I have a totally optional, but hopefully fun challenge for anyone who is tired of the general negativity about the game in the general topic -- go participate in the strategy subforum for a couple days. I did over the last few, and there was really no negativity I saw. The only issue is it's quite dead, but in theory it's the best place to be to have conversations with people who are playing the game, enjoying it, and wanting to discuss playing it. My highlight was participating in a Carthage ancient-age only challenge.
My theory is if everyone spent the same amount of time in strategy talking about the game as they did complaining about complainers in general, given that the game only has 36% positive reviews recently and the general tone is going to reflect that, everyone would get what they wanted because it would naturally filter the disagreement apart. And nobody has to get banished to the shadow realm.