Okay so it turns out I do not know how to pause. No clear button anywhere when logged in... P, Ctrl+P, Alt+P, etc none of those worked. Ah well, someone else can do it.
Uh, is this rule written down somewhere? When I joined I heard "no war for 100 turns", but not any exceptions.
Nope, we don't really have any solid ruleset floating around, as was said this game wasn't very serious, a lot of first-time pitbossers. You can read some discussion of the rules laid down
here and
here.
The basic ideas I think is that the less experienced users are safe until turn 100 so they don't get wiped out by the guys who know what they're doing, but "experience" seems to refer to single player difficulty level as me and DMOC got tossed into the experienced group even though we almost never played multiplayer before. The original idea was experienced could early declare on experienced, inexperienced could early declare on experienced, but experienced could not early declare on inexperienced.
Also having to allow open borders was mentioned but looking through it carefully it looks like that is only the case if you aren't boxing someone in by doing so. Since you aren't boxing in DMOC, you probably don't have to. As with the above though discussion sort of fizzled out and no solid rules were settled on.
Although I have to say that refusing to open borders with a civ that hasn't wronged you in the past seems kind of dickish, guess I assumed open borders would given by default as an act of goodwill. Unless you are planning to invade him soon, in which case you'd be kind of tipping your cards early... or perhaps you're just playing a Tokugawa.
