Why do some woman find it offensive if you complemnt on their appearence but not men?

[Xanikk999]

I always found this funny. I know its always innapropriate to say something like "Nice set of hooters you got there" or something. But if you said something like "your hot" or "your sexy" to an average women they would find it offensive.

On the other hand if a women said "your hot" or "your sexy" (No matter how unlikely it would happen) i would find it hard to beileve any man would get offended. If that happened to me that would be the highlight of my day. Most men would find it as a complement. If there are any women on this board could they explain it to me? Men are allowed to comment as well!

 

[Tenochtitlan]

Women don't want to feel like sex objects. If you tell them you have nice hooters they will know that you only want to have sex with them. They want to be loved first.

 

[Pyrite]

That's a rather sweeping generalization.

 

[marioh]

You're using the wrong compliments. You're hot and you're sexy are compliments that should be used with women whom you're already friendly with. Obviously, this doesn't apply in all cases, but it's a good general rule of thumb.
Another factor is in the delivery of the compliment. Leering at a woman and drooling while saying "you're hot !" will probably get you nowhere.

Compliment them on their hair or clothing or something more specific (but not sexual like boobs/butts/etc). That goes across much better.

 

[Xanikk999]

You're using the wrong compliments. You're hot and you're sexy are compliments that should be used with women whom you're already friendly with. Obviously, this doesn't apply in all cases, but it's a good general rule of thumb.
Another factor is in the delivery of the compliment. Leering at a woman and drooling while saying "you're hot !" will probably get you nowhere.

Compliment them on their hair or clothing or something more specific (but not sexual like boobs/butts/etc). That goes across much better.

Yah but if a women was staring at me and then said i was hot. That would make my day no matter how unlikely that would happen.

This is one thing that makes women and men very very different.

 

[marioh]

Yah but if a women was staring at me and then said i was hot. That would make my day no matter how unlikely that would happen.

This is one thing that makes women and men very very different.

Most definetly. Of course, wouldn't that also depend on the type of woman who told you you were hot ? Say, big momma, weighing in at 400lbs or so, telling you that you're hot (and mayby trying to grab your butt in the process). I would suspect that you would feel a little differently if a really cute girl said the same thing.

 

[Xanikk999]

Most definetly. Of course, wouldn't that also depend on the type of woman who told you you were hot ? Say, big momma, weighing in at 400lbs or so, telling you that you're hot (and mayby trying to grab your butt in the process). I would suspect that you would feel a little differently if a really cute girl said the same thing.

Hey i actually had something like that similar happen when i was in highschool. I ran away very fast. That was the only time a girls ever hit on me though (That i noticed).

 

[Tank_Guy#3]

Well, we're telling them straight out when we meet them.

I've noticed that most men say what they want to do, they get right to the point. They don't clutter it up with details. And (from what I've noticed) women just throw in millions of little details and facts.

Example (directions on how to get to town from our house)

Moms directions:
Well first you take a right out of our driveway onto County (Highway) ABC. You'll go about 3/4 of a mile and come to a T intersection, take a left there onto County (Highway) CBS for a little ways and you'll come to Highway 10. Take a left and travel for about 15-20 miles, past Lake (not for you to know) and when you see a McDonald's and an Applebee's you're there.

My directions:
Take a right out of the driveway. You'll then come to a T intersection, take a left. Then take a left onto Highway 10, and follow that 'till you get to town.

 

[Xanikk999]

Well, we're telling them straight out when we meet them.

I've noticed that most men say what they want to do, they get right to the point. They don't clutter it up with details. And (from what I've noticed) women just throw in millions of little details and facts.

Example (directions on how to get to town from our house)

Moms directions:
Well first you take a right out of our driveway onto County (Highway) ABC. You'll go about 3/4 of a mile and come to a T intersection, take a left there onto County (Highway) CBS for a little ways and you'll come to Highway 10. Take a left and travel for about 15-20 miles, past Lake (not for you to know) and when you see a McDonald's and an Applebee's you're there.

My directions:
Take a right out of the driveway. You'll then come to a T intersection, take a left. Then take a left onto Highway 10, and follow that 'till you get to town.

You are truer then you know! It applies that way to men and women in almost every endeavor i think.

Men just want to get down to the sex and the womens like "You never talk to me anymore blah blah blah".

 

[Mathilda]

As sad as it is, I feel it's a confidence issue.

Even complementing woman on her hair can go wrong if you do it in the middle of her explaining something important to you.
Most women want to treated as people first, not as lumps of meat.
By commenting on looks without prior relationship you reduce her to just that. A bit of meat you'd like to poke at.

Men on the other hand don't seem to have this issue. Too full of them selves?
I don't know. I feel history is partly to blame here, women have been treated as property and objects for so long, many are still very wary of it.

 

[Xanikk999]

As sad as it is, I feel it's a confidence issue.

Even complementing woman on her hair can go wrong if you do it in the middle of her explaining something important to you.
Most women want to treated as people first, not as lumps of meat.
By commenting on looks without prior relationship you reduce her to just that. A bit of meat you'd like to poke at.

Men on the other hand don't seem to have this issue. Too full of them selves?
I don't know. I feel history is partly to blame here, women have been treated as property and objects for so long, many are still very wary of it.

I dont know about you but i wouldnt mind being treated like a lump of meat if it was with a bunch of women. This is why sometimes men have fantasies about having multiple partners and women fighting over them. Its the exact opposite with men on what women think regarding sex.

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Its different for women because theyve got what everybody wants. Guys might understand what its like if they look at this way: Its like if you were always walking around with $10,000 in your pocket, and everybody knew. Everywhere you went all day people would stare at you, lusting after your ten grand, and trying to trick you and get their hands on it. All day every day, you have to fend off people who want your ten grand. So naturally, if somebody says "Hey btw, your $10,000 is beautiful", its pretty annoying.

 

[Xanikk999]

A good looking women can control an all male society.

 

[Yuri2356]

A good looking women can control an all male society.

Not really. When the numbers are skewed that far instinct will rip it appart. Every (hetero)male will be competing for that one woman, and with no other option at least some of them will be willing to do whatever it takes. Anarchy and gang-rape abound.

 

[Mathilda]

I dont know about you but i wouldnt mind being treated like a lump of meat if it was with a bunch of women.

But that wasn't how I understood your question.
I wouldn't mind if it was a bunch of (attractive) women

This is why sometimes men have fantasies about having multiple partners and women fighting over them. Its the exact opposite with men on what women think regarding sex.

And you think women dont' have them fantasies?
I don't think men and women are that different regarding sex.
Or maybe I just know some exeptional women.

 

[Elrohir]

I dont know about you but i wouldnt mind being treated like a lump of meat if it was with a bunch of women. This is why sometimes men have fantasies about having multiple partners and women fighting over them. Its the exact opposite with men on what women think regarding sex.

I'm not speaking from personal experience or anything, but I'm pretty sure rape-fantasy is pretty common with women as well as men.

Anyway, I think some women take offense to normally complimentary comments because they're hypersensative and paranoid, probably afraid that you're trying to get in their pants.