Why do girls fall for jerks?

[Bugfatty300]

I started dating this girl I met in one of my classes a week ago and she broke up with me yesterday and today I saw her sitting at bench on the walkway with her "new" boyfriend.

She obviously had been seeing for sometime before she dumped me. He is a total ***hole whom I‘d met before back in grade school. I personally know him for being an idiot, fighting a lot, heavy drug usage, playing his girlfriends and racing his car all over the place. He doesn’t even go to this school! I’d be surprised if he even graduated HS.

I’ve been told that my nice guy persona doesn’t help me when it comes to dating. So should I grow a pony tail, speak in tough guy ebonics and practice driving like a maniac in order to attract a mate?

But most of all, why do girls fall for these idiots and reject ‘nice guys‘ like me?

 

[h4ppy]

Bugfatty got dumped!! HAHAHAHA! Sorry, the fact that you already had a GF already puts you one above me. The plus side is that if he really is like you described she will probably leave him eventually.

 

[CoolioVonHoolio]

they like it for some reason. its some sort of slight fetish... i guess this is how i get so many girls (yea right)

 

[blindside]

Not all girls are like that but high school girls tend to be a bit lost when its comes to knowning what they want. I think they'll get better as you get older. With that said I knew some pretty sweet girls (who were good looking and all that as well) that I was good friends with. Didn't date them but that was partly out of my own stupidity and choice.

 

[newfangle]

Cuz she's the girl all the bad guys want! Ya...the girl all the bad guys want!

 

[general_kill]

OMG WHERE IS THIS MAN? I MUST HAVE HIM!!!

just kidding. bugfatty, i am only 16 and 1/2 years old, and if i have learned one lesson in my life from my mother, it would be: be yourself.

I often wondered why some "jerks" get hot girlfriends. I heard all the myths, oh girls like being treated like dirt, girls like being ignored, girls like jerks, girls like the oh so badboys, and i realized that all those myths are true. Some girls do like that, but that doesn't mean those girls are right for you. If you've failed with a girl, you haven't really failed, you've simply discovered one more girl who isn't the "one". Much like how it took edison a thousand tries before finally inventing a practical lightbulb.

when you do find the right girl, you will treat her just the way she likes being treated, just keep trying and don't forget to be yourself.

 

[Inter4]

Read the two links in my sig. They are enlightening.

 

[Shadylookin]

I started dating this girl I met in one of my classes a week ago and she broke up with me yesterday and today I saw her sitting at bench on the walkway with her "new" boyfriend.

She obviously had been seeing for sometime before she dumped me. He is a total ***hole whom I‘d met before back in grade school. I personally know him for being an idiot, fighting a lot, heavy drug usage, playing his girlfriends and racing his car all over the place. He doesn’t even go to this school! I’d be surprised if he even graduated HS.

I’ve been told that my nice guy persona doesn’t help me when it comes to dating. So should I grow a pony tail, speak in tough guy ebonics and practice driving like a maniac in order to attract a mate?

But most of all, why do girls fall for these idiots and reject ‘nice guys‘ like me?

it's about confidence most likely, and I wouldn't go changing your entire personallity to appease someone that doesn't care about you but if you're that shallow go ahead

 

[Inter4]

Shady: I've always wondered what your avy is..

 

[Bugfatty300]

Bugfatty got dumped!! HAHAHAHA! Sorry, the fact that you already had a GF already puts you one above me. The plus side is that if he really is like you described she will probably leave him eventually.

What do know you little dweeb. You've never even had a GF!

I think she likes him because of his vices. Not in spite of them. Thats how it is usually from my view point. It seems most girls go for the bad boys. The bad boys walk all over the girls while us 'nice guys' get walked all over us.

BTW. I was joking about changing my personality. I wouldn't grow a pony tail if it meant saving my life.

Read the two links in my sig. They are enlightening.

Nice read. Thanks

 

[GenMarshall]

I started dating this girl I met in one of my classes a week ago and she broke up with me yesterday and today I saw her sitting at bench on the walkway with her "new" boyfriend.

She obviously had been seeing for sometime before she dumped me.

I know how you feel, I have been in the same shoes you have... ...twice.

I’ve been told that my nice guy persona doesn’t help me when it comes to dating. So should I grow a pony tail, speak in tough guy ebonics and practice driving like a maniac in order to attract a mate?

But most of all, why do girls fall for these idiots and reject ‘nice guys‘ like me?

There is something about being too nice that seems to repel women away from nice guys. All nice guys suffers the Nice Guy Syndrome which a male wishes to seek intamacy but only find friendship, platonic love, and/or disapointment.

 

[Shadylookin]

Shady: I've always wondered what your avy is..

a superhero with a spotlight on him and all the small things in the background are men getting ready to attack him. I know it doesn't look the greatest but I did it in paint. Ive always considered changing it but never had the motivation

 

[general_kill]

dont stop being nice bug =) find the girl that likes a nice guy. i've learned that and i'm 3 years younger than you, you got some catching up to do

 

[general_kill]

a superhero with a spotlight on him and all the small things in the background are men getting ready to attack him. I know it doesn't look the greatest but I did it in paint. Ive always considered changing it but never had the motivation

you should goto the art threads and ask some of the amazing artists on this forum to help you with that.

 

[GenMarshall]

dont stop being nice bug =) find the girl that likes a nice guy. i've learned that and i'm 3 years younger than you, you got some catching up to do

Meh, with the single women out there. They are all effected with the "I dont want a nice guy" syndrome. When the guy becomes a jerk to her, then she will realize that she made a mistake.

 

[Inter4]

Nice read. Thanks

It's impossible you already read them both!


Shady: don't change it, it's cool and everybody already associates your avy to you.

 

[Gr3yL3gion]

Been there done that. The thing about girls is that you gotta play your cards right, that is a combination of nice guys and jerk if you need too. You can play the nice guy as time gone by and both get to know each other well. But as the beginning, be a jerk first, then a nice guy last.

 

[Bugfatty300]

dont stop being nice bug =) find the girl that likes a nice guy. i've learned that and i'm 3 years younger than you, you got some catching up to do

Yep I'm only now 19. Not a whole lot of female experiance I admit. It seems I'm always dating girls several years younger than me since all the ones my age are dating mid 20 year olds.

And I'm getting a little old to be looking at HS girls. I guess alot of guys go through this around this time in their lives.

 

[Bugfatty300]

It's impossible you already read them both!

I'm reading them! I'm just trying to read some replys also.

A good quote about the "friend zone"

[At guys] "Which would you rather do? Blow crap up with M-80s with a friend or go to Bed, Bath & Beyond with a friend?"

 

[GenMarshall]

Yep I'm only now 19. Not a whole lot of female experiance I admit. It seems I'm always dating girls several years younger than me since all the ones my age are dating mid 20 year olds.

And I'm getting a little old to be looking at HS girls. I guess alot of guys go through this around this time in their lives.

I know that feeling, when I was a senior in HS. I started to feel old to check out HS girls. I also feel that I am going to have the same feeling once again when I enter my Junior year in College :-/.