Did you get coddled when you were a teenager?

[Pegasus_77]

For me, it was probably yes when I was 12 or so. My parents did most things for me, which I took for granted. They wanted me to study hard and I followed.

 

[Kyriakos]

Not really, given at 12 was when my parents divorced.

I had (and have) a number of good traits, elements and foundations in my life, but parents aren't one of those. I suppose that ultimately this is ok, given one seems better to grow out of viewing parents in a special way (ie as child to parent and remnants of those states), but obviously for a teen it is quite difficult to deal with at the time.

 

[Tee Kay]

I'm the shelterest of sheltered kids.

Sometimes I wish I'd grown up tougher and rougher.

 

[Phrossack]

A bit. I was treated very well by my parents, but I was just really low-maintenance and (eventually) did what I was told. This may have stood out because of my parents' troubles with my brother. I rarely asked for anything at all, so when I did, they listened.

The one time I "rebelled" was when I was in a sort of Catholic parish class session over a few months when I realized I didn't believe in God and refused to finish the class and get confirmed. Led to some slightly emotional disagreements on my mother's part but I managed to drop out of the program.

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

All I had to worry about was studying.

 

[Kyriakos]

A bit. I was treated very well by my parents, but I was just really low-maintenance and (eventually) did what I was told. This may have stood out because of my parents' troubles with my brother. I rarely asked for anything at all, so when I did, they listened.

The one time I "rebelled" was when I was in a sort of Catholic parish class session over a few months when I realized I didn't believe in God and refused to finish the class and get confirmed. Led to some slightly emotional disagreements on my mother's part but I managed to drop out of the program.

^Your brother is older, then? Cause usually the older sibling asks for more stuff, while the younger never had an experience of being the sole kid in the house (to put it very very generally, of course).

 

[sophie]

For me, it was probably yes when I was 12 or so. My parents did most things for me, which I took for granted. They wanted me to study hard and I followed.

Aren't you like 14 or something?

Also by definition you are not a teenager when you are 12.

 

[Phrossack]

^Your brother is older, then? Cause usually the older sibling asks for more stuff, while the younger never had an experience of being the sole kid in the house (to put it very very generally, of course).

He is. We were always black and white. Figuratively and literally. He's seemed to shape up lately and has a decent job, so I'm happy for him, but we've always been distant.

 

[Pegasus_77]

Aren't you like 14 or something?

Also by definition you are not a teenager when you are 12.

I am an adult.
Isnt a 12-year-old a late teen?if I am wrong, then I correct my age to 8,9,10...anyway, I was coddled in elementary school.

 

[sophie]

I am an adult.
Isnt a 12-year-old a late teen?if I am wrong, then I correct my age to 8,9,10...anyway, I was coddled in elementary school.

Oh. No. A teenager is somebody whose age has the word "teen" in it (hence the name).

13-19 are your teenaged years. 10-12 is occasionally called "pre-teen" or "tween", but generally you're considered a child/kid until you hit 13.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

An adolescent is a teenager.

 

[Borachio]

I am an adult.
Isnt a 12-year-old a late teen?if I am wrong, then I correct my age to 8,9,10...anyway, I was coddled in elementary school.

You're an adult? Right?

So, you're... 13?

No, I don't get where you're coming from with this.

Are we talking Game of Thrones age scales? Or dog years?

 

[sophie]

An adolescent is a teenager.

Yes, my mistake, thank you.

 

[JollyRoger]

I had it tough as a teenage. I had to read Atlas Shrugged all by myself instead of having it read to me.

 

[NovaKart]

Depends on what you compare it to. I wasn't out selling newspapers or anything like that.

I was a latchkey child. Even as a preteen I was often making my own meals, doing my own laundry and so on. On the other hand, my parents didn't really make me do much, I was mostly free to do what I wanted.

 

[Borachio]

We had it soft: meals two, or three, times a day, and all the gravel we wanted to play with.

Tsk! Didn't know we were born!

 

[Narz]

I was sent to an all boys boarding school against my will when I was 13. From 15-18 I spent time at various "alternative" (read : out-there, often abusively, law-lawbreakingly so) schools & often wouldn't see my folks for months at a time.

So no, I wasn't coddled. Sometimes I'm a bit jealous when I see over-involved parents who actually show concern over a kid's activities but I suppose the other extreme (parents too involved, putting their own ego into how successful a kid is) is also unhealthy.

Hopefully I'll do better with my own kid. I can't imagine doing worse.

 

[Borachio]

Yeah. I was a day-pupil at a school which also took boarders (as a minority). None of them seemed very happy with it. Why have children if you don't really want them?

My brother was a boarder at another school for 3 years. And nearly had a mental breakdown because of it.

(Mind you, he's always been a bit funny. The brother.)

 

[cybrxkhan]

My parents were overprotective, yes. Not to the point where I would become a sociopath or where it would cause serious issues for me or something, but they were overprotective and I believe it has had a bit of a negative impact on me. My father especially really wanted me to be independent and do things on my own, and expected me to be able to since he had to be very indepedent from a young age, but would always get frustrated when I did try or when I didn't know how to do things (because, of course, I'd make mistakes especially since I tend to be absentminded) and that has definitely had a negative impact on me - thankfully, nowadays he is aware of that and is trying to make up for it. My mother on the other hand became very religious, and, well, y'all know how well that goes.

They tried hard to not fall into the Asian parent stereotypes, I'll give them credit for that.

They were definitely less overprotective than my younger brother, though. Silly little siblings, never know how good they have it.

 

[Narz]

Why have children if you don't really want them?

Same reason people eat tons of food even though they don't really want to become fat. Humans are, for the most part, just dumb animals.