"Dates"

[Raisin Bran]

I acted somewhat indifferent when I dated.
I also acted like the funny-dumb guy.

Both of these worked miracles! I actually took my actual GF to a hot-dog and poutine restaurant on our first date. (Restaurant lafleur)

Dosen't work for anybody ... you need a good dosage of dums vs funny. Be Indifferent but not when the play opens-up!

Have a good date!

 

[punkbass2000]

I would say I've been on "real dates", but never at the "getting-to-know-you" stage of a relationship. Honestly, I can't really imagine asking someone I didn't really know to dinner or some such. All my relationships have sort of evolved naturally with girls I know reasonably well already.

 

[Pyrite]

"I would say I've been on "real dates", but never at the "getting-to-know-you" stage of a relationship. Honestly, I can't really imagine asking someone I didn't really know to dinner or some such. All my relationships have sort of evolved naturally with girls I know reasonably well already."

I hear ya man, what would we talk about anyway, the formula seems to be on dates like "HEY I LIKE THIS" "OMG ME TOO" *SUBCONCSIOUS HOPING FOR KISSINGS.

Nothin here has changed my mind on it.

No thanks. Let's go to a punk rock show and get bloody noses. cool!

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Hello. I'm nearly 19, and I've never been on an actual "date"! Ever! This isn't to say that I've never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend) or anything like that sort, it's just I've never done the whole, movie and dinner crap. So give me your experiences on "dates"! I want to hear what they're like!

Hold on a minute! What do you mean "or boyfriend"? Which is it?

 

[Pyrite]

...Can't it be both?

 

[Shylock]

I had one last week. My first one with this girl. We went to a coffeeshop and talked for an hour. It was the fastest hour ever. Though I do hope my piece on caffiene pharmachology didn't scare her off.

I'm going to ask her to go to a different coffee shop and hear this one girl from my school play her guitar.

 

[BCLG100]

Dates don't have to cost money. Try taking a girl to an battery farm, or a military firing range. Think of it as a challenge.

In all seriousness though, I've found (in my limited experience) that girls tend to prefer the unique dates (eg walking to St. Ives along the rocks) to the standard spend and sit dates (cinema, restuarant, pub etc).

or speak to the branch manager of your local bank and ask for a tour(cant remember what thats from)

been on a couple of dates, both to the cinema.

 

[Ramius75]

Dont u worry, im 31 and never had a Girlfriend too. -_-"

 

[steviejay]

Go to the movies, lift up the armrest, and the rest will be history

aye, she'll break your nose

I rather enjoy dates (who doesn't) the best thing you can do is talk. Cinema's are rather bad for first dates because you rarely get to talk and talking is essential on a first date, if you's don't talk, chances are you won't get a second date.

Even going for a walk or something may be a good thing but a meal or something is your best bet (and when I say meal I mean a meal, not a situation where the waiter asks if you wish to go "super size")

 

[GenMarshall]

I wonder why there is an upsurge of "dating advice" threads . Its not a good idea to ask for dating/relationship advice in a gaming forum where almost most of the posters dont have GFs .

 

[BCLG100]

I wonder why there is an upsurge of "dating advice" threads . Its not a good idea to ask for dating/relationship advice in a gaming forum where almost most of the posters dont have GFs .

many will have though and many will be married, many have dating experience just because youpost on a forum about a computer game doesnt mean your completly incabable over dating advice. I just split with my girlfriend but that doesnt mean what i say isnt nneccasirly good advice.

 

[MamboJoel]

Dates are ludicrous to me. I've never seen such a thing in France and allways thought it was pretty odd when I spent time in the US back when I was a teenager (I'm currently 26).
It's procedural (dinner-movie-lake-kiss-byebye) when the relationship should be spontaneous.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Would you guys like a few words from a female perspective?

I haven't had many dates in my life, and I'm over 40. I'm not married, have no current boyfriend, no children, and despite my mother's despair that I've become a spinster, I don't worry about finding "Mr. Right" and settling down.

The whole flowers-dinner-movie formula is just that: a formula. To be sure, many women like this, but the more interesting ones (ie. those more likely to be compatible with gamers) will enjoy other sorts of dates.

My favorite times with my ex was quiet walks along the hiking trails in my city, watching meteor showers, and just sitting at his place or mine either watching a movie or playing Scrabble or Canasta (or some other boardgame). We went to theatres a couple of times; the last time was when "Toy Story 2" was first released! When mutual friends started pressuring us to "officially become a couple", we had a frank and serious discussion about it. Our conclusion was that we'd rather remain friends than go the physical route and risk a falling-out.

That decision is one of the smartest ones either of us has ever made. We're not together anymore, but the parting wasn't nasty or angry. We still think well of each other, and hope for the best for the other. If he finds someone to marry, I'll be happy for him.

I guess my advice is to take the time to TALK to the woman, find out what she's interested in, and try to incorporate that into your date (at least a little). Ask her questions, if you don't understand something. She won't think you're stupid; she'll be more impressed that you're willing to admit you don't know something and want to learn.

Conversely, be willing to explain about your hobbies, but only to the extent that she asks. Talking about the latest CIV mod won't get you brownie points if she's never played CIV and has no idea what it's about.


Be polite to her family and friends. How you treat other people -- especially when she's not there to witness -- makes a big difference (because people do compare notes, and word gets around).

Above all, understand that "No" means NO. Period. You have to respect that, because not doing so will either lose you your date, land you in jail, or both.

Hope some of this has been useful.

 

[Darkness]

Then again, I'm practically married. But I don't act like it. I act like I'm single.

I'm sure your wife (to be?) likes that a lot...

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Dates are just one of the many things men happily endure in order to woo women. Going out on dates is important to women because a) they get to dress up b) they are seen being squired about town by a suitable man c) for women, the amount of money a guy is willing to spend on a date is an indication of his seriousness as a potential candidate for marriage. Im generalizing here, I know there are some women who dont feel that way, and that there are guys who love formal dates.

Valka gives us a perfect example of the social aspect to dating, it has very little to do with the couples relationship, and more to do with their circle of friends and the community at large. Here were two friends who enjoyed being together, but then it was ruined by outside influences who tried to force them into an artificial social mold in order to please all of them. It was like their community of friends made a ruling that either they must conform, or stop being friends. Its kinda sad. I would have flipped them all the bird and farted in their general direction.

 

[IglooDame]

you guys spend wayyyy tooo much time worrying about dates.

Just go out, have fun. If a girl keeps sticking around, woohoo!

Otherwise, go have more fun

Then again, I'm practically married. But I don't act like it. I act like I'm single.

Reminds me of a line from the late great Mitch Hedberg:

"I don't have a girlfriend, I just know a girl that would be really upset if she heard me say that."

 

[Sidhe]

Its kinda sad. I would have flipped them all the bird and farted in their general direction.

Only works if your French and doing it to silly English Knigggats and your in a castle.

My friends are so liberal, short of going out with a male dwarf in drag they wouldn't bat an eyelid at anything I did, or care to make me conform. I'm serious.

Shame some people are small minded

Sublime one liner Igloo

 

[bathsheba666]

If you walk from Truro to St Ives on a date then you must be desperate!

Do you know how many coves there are between the two places?

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Only works if your French and doing it to silly English Knigggats and your in a castle.

Im more of a freestyle omni-directional farter.

My friends are so liberal, short of going out with a male dwarf in drag they wouldn't bat an eyelid at anything I did, or care to make me conform. I'm serious.

Theyd bat an eyelid if you went out with a cross dressing male dwarf? Theyre so intolerant! J/k, those are the best sort of friends to have. Ive found that people who want you to change in order to make them happy, really arent your friends.

 

[Whomp]

Do I live on another planet or something? How do you all meet new people? Do you not meet people randomly that you think are hot?
I guess living in a city is different.

Dating doesn't require a cost. Maybe a better word is a "meet up". Women here understand the program that there's either a connection or there's not. If there is then things can move to another level.