to hate each other. Welcome to high school, I guess.

I got news for you, it's not just in high school.