How sociable are you?

[Kyriakos]

Just a poll about how social the cfc members are.

Personally i am not exactly anti-social, but used to be a-social. I now have a circle of people i talk to regularly, mostly trying to center it on my literature, such as editors, booksellers, and people who frequent in bookstores. But i am moving slowly, cause i tend to over-analyze everything, and for better or worse the equation which calculates one's social position has millions of variables and therefore is rendered useless.

The options are a scale of 0-10, with 0 being anti-social, and 10 being pronouncedly sociable.

Poll will be up to meet its friends soon...

btw:i voted "3", although this is more of a possibility and not a reality. I have no social anxiety, but usually am indifferent to most social circumstances.

 

[Synobun]

I don't care for social interaction and avoid it if it is possible. I used to be pretty social, but life's circumstances has altered that. I voted a 0.

 

[civver_764]

I'd say 6 or 7. I'm not really outgoing at all(as in I wouldn't just go up to a stranger and start a conversation, I don't really have conversations with check-out clerks, waiters, etc.), there has to be some sort of motivation for me to try and get to know someone(ie. hot chick, someone who I think has a cool group of friends). My problem is that I've developed this mindset where most of the things I say in conversations seem pointless to me. When I ask someone "how was your day" or "what did you do over the weekend" I honestly couldn't care less. There's a distinct lack of sincerity I have with most people. However I recognize the social value in having friends so I do it anyways.

So yeah I have no real social anxiety, with males or females, but I find it a waste of time to go out of my way to be particularly popular. I'm happy where I am.

 

[Cheetah]

8, I suppose.

By nature I'm not really sociable. More shy and introverted really. But I've finally realised that I don't want to be that way, and that there are so many things I miss out on.

So for the last couple of years I've put a lot of effort into being more sociable. I'm not as good as I'd like to be yet, but I'm always getting better.

 

[Supr49er]

I'm pretty social, especially this time of year.

 

[Crezth]

8, I suppose.

By nature I'm not really sociable. More shy and introverted really. But I've finally realised that I don't want to be that way, and that there are so many things I miss out on.

So for the last couple of years I've put a lot of effort into being more sociable. I'm not as good as I'd like to be yet, but I'm always getting better.

You know, there's nothing wrong with beng an introvert. If you shy away from social interactions it's not because you're broken, it's because you have a neurological preference for that.

It always breaks my heart to see introverts kicking themselves about being awkward or anti-social. I wish I could just shake them and say "you're okay! you can't help it!" but there's such a strong cultural bias in favor of extroverts that it can be hard to go against that.

I see you are from Norway, however, so I'm not sure how much that applies. Being an introvert is nothing to be ashamed of, however.

 

[civver_764]

What I'm more concerned about is the association of "introvert" and "socially awkward."

 

[Chukchi Husky]

I don't know. I don't have any social skills at all, I even have problems communicating on the internet, but I haven't done anything destructive.

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

I'll interact if I'm talked to, but I will not initiate it by myself.

 

[GenMarshall]

A Zero. I'd like to be sociable, but years of being bullied and put down by my peers has conditioned me to stay in my shell.

 

[Hygro]

I have no idea. Given the scale defined by "pronouncedly social" as a 10, then a 10. But I can think of a lot of people more social than I am, either as measured by being even more outgoing or by attracting even more social opportunity. I have a couple blind spots and I still get a bit shy or nervous. But those things don't really hold back being "pronouncedly/really social" (depending on post or poll).

 

[Crezth]

What I'm more concerned about is the association of "introvert" and "socially awkward."

Yeah, in truth these two are not necessarily linked, but introverts are often seen as socially awkward because they prefer to be by themselves, or with a small group of people, or just one person (this as opposed to being at a large gathering, or speaking publicly, or going to well-populated parties).

 

[Kyriakos]

My own introversion is utterly consciously driven by thoughts (which i am led to believe is not the same for all introverts; some may be prone to be closed to themselves without actually knowing why for example). I usually reason that i cannot ever know truly any other person, for i do not know their inner world. I only get to see how they react, and at best, if we discuss at length, how they define in their own words how they feel. But this does not break the barrier of thoughts i have, for i am very much involved in examining my own mental life, and usually feel bad if i think the other person has less of a mental life to start with.

That said, i have been more introverted in the past, and also had social anxiety too. Now i am theoretically able to be averagely sociable, but still do not feel much of a wish to...

 

[GenMarshall]

Yeah, in truth these two are not necessarily linked, but introverts are often seen as socially awkward because they prefer to be by themselves, or with a small group of people, or just one person (this as opposed to being at a large gathering, or speaking publicly, or going to well-populated parties).

It's because of the stigma that loners are weird .

 

[Joecoolyo]

I'd say 6 or 7. I'm not really outgoing at all(as in I wouldn't just go up to a stranger and start a conversation, I don't really have conversations with check-out clerks, waiters, etc.), there has to be some sort of motivation for me to try and get to know someone(ie. hot chick, someone who I think has a cool group of friends). My problem is that I've developed this mindset where most of the things I say in conversations seem pointless to me. When I ask someone "how was your day" or "what did you do over the weekend" I honestly couldn't care less. There's a distinct lack of sincerity I have with most people. However I recognize the social value in having friends so I do it anyways.

So yeah I have no real social anxiety, with males or females, but I find it a waste of time to go out of my way to be particularly popular. I'm happy where I am.

I'll interact if I'm talked to, but I will not initiate it by myself.

I'm basically some sort of mish-mash of these. I don't usually start conversations with people (unless they're my friends), but if talked to I can carry one usually pretty well. I do show a bit of sincerity in what people say, so that's where I differ a bit with civver, but other than that, it's pretty spot on.

 

[civver_764]

Honestly CivG, even if everything you say is true there's still reason to be optimistic. When you've got no social life then you've got nothing to lose by putting yourself out there. If that's what you really want of course, if not then it's simply a matter of being at peace with yourself, which is all that really matters in the end.

 

[Crezth]

It's because of the stigma that loners are weird .

Some of my closest friends are loners and I wouldn't have them any other way. ^^ You define your own success; letting society define success for you is inviting disappointment. That is to say, there's no reason you should tell yourself to be "more social" if that lifestyle disagrees with you on a fundamental, spiritual level.

 

[Sveon]

7, and a beautiful number it is.

 

[ParadigmShifter]

I do binary sociability, so either 0 or 10.

 

[Sveon]

you missed 1