Spoiler : It doesn't seem to matter though. For example, On turn 321 China came to me to complain about my influence with Hong Kong. She was the only thing close to an ally that I had, so I apologized and left the CS alone. on turn 455 she still held it against me, even though I hadn't even spoken to Hong Kong for a good 600 some years. She was at neutral for some reason even though our relationship looked like this: They happily adopted your religion in the majority of your cities. You have traded recently You have no contested borders They like your world congress proposition You both adopted freedom as your ideology You are competing for favor with the same city states! Neutral. That doesn't even make any sense. It was like the game wasn't letting her get to friendly because it didn't want me to have a single ally.