Mr. Dictator is in a hole...throw him a rope.

[skadistic]

Honestly this girl sounds like she has commitment issues. Seems as if she wants to go out with you but has a leery attitude from possible being burned before or having seen others burned. Is her father around?

 

[Mr. Dictator]

Honestly this girl sounds like she has commitment issues. Seems as if she wants to go out with you but has a leery attitude from possible being burned before or having seen others burned. Is her father around?

now that you mention it, no.

they moved up here to get away from his family i think.

 

[The Yankee]

Honestly this girl sounds like she has commitment issues. Seems as if she wants to go out with you but has a leery attitude from possible being burned before or having seen others burned. Is her father around?

Either that or she's really looking to keep all options open whilst having fun in the mean time. But I couldn't say without a broader picture (which probably couldn't happen since I doubt Mr. Dictator is around her long enough to find out).

 

[Godwynn]

And we haven't even TOUCHED what may happen if the Fed lowers rates so that people like Mr. Dictator could have a break on their ARMs (Adjustable Romantic Moments) so that they could have them in better settings with better results.

That made my night.

 

[skadistic]

now that you mention it, no.

they moved up here to get away from his family i think.

I'm no shrink but from having seen this type of thing before.......


She longs for the love and affection, hence the back seat sex. She also doesn't want to invest emotionally in a relationship she knows isn't going to last. And lets be honest it won't. But none of hers ever will. Even if she finds the guy that will last forever she will do things to sabotage it, thats whats she expects. Don't expect her to last with you long. Its nothing person towards you, shes screwed for life. Fly with it for the sex if you want but don't invest emotionally in it or you will be let down hard.

 

[Shylock]

Let the market decide.

Privatise it. Install Linux. Do a barrel roll. Stick in her pooper.

memedump complete


Decide what you want and present it to her, if she is still deciding then dump her or at least get some more sex out of her. You do not need indecisive people.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

So, first off i realize that this makes me look like an ass.

I've been talking to this girl for a while and there have been troubles. We both don't know if we want to date, blah blah blah blah blah.

Long story short, i had sex with her in the back of my car. Smart, amirite?

All the more reason to believe that a woman's word counts for nothing. I've had a woman tell me, repeatedly, that she wouldn't have sex with me, but after a well placed kiss on the neck on the 2nd date, her clothes came off so fast that my mad game skills even surprised me!

The only thing i could say after 15 minutes of awkward back seat sex was, "if we don't date, will this suck?" and that snowballed into such statements as, "i don't really know if i want to date you just yet" and "i feel as if the physical aspects of our relationship are carrying all the weight that the emotional aspects should."

Anyways, she is now extremely pissed and, as a guy, i have not an exact clue why. This isnt the first time we've said things like that and it isnt the first time we've said it after being physical.

She is pissed because she is trying to activate her anti-slut defense, and has no excuse. Women cannot admit that they just like to have sex for its own sake. That is admitting that one is a slut, which, despite the 21st century and supposed gender equality, is still one the vilest things to admit for a woman. Women will try to get around this by inventing all sorts of pretexts ("it just happened", "we had a few drinks", etc), but in this case, there isn't one! She cannot defend herself from such an accusation (she not only wasn't on a date with you, but she didn't even want to be) so she is incredibly angry at herself and projects that anger onto you as if you somehow put a gun to her head.

Any bits of advice? You may laugh at this if you want, i've turned it into a bit of a joke amongst my friends, revolving around how ******** i am.

Your only mistake was that you kissed and told, not so much your friends, but the girl. You didn't need to explain yourself to her because sex bears no explanation. Unfortunately, this humiliation may be too much for her to bear, and you will probably never see this girl again.

 

[Angst]

You're screwed, mate... I don't know if this can be saved.

However, I saved a relationship in which my girlfriend . .. .. .. .ed my best friend at a party (She was really drunk and found it confusing afterwards, that I didn't react more aggresively), as I told her it was OK if she wanted to do so.

That was actually the thing that almost destroyed our relationship. She doubted I loved her, as I didn't get mad. Later we agreed that she was allowed to do so whenever she liked. Oddly, she might have found it very uncomfortable to be told that it's OK, because she never did such thing again.

We broke up two months later (She was leaving for another Danish island).

So good luck for you. Everything is possible