"Dates"

[RameNoodle]

Wait, I'm gonna ask a mod to move this thread. To the All Other Games forum. Because that's all dates really are, right? Games?

 

[King Flevance]

Hey man, everyone is different. Some dudes look for love and long term, and some dudes, Wilt Chamberlain being an excellent example, just want lots and lots of sex.

OK if the latter is the intention of the date, here is my advice: Don't spend the money on some chick that will probably expect more out of the relationship and cause yourself headaches concerning her emotions and other bad effects this will play on your life as a result. (Drama)

Use the money, go to Las Vegas, and pay for sex. It's what your doing anyways - only you get to pick the woman, they will be more experienced with the bone, and once your done nothing comes of it. Everyone is happy.

 

[Cheezy the Wiz]

that's all dates really are, right? Games?

the most dangerous kind

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Unless you are me . . .

You're just special.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

This whole statement is based on if your judging the woman because she won't put out. If a girl puts out on date 3 or less you had better go to the doctor and check for STDs. (a) Is being superficial. (b) I don't see why this is considered a problem. (c) you may not have been trying to go there and thus not applying pressure intentionally.

I don't know what planet you live on, but in my experience, if a girl doesn't put out after 3 dates (approximately), she isn't ever. And it has nothing to do with promiscuousness. It's simply a fact that people make up their impressions very early after meeting someone. 3 dates usually ends up being somewhere between 2 - 4 weeks after meeting someone, which is more than enough time for nearly anyone to come to an impression. I'm not saying it's an accurate impression, but that's how human beings behave.

I mean seriously, there is an amount of p*ssy you can get before you start wanting a little more depth in relationships. As Fred Durst puts it, "No need to knock another homerun out."

This is what women will claim, but the fact is that once the "right man" comes along, they are quick to renounce all their "ground rules."

 

[King Flevance]

I don't know what planet you live on, but in my experience, if a girl doesn't put out after 3 dates (approximately), she isn't ever. And it has nothing to do with promiscuousness. It's simply a fact that people make up their impressions very early after meeting someone. 3 dates usually ends up being somewhere between 2 - 4 weeks after meeting someone, which is more than enough time for nearly anyone to come to an impression. I'm not saying it's an accurate impression, but that's how human beings behave.

Well just look at our locations. I live in the midwest compared to the faster lifepaces on the coasts maybe. 3 dates isn't that much time. I have held out for months - otherwise the relationship can easily become basd on sex so it will rarely make it past a couple months if that happens. Because human nature will tire of a partner if it is just basd on sex as the same sex partner does get old.

I don't deny this goes on. I have participatd myself. But I have come to realize that this is why people tend to have relationship problems down the line. It may sound cliche but waiting is the better investment IMO.

This is what women will claim, but the fact is that once the "right man" comes along, they are quick to renounce all their "ground rules."

That's no lie. Maybe even an understatement.

 

[Pyrite]

"I don't know what planet you live on, but in my experience, if a girl doesn't put out after 3 dates (approximately), she isn't ever"

I duno, I've gone to shows with people that were pseudo dates and there was kissing and drinking and hanging out in the park, but people don't always end up going home after such things, so it doesn't exactly seem accurate. These relationships may not have had sex so quickly (3 weeks) but sooner or later they did.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Well just look at our locations. I live in the midwest compared to the faster lifepaces on the coasts maybe. 3 dates isn't that much time. I have held out for months - otherwise the relationship can easily become basd on sex so it will rarely make it past a couple months if that happens. Because human nature will tire of a partner if it is just basd on sex as the same sex partner does get old.

I've lived and visited all over the country. I haven't noticed much difference in dating behavior, except for the fact that people try harder to look more "innocent" in some parts of the country as opposed to others. In fact, I lived in Kansas City, MO for a few months in 1998, and went out and didn't notice much difference.

Btw, I understand life is slower in the midwest but, what is up with Kansas City? Half the city is abandoned while the other is a slum!

I don't deny this goes on. I have participatd myself. But I have come to realize that this is why people tend to have relationship problems down the line. It may sound cliche but waiting is the better investment IMO.

I don't believe that. I think it's the other way around. If you're only interested in sex, that's all you'll get, but if a couple is genuinely in love, they won't be disturbed if it takes longer to get there. I don't think it's an active process where people deliberately avoid each other when they're in love.

 

[shadow2k]

Btw, I understand life is slower in the midwest but, what is up with Kansas City? Half the city is abandoned while the other is a slum!.

People like me say they live in KC, but really live in the suburbs in KS. We're still close to things like international airports, casinos, and sports stadiums to get the benefits without having to actually deal with the drawbacks.

As far as dating goes though, I think some of you are just making dates out to only be the stereotypical dinner and a movie. While those types of dates may not be as useful as they once were, they still have their places.

I really wonder how some of you meet women you don't know? Do you just not approach strange women at all? If I see a woman I'm interested in, I'll go up and talk to her, and what normally will follow is either a rejection, or a date. It doesn't have to be dinner and a movie by any means, or even involve spending much money. Maybe it's taking her dog to the park one afternoon, or whatever. But you still need to get together with her to get to know her, and to me, that's a date. Not all dates are "formal".

 

[King Flevance]

I don't believe that. I think it's the other way around. If you're only interested in sex, that's all you'll get, but if a couple is genuinely in love, they won't be disturbed if it takes longer to get there. I don't think it's an active process where people deliberately avoid each other when they're in love.

Actually, that's what my statement your referring to states. Unless, I am reading you wrong for the 4th time in row.

Btw, I understand life is slower in the midwest but, what is up with Kansas City? Half the city is abandoned while the other is a slum!

I take it you were in the heart of it with the old ass buildings. I hate that part of town. I live in a South KC suburb I guess. Decent neighborhood, mostly residential, low commercial zones. Technically, I live in Raytown, MO. But if I drive down a few blocks (maybe 3 min drive) and I am technically in KC, MO. Raytown is a spot in KC that isn't technically KC itself. Like Independence, Olathe, Riverside, Belton, etc.

I really wonder how some of you meet women you don't know? Do you just not approach strange women at all? If I see a woman I'm interested in, I'll go up and talk to her, and what normally will follow is either a rejection, or a date. It doesn't have to be dinner and a movie by any means, or even involve spending much money. Maybe it's taking her dog to the park one afternoon, or whatever. But you still need to get together with her to get to know her, and to me, that's a date. Not all dates are "formal".

What I am curious to know is after you take her dog to the park 3 times if you go have sex somewhere.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

You're just special.

[Ralph Wiggum]I'm special![/Ralph Wiggum]

Seriously, though, the number of people who actually date without the expectation of sex may be higher than you think. Among practicing members of my religion, it is the majority.

 

[warpus]

What I am curious to know is after you take her dog to the park 3 times if you go have sex somewhere.

What I want to know is whether the dog gets to watch or not.

 

[ew0054]

They could make a game Civilization: Dating wher eyou build your empire based on how many girls you can get! Oh never mind, that's probably The Sims

 

[ew0054]

Actually, I am 21 and have never dated a girl either. I haven't had a girlfriend. I am single and loving it, but I have to say, I could imagine a date would be going to Wendy's with my mom and picking the girl up on the way. One, because I'm cheap, and two, because I'm a proud momma's boy!