Junglecutter said:I still don't get why nice guys finish last...would it mean that being a jerk can get u more girls?![]()
This in itself is a pretty complex question but...
Okay, I'll try to go over this again and be as specific as possible.
First before there is any confusion, you have to know these terms because you have to also understand under what context I am using them:
Nice Guy - Defined as socially unaware and/or a pushover by women. Unfortunately the majority of guys are Nice Guys to some extent.
The Jerk - The jerk thinks he is the ultimate player. He thinks there is no higher status man than him. Unfortunately, the jerk only gets so far (he is also blind to his limitations). The jerk attracts low status girls (who also tend to be attractive) who generally do not value what high status men want. A high status man does not want a highly promiscuous girl. Since the Jerk is highly sexual and persistent, he attracts the promiscuous girls also. The Nice Guy sits on the sidelines and hates on the Jerk because he is with attractive women - often ignoring the fact that those women often don't have their life together.
The Venusian Artist/The Alpha Male/The Pook - These guys truly can get any woman they want, and often they do. The Jerk is not good at getting a well-rounded woman who has her %$#@ together in life because lets face it, high status women want a high status man. The Venusian Artist/The Alpha Male/The Pook on the other hand, have standards, and they are extremely educated and know how to control themselves in every situation when it comes to women (see, the Jerk has an emotional and sometimes violent reaction if he learns that, for example, a woman has cheated on him. The Alpha Male just moves on with a smile on his face). The nice guy typically confuses the Jerk with the Venusian Artist/The Alpha Male/Pook because the Nice Guy does not understand that there are crucial differences.
The nice guy sees an Alpha Male poking fun at a girl and thinks, "tsk tsk, that's not right. That woman would be so lucky if she was with me because I'd treat her so much better!"
Every nice guy believes he is doing the right thing by being nice. I certainly did a year ago! Nice guys also subconsciously know they have lower status. This is a problem because they are afraid of rejection. Why are they afraid of rejection? Since they subconsciously believe they have lower status, they act that way. They do not question anything they disagree with because they think, "why should she listen to me? After all, I have low status, and she will reject what I think." They do not know how to achieve higher status because they are confused as hell. Since they believe they are doing "the right thing," they do not want to risk being more of a challenge because that would potentially *GULP* make them into a JERK! AND THEY HATE THE JERK!
Nice guys believe in doing the... "right" thing. They compliment a lot. They pay for the food. They find every opportunity to tell the girl how great she is.
The Alpha Male (NOT to be confused with the Jerk), knows how attraction works, and he creates it. Attraction is not created by throwing compliments as the nice guys do. Compliments and gifts have no lasting affect and do not create attraction.