To be honest i don't play rife anymore atm cause i crash every game in the first 200 turns.
This is what makes it even more sad that the release of 1.3 takes so damn long. The alternatives are Orbis where i don't like the 3 food thing, Wildmana with so much stuff being totally useless and making the civilopedia a mess of information no one needs (but my favorite mod anyway cause of the stability and extremly good performance) and ffh2 vanilla which is just bla.
I agree with everything you said. For me, the current version unplayable...unless you don't mind not finishing any games. I have a very powerful new machine and only play normal speed, on a standard size map with the default number of civs. I block out Jotnar as an AI civ. Using large and huge maps just doesn't work for me and the same with the slower game speeds.
No problems with Vanilla, Orbis, or Wildman, but as you said they just are not as much fun as RiFe...if it wouldn't crash all the time.

So, I'm playing other games and waiting, waiting, waiting.....
