Xanikk999 said:Tell him you [inconsiderate person]. I hate women who play a guy like that. :thumbdown
You should of told him first thing.
Oh, Xanikk. Traditionally, the person asking for advice, is the least qualified to be giving it.
Girl Problems? Ask
- Thread starter Civrules
- Start date
Oh, Xanikk. Traditionally, the person asking for advice, is the least qualified to be giving it.
Xanikk999
History junkie
puglover said:Oh, Xanikk. Traditionally, the person asking for advice, is the least qualified to be giving it.
Am i asking for advice right now? No im not.
And being a man i know what a man wants..
I can give females advice on men. In fact they dont need it. All a good looking girl has to do if she wants to get laid is ask any man they want.
Gilder
Deity
Xanikk999 said:Am i asking for advice right now? No im not.
And being a man i know what a man wants..
I can give females advice on men. In fact they dont need it. All a good looking girl has to do if she wants to get laid is ask any man they want.
The very least a woman who is disinterested in a man, is let him down gently.
Xanikk999
History junkie
Gilder said:
Yes i agree.
But dont do it say.. months into hopeless dating after hes spent HIS OWN money on YOU for NOTHING!
Gilder
Deity
Xanikk999 said:Yes i agree.
But dont do it say.. months into hopeless dating after hes spent HIS OWN money on YOU for NOTHING!
If they actually dated for a bit, it can be considered a normal breakup. She can still let him down gently, and it would be wrong to proceed on, where one is attracted, and the other is not.
Xanikk999
History junkie
But if you didnt want to go all the way with him from day one why did she take advantage of him?
More and more from personal experience i am seeing women as leeches that suck the life out of mens hope and will.
More and more from personal experience i am seeing women as leeches that suck the life out of mens hope and will.
Gilder
Deity
Xanikk999 said:
Not all are like that, and some, get caught up in the moment. Guys can do it too.
Xanikk999 said:
Don't think of women that way, Xanikk. If you see them not as possessions or prizes, and instead think of serving them over yourself, there are plenty who would be happy to share a life with you. They are not leeches. Some can be true treasures.
On a lighter note: Holy cow, Xanikk. You're up to five thousand posts already. You're like me pre-2004. Lay off and play some Civ or something for Pete's sake.
Trajan12
Deity
Actually you need to stop thinking like that. Ive learned that while they do have this advantage of being able to select whomever they want. We have the advantage of not having to be rich, attractive or famous to attract a girl. As long as you take good care of yourself, Its all about attitude in the end. Do you think an unattractive woman enjoys these same benifits? Not unless they are trying to win over a man who is not very shallow, of which there are not many. So enjoy your benifits as a man, and youll be a lot happier. Not only that but women will notice and be attracted to you.Xanikk999 said:Am i asking for advice right now? No im not.
And being a man i know what a man wants..
I can give females advice on men. In fact they dont need it. All a good looking girl has to do if she wants to get laid is ask any man they want.
P.S. Iv'e been told Im very atractive, but when asked the best thing about me, most say it is my charming personnality.
puglover said:Don't think of women that way, Xanikk. If you see them not as possessions or prizes, and instead think of serving them over yourself, there are plenty who would be happy to share a life with you. They are not leeches. Some can be true treasures.
On a lighter note: Holy cow, Xanikk. You're up to five thousand posts already. You're like me pre-2004. Lay off and play some Civ or something for Pete's sake.
yeah xanik stop having such a big p/c
seriously though, she can hardly be considered to be dating him if she hasnt saw him for a year and a half and while sophie should maybe not have even given him the chance if she wasnt interested she can hardly be considered to be in the wrong so far.
Trajan12 said:Actually you need to stop thinking like that. Ive learned that while they do have this advantage of being able to select whomever they want. We have the advantage of not having to be rich, attractive or famous to attract a girl. As long as you take good care of yourself, Its all about attitude in the end. Do you think an unattractive woman enjoys these same benifits? Not unless they are trying to win over a man who is not very shallow, of which there are not many. So enjoy your benifits as a man, and youll be a lot happier. Not only that but women will notice and be attracted to you.
P.S. Iv'e been told Im very atractive, but when asked the best thing about me, most say it is my charming personnality.
So true...
It all comes down to this: Some women want to be nice AT THE MOMENT without thinking of where this might lead to in the future. Some truly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. That feeling in them is powerful and eventually and unfortunately ends up looking like she meant to lead on the guy. This makes the situation much worse, but most times it is not intentional.
If I was a guy and was with a girl I could feel wasn't as attracted, I'd probably back off. Of course, not everyone is the same, but this guy was clearly taking things a little too fast.
Bad Player
Deity
Firstly I think it needs to be recognised that this is sexual harassment.
Secondly I think women often try to please people even when it's not their or other people's best interests to do so.
Secondly I think women often try to please people even when it's not their or other people's best interests to do so.
Masquerouge
Deity
Bad Player said:
It pretty much is. I agree.
Xanikk999 said:
Funny how we both read the same thing and yet came to drastically different conclusions...
To me, the guy is taking advantage of Sophie's kindness and inexperience, even though I think he's not doing it consciously. Sophie is in now ways playing with him. She's just afraid to say no. And the longer this goes on, the worst BOTH are gonna get hurt.
I find it rather disturbing that you think all the blame is on Sophie's side.
Sophie: the guy is a jerk, and your instincts are telling you to avoid him. Listen to them. You owe him nothing. You don't even have to 'let him down easy'. Just tell him you are not interested.
Xanikk999
History junkie
Eran of Arcadia said:
How is the guy a jerk? Is there something you deduced from her story i didnt?
Edit: After re-reading it i guess he may of been overly nice and desperate but how does that make him a jerk??
Xanikk999
History junkie
Maybe im just mad at women for being turned down so late in the "escapades"
that im overly reacting.
But it really pisses me off so much when women dont tell me upfront they dont want to be with me in that way.
Women are not dumb, if a guy asks for your number you should know what his aim is.
that im overly reacting.
But it really pisses me off so much when women dont tell me upfront they dont want to be with me in that way.
Women are not dumb, if a guy asks for your number you should know what his aim is.
And what aim is that? Casual dating, a sexual relationship, a serious romantic relationship, what? Not all men have one track minds.
Xanikk999
History junkie
Eran of Arcadia said:
Obviously a sexual relationship. May not be for marriage.
But no man dates a woman without wanting sex somewhere towards the end. Wether the end is years from then. Or wether they want to go on to get married.
Unless your a young kid, men and teenagers dont go after women just to be friends.
cegman
Scott Walker Supporter
Eran it most guys it is a mix of those three although many guys would prefer to skip casual dating and go straight to sex and leave it there. It is in that order that most guys want when they ask for a number... of course there are the occasional cases where they ask for friendship,
Now I really can't blame any girl for not saying no but it is something that women need to learn as much as guys need to learn to be confident themselves. Girls just don't have as bad of a rushto improve themselves mentally.
Shoot of course saying no to someone is always really hard. Dissapointment is pretty high on my list of reactions I hate seening... actually it is probably in the top 3
Now I really can't blame any girl for not saying no but it is something that women need to learn as much as guys need to learn to be confident themselves. Girls just don't have as bad of a rushto improve themselves mentally.
Shoot of course saying no to someone is always really hard. Dissapointment is pretty high on my list of reactions I hate seening... actually it is probably in the top 3
Masquerouge
Deity
Xanikk999 said:
I agree
Because that's not easy. Especially when you do not have a lot of experience in the matter. Especially when you're a girl and you don't know how the guy will react.Xanikk999 said:
Taking advantage of someone's kindness and inability to say no is nothing to be proud of.Xanikk999 said:
I can completely empathize with Sophie. Too many times I've not been able to say no because I do not like to lie to people and I do not like to disappoint anybody.
Similar threads
