The 'Fairer' Sex

[Sims2789]

one guy i know is a player with 2+ girlfriends, and he's about to ask out a 3rd. both sexes cheat. i have to be honest and say that i did something with a friend's girlfriend once. i was single, and it was her idea, so that shows that both sexes cheat. note i'm still a virgin.

EDIT: i wouldn't say i cheated, i would say that i capitalized on a good, unexpected situation,

 

[floppa21]

Originally posted by IceBlaZe

However, the number of abused women is still very very high, much higher than the number of abused men.

I will try to raise that first number even higher.

 

[History_Buff]

Not nessecarily true IceBlaze. Might be true, and i dont want to stick my nose in too far on this, but one of the reasons that tyhere are few cases of abused men is because most of them dont want to admit they were beaten u0 by a girl


But, i agree, the feminist movement has gone too far. Im happy to see women in important positions, and in the workplace and what not, but they arent better then men, just like men are not superior to women.

 

[Moff Jerjerrod]

Yeah this attitude that I'm better than you or they're better than me leads to jealousy and war. Life is stressfull enough as it is. People have got to learn to suck it up and get along.

 

[SanPellegrino]

Originally posted by floppa21
What really amuses me is that a woman will cheat on a man, and then it is partially HIS FAULT because she didn't feel she could talk to him. So the communications broke down. Yes that is partially his fault. But is it truly his fault that the whore went and spread her legs for another man?

Is this something you could forgive? I personally could NEVER trust the woman again. Some men are different and could get past it. Maybe they are better men than I. I personally could think of other adjectives to replace 'better' with, but hey....

yes it is one of womens secret weapons, no matter what she did it is always mans fault.

also there are other myths: "man care for the looks, women for character and responsibility of a partner", this is maybe true up from a certain age but if you are a guy under 30, get 60lbs more on your hips and try to get to know some women... (till I was 17 I was a bit overweight, than I grew quite a bit, got more masculine and lost weight - you will only know the difference when you tried it yourself)

another myth: "women are more caring, romantic and smoother in a realtionship" well, from my experience usually the woman is the aggressive part in a relationship and lashes out. when you do it to her you are just a rude macho... for romance, I've been cheated myself years ago by the woman I considered my great love and having a nearly perfect and romantic relationship... but it was obviously my fault

but to give you some hope, I broke up with her after that and now I got a very nice gf, very troth, that only yells at me on rare occasions

 

[GrandAdmiral]

Yes one question I always wondered though. If men and women are equal then why is there chivalry? Why must men hold doors for women and treat them like ladies? Why don't as many women like video games and how come I always have to explain to women what happened at the end of a movie?

 

[floppa21]

GrandAdmiral... This is the problem with it all. They want equal rights but they can't do equal jobs. I've seen it in multiple jobs I've had since I was 18. But if we went off of what one DESERVED...

 

[GrandAdmiral]

I don't think any sense can be made out of it. Where's a femenist? I want a femenist to answer this without beating me up. Oh yeah how come girls can hit guys but guys can't hit girls?

 

[smalltalk]

Originally posted by floppa21

What really amuses me is that a woman will cheat on a man, and then it is partially HIS FAULT because she didn't feel she could talk to him. So the communications broke down. Yes that is partially his fault. But is it truly his fault that the whore went and spread her legs for another man?

Is this something you could forgive? I personally could NEVER trust the woman again. Some men are different and could get past it. Maybe they are better men than I. I personally could think of other adjectives to replace 'better' with, but hey.

Is it already cheating when one part has an affair with somebody else, or is cheating only having an affair without telling?

If you have sworn eternal mutual monogamy with your partner, you may have a point.

Otherwise I feel, the person you love is not your private property. True love doesn't ask too many questions. jealousy as the fear of loosing your girl is normal emotion, but jealousy in the sense of "You-are-mine-and-only-mine" is perhaps a remnant of the late days without appropriate means for contraception, when a single step aside could have led to permanent results.

I guess I knew at least one girl, that would have let me any freedom I wanted as long as she knew it was only her which I really loved. Same thing might have been true the other way round. I don't know for sure, I never tried it out, nor did she. (Or at least I wasn't told. )

originally posted by Moff Jerjerrod
People have got to learn to suck it up

 

[andrewgprv]

I think that the question of which sex cheats more is irrelevent. It depends on the individual and the relationship.

If someone were to cheat on me out of a moment of weakness. I could probably forgive them. If they were to have an ongoing affair or if they cheated more then once I don't think I could forgive them.

 

[Mario Feldberg]

There is no single ideology called "feminism" BTW. It has many different "schools" who are somtimes strongly opposed to each other.
I support the deconstructivist wing of feminism. Your chivalry is nothing but sexism to me. Same with the sexist violence stuff.

 

[Shadylookin]

i've heard both sexes cheat the same amount. If someone cheated on me i would forgive them, but i seriously doubt i would continue the same relationship we had before the incident(probably go to something like a lets just be friends type thing)

 

[floppa21]

Originally posted by smalltalk

Is it already cheating when one part has an affair with somebody else, or is cheating only having an affair without telling?

If you have sworn eternal mutual monogamy with your partner, you may have a point.

Otherwise I feel, the person you love is not your private property. True love doesn't ask too many questions. jealousy as the fear of loosing your girl is normal emotion, but jealousy in the sense of "You-are-mine-and-only-mine" is perhaps a remnant of the late days without appropriate means for contraception, when a single step aside could have led to permanent results.

I guess I knew at least one girl, that would have let me any freedom I wanted as long as she knew it was only her which I really loved. Same thing might have been true the other way round. I don't know for sure, I never tried it out, nor did she. (Or at least I wasn't told. )

Well if you agree beforehand to be whores and nail or be nailed by anyone you want, than enjoy. That's not normally how a relationship works though. If it was, cheating would be a non-issue, yes?

@andrew - A moment of weakness? I have had no moments of weakness. The moments presented themselves, but I did not succumb. Way I see it, if I can be strong enough, so can anyone else. No forgiveness forthcoming from floppa.

 

[SanPellegrino]

Originally posted by Mario Feldberg
Your chivalry is nothing but sexism to me.

but why do the oppressed women love this kind of sexism? and smalltalk, not bad if you can let loose like that but I guess I am more the old-fashioned guy... :love2:

 

[Mario Feldberg]

Originally posted by SanPellegrino
but why do the oppressed women love this kind of sexism?

Women aren't oppressed any more than men around here IMO. In fact todays German laws discriminate against men. Not all women like it by the way. And those who do are either sexist or lack dignity IMO.

 

[Pontiuth Pilate]

Pre-emptive cheating?

 

[bobgote]

If someone cheated on me, I could never trust them again. I probably would have nothing to do with them from that point on. As has been said by others, it takes a lot to gain my trust - it takes time but once earned, it's pretty solid. Anyway, don't let your woman act up. A relationship means little if that occurs. A lot of it occurs because it is more popular for men today to be "sensitive". In my view, all to often, sensitive can be translated as weak, and most women are no good and will trample all over you (such rubbish as everybody loves raymond is full of this) - if this happens, leave them, or set them straight.

Originally posted by Stapel

Agreed, but some men are good in typical woman things and vice versa. We can't just tell by the gender.

yeah but all those men are gay

Originally posted by GrandAdmiral
Yes one question I always wondered though. If men and women are equal then why is there chivalry? Why must men hold doors for women and treat them like ladies? Why don't as many women like video games and how come I always have to explain to women what happened at the end of a movie?

cos that's being nice
there isn't an equivalent for the other side, is there?

Originally posted by andrewgprv
I think that the question of which sex cheats more is irrelevent. It depends on the individual and the relationship.

If someone were to cheat on me out of a moment of weakness. I could probably forgive them. If they were to have an ongoing affair or if they cheated more then once I don't think I could forgive them.

if someone has betrayed once, they'll do it again, given the opportunity. that's just how it is.

 

[cgannon64]

The impression I get from pop culture is that women are more easily forgiven then men for cheating - your comment about "not listening" is right on.

However, I wouldn't really know from personal experience who cheats more...

 

[Mojotronica]

I wouldn't take it personally. It's not like I own her, or she owns me. I'd be more upset if she lied about it, but the best case scenario is that she gets it out of her system and I never find out.

Is it a one-time thing? If she is cheating because she's unhappy with the relationship that's one thing, but if she is cheating because she has this amazing but temporary erotic energy with someone else, that's another thing.

All that said I know that my fiance feels differently about this than me, so I would never cheat on her.

 

[SanPellegrino]

Originally posted by Mario Feldberg


Women aren't oppressed any more than men around here IMO. In fact todays German laws discriminate against men. Not all women like it by the way. And those who do are either sexist or lack dignity IMO.

ok, now I understand, I thought you meant that the men are sexist and hold the door open to underline their supremacy. I would agree with you, but sadly I found out that the women that shun such things also shun shaving their legs and dressing in a decent manner So I am stuck with the sexist, dignity-lacking ones but no problem, I'll cope with it

P.S: good to know that if we were the last german men alive we would have no probs sharing