Is being gay a choice?

[Xanikk999]

Give your reasons and why.

I dont think its a choice to be sexually attracted to the same sex like some people here think, i dont know how to control who sexually attracts me, but luckily they are all women.

So in conclusion i beileve being gay is not a choice.

Im talking about GAY attraction NOT sex!

 

[Mirc]

I think it's partially a choice.

 

[IglooDame]

Depends on if "being gay" is defined as "being attracted to the same gender" or as "copulating with members of the same gender".

I define it as the former, and believe that it isn't a choice.

 

[El_Machinae]

It's more like choosing your handedness than anything else.

 

[skadistic]

Gay love = not a choice
Gay sex = choice

The two are not mutualy exclusive.

 

[Xanikk999]

Gay love = not a choice
Gay sex = choice

The two are not mutualy exclusive.

Well straight sex is as much of a choice is gay sex.

So lets stick with the former, being attracted to the same sex.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Being attracted to a gender is not a choice.

Having sex with them is.

 

[Xanikk999]

Being attracted to a gender is not a choice.

Having sex with them is.

So is having straight sex, so this is irrelevent.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

No, it's not irrelevant. Having straight sex is a choice, I don't deny it - you will notice that my last post didn't mention orientation. In fact, it's not just sex - I choose to notice women, to seek them out and so forth. I just didn't choose to be attracted to them.

 

[GenMarshall]

To narrow of a question for me because its not taking into account Bisexuals who do have a choice. As well as the following factors that were brought up in this thread.

1. Homosexual attractions is not a choice
2. Homosexual sex is a choice

 

[Xanikk999]

No, it's not irrelevant. Having straight sex is a choice, I don't deny it - you will notice that my last post didn't mention orientation. In fact, it's not just sex - I choose to notice women, to seek them out and so forth. I just didn't choose to be attracted to them.

Well for the sake of this thread lets stick with attraction.

Because i know there are people who will even think gay attraction is a choice, and id like to hear why.

 

[Swedishguy]

Where is the ''Both'' option?

 

[Perfection]

Yeah, I chose to be gay last tuesday and will remain so until next friday.

So far, I have to say it's pretty fun!

 

[Masquerouge]

Being gay is not a choice. Living up to your sexual orientation is.

Furthermore gay and straight are not polar opposites. They're just the ends of a scale, and all of us range differently on that scale.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

"Being gay" is more than attraction though.

In fact, it may be implicitly. If, hypothetically, one were offered a pill that would change who they were attracted to, or so they weren't attracted to anyone, but refused it to keep their current orientation, they would be choosing it. I mean, I didn't ever make a conscious choice to be attracted to women but would continue to do so even if given other opportunities (after all, that makes the potential mate pool that much larger). Hypothetical though.

They're just the ends of a scale, and all of us range differently on that scale.

I would go so far as to say they are actually different scales entirely.

 

[IglooDame]

Well for the sake of this thread lets stick with attraction.

Because i know there are people who will even think gay attraction is a choice, and id like to hear why.

Because they're masochists?



Oh wait, they might be choosing to be masochistic, too.

 

[GenMarshall]

Because i know there are people who will even think gay attraction is a choice, and id like to hear why.

Because a person who does not understand will see it as a choice because the person who does not understand or knows about it will see heterosexuality as a normal sexual orientation while in contrast see homosexuality as an abnormal sexual orientation and would see it as a choice to deviate from the norm.

 

[MobBoss]

It's more like choosing your handedness than anything else.

I could choose to be left handed if I wished and in fact have trained myself to do many things with either hand, like shooting for instance. I can shoot equally well left or right handed.

As for me, I think it is a choice for many, and many are trapped into thinking that they dont have any choice at all when they do. I do think that some people have a proclivity or lean in that direction, but by no means are they utterly trapped by that.

 

[Mirc]

I think it's partially a choice. You don't choose to not be attracted to women, but you choose to encourage attraction to men, having sex with them or convincing others they are gay. Some people like drinking urine. Both those and gays are not perfectly normal, nobody can deny that*, and their habits are not healthy either.
Their lifestyle is not something I'm fond of (especially the accented promiscuity, which, as the rest of the lifestyle of someone, IS a choice).

*unless you don't define normal as "like the majority".

That's what I meant in post #2 by "partially a choice".

 

[skadistic]

Yeah, I chose to be gay last tuesday and will remain so until next friday.

So far, I have to say it's pretty fun!

If you were realy gay youd say fabulous instead of fun.