So what's your criteria (in terms however broad) for a legitimate secession?
There would have to be referendum of some form to make certain that the majority of the people really did want it. There would have to be every reasonable attempt made within the existing legal framework to reconcile the grievances short of violence. There would have to be some sort of compensation agreement so that those who are harmed get redress. There may have to be relocation assistance to those who do not want to be part of the break away area. The reasoning would have to be for the benefit of the populace, not to gain the ability to oppress them further. Things along those lines.
I would still be generally reluctant to go along with it, but would not oppose it in all cases. It becomes situational, not a general principle.
I think that your taking an overly reductionist approach to this issue. By reducing "government intervention" to a single form of activity, which a given party may want more or less of, you lose sight of the distinctions between different forms of government activity. Business wants less of certain kinds of government activity- enforcing union contracts, collecting taxes, etc.- but they are perfectly happy with other kinds of government activity, and, indeed, would like to see plenty more- suppressing protests, protecting private property, etc. Amadeus, in declaring the authority of the state illegitimate in both regards, that it has no more right to hold a head to the gun of the striking worker than to the CEO, makes a fundamental break with laissez faire statism.
Well if that is true than Ama takes a more extreme view than many people I have read and interacted with in the past. That, however, I don't see as invalidating the other parts of my point.
I don't really follow. Anarcho-capitalists regard free and voluntary contracts as the only legitimate basis of collective activity, and so regard the unfree and coerced contract established between the state and the individual as illegitimate. What in that implies that they are opposed to free contracts?
Quite a few times I have managed to piss off amadeus by suggesting that he or his views are much more authoritarian than anything I am willing to accept.
Here's the irony: He may think of himself as an anarchist, but his positions really are more authoritarian than I am willing to accept.
How does that work? It works because you are not defending free and voluntary contracts. You are defending the most aggressive of coercion. For the vast majority of people under the system you are describing the choices are to do exactly what they are told to do or be subject to crushing punishment. No third options are being presented. No freedom of choice is being presented. No liberty is being presented.
You make the case that with government, it is inherited generation to generation, and so there was no informed consent going in for each additional individual. How much more so is that true when under this Anarcho-capitalists model there isn't, not just no way to opt out of it, but no way to redress grievances within it. If you are born in a liberal democracy, you can at least make an effort to change the laws. If you are born in Anarcho-capitalism, you don't even have that much right to consent to how others control your life.
You frame it as a choice between consent and non-consent, when the real choice is between a system in which you can at least try to change it and one in which you are utterly and completely powerless to do anything other than exactly what you are told to do, or resort to armed insurrection.
This Anarcho-capitalism that you describe doesn't have even a small fraction of the personal liberty that the US has right now.
And it doesn't even have a small fraction of the choosing to consent to it.
If I want public schools, under Anarcho-capitalism I can't have it. If I want public libraries, under Anarcho-capitalism I can't have it. If I want public roads, under Anarcho-capitalism I can't have it. If I want public law enforcement and courts, under Anarcho-capitalism I can't have it. Even if the majority of the people agree with me. These options are simply off the table.
By fiat, not by consent.
I never got an answer to
THIS POST in that old tread. What is the answer? It is fine to believe in these things, but how do you enforce them without a government?
Or here's a differing libertarian view on it from a blog that Integral linked one day:
A Libertarian Rehabilitation of Hobbes
By Kevin Vallier On February 21, 2012
I think that libertarian hostility to Hobbes has blinded them to one of his deepest insights, an insight that in many ways makes him less authoritarian than many of the libertarians I know.
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Lets begin with some review. Hobbes believes that all people are naturally free and equal.* That is, no one was born with natural authority over others. Political authority can only come from agreement. Yes, Hobbes has a notion of tacit consent and yes, Hobbes believed in a limited set of natural laws that prescribe some natural duties. But he nonetheless recognized that in a great many circumstances, for John to have a duty to obey Reba, John must have agreed to that duty.
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Traditional libertarians criticize Hobbes for thinking that disagreement is a disaster. Through the market, private property and limited government, we can go our separate ways and live together well. I agree with that criticism. Libertarians also recognize that some property claims will be the subject of dispute and so arbiters are needed (at least in the form of protection agencies or a minimal state). I agree with that too.
However, the problem with traditional libertarians is that they confine the range of reasonable disagreement to disputes about how to make libertarian property rights more determinate and resolve disputes among legitimate property holders. In other words, they think the range of disagreement is rather small and so arbiters have limited authority.
But lets confront traditional libertarians with an undeniable truth: reasonable people disagree about way more political and moral matters than the scope of libertarian property rights. In fact, the large majority of reasonable people find libertarian conceptions of property rights deeply objectionable. And many of those reasonable disagreements remain after they become familiar with libertarian arguments.
So let me pose a question to traditional libertarians (related to one of my previous posts): you want to set up a libertarian society because you think it is required by justice and to serve the common good. But your free and equal fellows reasonably reject your conception of property rights. As a result, the coercion you are prepared to use to defend your property against their encroachments will be coercion that they have strong reason to reject.
Libertarians avoid the problem of private judgment by implicitly assuming that libertarian property rights are the default no-coercion point. A society without coercion is a society with property rights. But thats false. Property rights are coercive. That does not mean that property rights cannot be justified. It just means that the coercion involved in defending property rights must be justified to all persons.
I suspect most libertarians will respond that they can use coercion to protect their justly acquired property no matter what other reasonable people think. After all, libertarianism is true and statism is false. But that means that you, libertarian, are prepared to coerce your equal to do what you demand even though she has not agreed and will likely not agree were you to explain your reasoning to her. That is, you are prepared to subordinate your non-libertarian fellows to your will.
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http://bleedingheartlibertarians.com/2012/02/a-libertarian-rehabilitation-of-hobbes/
There's the trick, you see. Everything is boiled down to what the handful of property owners tell you it is all boiled down to. There is no freedom, no liberty, other than the very narrow definition which gives the few absolute power over the many.
Which is the answer to your next point:
In what sense do anarcho-capitalists represent an "aristocracy"? I know that Americans are quite loose of the word compared to Europeans, but I've honestly never heard it used to describe a disparate political tendency.
The few control everything. The many have no say. How is that not broadly similar to the worst of what aristocracy has to offer? And, btw, is more or less what the Confederates wanted as well.
I'm simply observing the historical circumstances in which such societies existed. Any stateless society today would have to be quite different.
In other words, not really relevant to anything.
They certainly had government in the sense of social organisation, it simply did not take the form of state government. That's an historically specific form of social organisation- again, for purposes of discussion we can assume a Weberian definition of "an entity claiming a monopoly on the legitimate use of violence"- not one inherent to social organisation as such. If that was the case, then every hunter-gatherer band would be a "state", which would strech the concept so much as to render it entirely meaningless.
How so? Unless I'm misunderstanding, your primary objections to it are analytical and ethical, rather than empirical; not a disagreement about what happens, but how we understand it, and whether it is legitimate or illegitimate.
(This discussion is too fragmented, I'm losing track of which points we are on and it's taking me more time to retrieve the direction of the discussion than it is to frame an answer

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These "anti-statist" people, as you describe them, are imagining a world with no actual reason to assume the world will be like that, other than that want it to be.
"I really like X, and I really want Y, therefor X must lead to Y".

What empirical evidence connects X to Y?
How do we determine if a framework is indeed "mutually acceptable"? That's a subjective judgement, so it's not something that can be prescribed (let alone retrospectively).
With any given process, not everyone can get everything that they want. But is the process one that can be agreed to as the best available one to pursue what each wants?
Whether it be democracy, or courts of law, or the battlefield, both sides want something. One side will get it. Or a compromise will be achieved somewhere in the middle.