Ever slapped your wife?

[Nobody]

Something i was writing earlier made me think of this, we all know its disgusting but we also all know it is unfortunately common and with the number of posters we have on the forums it is unlikely we have more than one who has.

What i'm talking about is spousal abuse and child abuse.
e.g.

Domestic violence occurs in all cultures; people of all races, ethnicities, religions, sexes and classes can be perpetrators of domestic violence. Domestic violence is perpetrated by both men and women. Domestic violence has many forms, including physical violence, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation, economic deprivation, and threats of violence.

This is a private poll so you don't need to worry but if your tough enough to hit a female then i'm sure your tough enough to admit it here.

Have you ever hit your partner or a child?*
What made to hit them?
Was it a one off thing or
Do you feel bad about it?
Have you yourself ever been a victim?

or anything else you want to say about it?

please don't flame anyone who admits it because that will just start a war.

*For kids i mean beat them no just normal parenting if thats your thing.

 

[Winner]

Everybody deserves a slap sometimes. Adults (men and women alike) less often, children more often.

I especially don't get the American (Western European) way of raising children. "Never slap a child" - no wonder you have so many spoiled brats out there.

 

[sysyphus]

I especially don't get the American (Western European) way of raising children. "Never slap a child" - no wonder you have so many spoiled brats out there.

I know many very well behaved children who have never received physical discipline.

 

[silver 2039]

No. And if I ever do it will be consensual.

 

[kalif]

anytime the beer isn't chilled enough.

 

[bhsup]

Everybody deserves a slap sometimes. Adults (men and women alike) less often, children more often.

I especially don't get the American (Western European) way of raising children. "Never slap a child" - no wonder you have so many spoiled brats out there.

Not everyone in the US accepts that silly notion. I got whipped when I did wrong as a kid and I didn't turn into some raving mass murderer.

"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Not just some silly proverb.

 

[philippe]

I had a GF once who slapped me once in public, doesn't counts as abuse but still pretty humiliating

 

[GenMarshall]

I am single and never married.

Slapping a woman, in a non-foreplay and violent way, is against my own values of how to treat a woman. I am also angered and disapointed when men abuse and strike their wives.

 

[Rik Meleet]

Everybody deserves a slap sometimes. Adults (men and women alike) less often, children more often.

I especially don't get the American (Western European) way of raising children. "Never slap a child" - no wonder you have so many spoiled brats out there.

IMHO there are far better ways to discipline a child (or a spouse ) than slapping. Slapping has the negative side-effect of teaching children that if you can't get what you want you should use violence. And that could well lead to children turning into spoiled brats because of them being slapped.

 

[Perfection]

Look, Fifty was really askin' for it.

 

[downtown]

Whoops, I misvoted. I have never ever been the offensive party in any kind of domestic abuse.

I have been the subject of said abuse growing up though

 

[Dann]

Re: OP
No and I hope that I never will, or have to.

Mind you I was on the receiving end quite often while growing up...

 

[aneeshm]

Never abused anyone physically. I don't count being disciplined as a child under "physical abuse", so I've never been abused.

Never been emotionally abused, either. As to whether I have inflicted emotional abuse - no clue. Ask the people around me. I've been accused of being an imperialist in my interpersonal relationships, though, whatever that means. I guess some people are just weak of will, so they call anyone more assertive an imperialist. I have been told that I have an irritating habit of taking over whatever I walk into, and then using pure assertiveness to get things done my way.

 

[Mise]

Not everyone in the US accepts that silly notion. I got whipped when I did wrong as a kid and I didn't turn into some raving mass murderer.

"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Not just some silly proverb.

What's funny is that the only people who are okay with physically disciplining their children were themselves disciplined physically as children; kids who weren't hit ALL grow up into adults that don't hit, whereas not all kids that were hit grow up into adults that also hit. Whether or not it is acceptable or good, it seems as though it will eventually disappear regardless, for this reason.

 

[Caeili.Draziw]

I have never hit my girlfriend.
I would never hit a woman.
Only a coward hits a weaker person.
*See below

 

[Aleksey_aka_al]

When I was a kid my mother flogged me only two times. It was painful and my ego was hurted. But after it I fully realized my wrongness. And it was more painful than flogging.

She never did it again and always talked to show me if I was wrong in something. The most thing I loved her for is that she never forced me to do something but encouraged me by words and her own example.

If a couple has cause to fight or to wrangle then this is a bad couple and they shouldn't make a family together.

All serious disputes between family members or friends should be solved by a thorough talk. And sometimes person should express his feelings instantly, even if he would have to talk louder or to say rude things. If he do so straight away there will be no prerequisites to behave aggressively afterwards. Gestalt.

People should listen to each other. Also a person should listen himself, his own words.

 

[Caeili.Draziw]

OK. Not true.
*I had to hit her once.
She came at me with a knife. I hit her really hard in the wrist to make her drop the knife.
I could have just as easy poped her in the eye. All I wanted her to do was drop the knife.

 

[Winner]

I know many very well behaved children who have never received physical discipline.

Not all children are the same and not all parents are God-gifted masters of words.

My parents slapped me just few times in my life, and every time I fully deserved that. A well-placed slap can do a lot of good in certain situations, it teaches the child that there are consequences if they're jsut rude or mean.

I am strongly against beating though.

IMHO there are far better ways to discipline a child (or a spouse ) than slapping. Slapping has the negative side-effect of teaching children that if you can't get what you want you should use violence. And that could well lead to children turning into spoiled brats because of them being slapped.

That's not what slapping should be used for. I got slapped when I said something really bad to my mother, I don't really remember what was it but I know I didn't really meant it when I was saying that, it was just the anger speaking.
A slap teaches the kid that he/she doesn't have a right to be rude and that there are limits on what you can say to other people.

Using violence to get the kid do something is stupid, on this we completely agree.

 

[MobBoss]

Never slapped my wife, nor my kids. Spanking however.....

 

[general_kill]

Something i was writing earlier made me think of this, we all know its disgusting but we also all know it is unfortunately common and with the number of posters we have on the forums it is unlikely we have more than one who has.

What i'm talking about is spousal abuse and child abuse.
e.g.



This is a private poll so you don't need to worry but if your tough enough to hit a female then i'm sure your tough enough to admit it here.

Have you ever hit your partner or a child?*
What made to hit them?
Was it a one off thing or
Do you feel bad about it?
Have you yourself ever been a victim?

or anything else you want to say about it?

please don't flame anyone who admits it because that will just start a war.

*For kids i mean beat them no just normal parenting if thats your thing.

Please change your avatar.

I feel like men who slap women in fights are usually insecure individuals who are compensating for something. This sounds cliche but I testify to this from my own life. I knew someone who slaps his girlfriend. I was very close to his girlfriend and even though I knew why she likes the guy, I still felt she was way out of his league.

The guy has obvious self-esteem problems. He's on the short side, average looks, and has no one he can really call a friend. But he's also arrogant, I honestly don't think he even wants a friend. I saw him get angry at his girlfriend once and he slapped her in the most unmanly way I've ever seen right in front of me. The only reason why I didn't kill him is because of how pathetic he looks. Hitting this guy would almost feel like hitting a girl, that's how pathetic he is.

From that day on, I came to the conclusion that men who beat their spouse or kids are just bullies. Inside every bully, there lies bundles of insecurities and emotional problems. They are pathetic "men" who can only prey on people weaker than them in order to fill the gaping holes in their lives. These people deserve the worst kind of pity.