Girl Problems? Ask

[CaptainF]

By the way, a question, so I can contribute to this thread.

If a girl is rubbing up against me when I sit next to her in class, or touching my leg with her leg, what does that indicate?

 

[Xanikk999]

By the way, a question, so I can contribute to this thread.

If a girl is rubbing up against me when I sit next to her in class, or touching my leg with her leg, what does that indicate?

Thats a very good sign. I wish i was you.

In otherwords she wants you to bone her sooner rather then later.

 

[CaptainF]

Thats a very good sign. I wish i was you.

I'm not really considering starting something with this girl, as she is a bit young, and a bit annoying, but she isn't sore on the eyes, if nothing else.

 

[Xanikk999]

Yah thats the problem.... Unfortunately it seems easier to find girls who are interested in you if they are younger then you. Young teenage girls really dig guys that are a bit older.

But dont act on it. Resist the urge.

 

[CaptainF]

Yah thats the problem.... Unfortunately it seems easier to find girls who are interested in you if they are younger then you. Young teenage girls really dig guys that are a bit older.

But dont act on it. Resist the urge.

Hah, well I don't turn 18 for about 4 months yet...

 

[Masquerouge]

If a girl is rubbing up against me when I sit next to her in class, or touching my leg with her leg, what does that indicate?

It indicates she is not averse to body contact, which usually is a good sign. You might try "bumping" into her leg to see how she reacts - I remember once having my knee bump into a girl's leg by accident, only to have, to my great suprise, the girl bounce her leg back at me...

 

[Civrules]

Do this:

With a very serious face tell her to not touch you like that again... But make it slightly exaggerated so she knows it is sarcasm.

I think I've suggested this before earlier in this thread, and it works like magic. Each time I do it, it's like an automatic sign telling them to touch you even more. Lmao

 

[cegman]

How dangerous is it to explain to a girl about her current relationship even if I am being very confident and funny about it and other things?

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Why? Do you want to end it so you can take over, or is she in a genuinely unhealthy relationship?

 

[aneeshm]

Simple answer: nice guys finish last because they believe that being nice means desexualising themselves when dealing with women so that there is no perceived threat, which is an incorrect belief, and leads to the woman never considering you as a potential sexual object.

@ Civrules

I've read a large amount of good, solid material on the theory of attraction and everything else discussed in this thread, and I have all the theory down pat, but my chief problem consists of translating it into practice. I just can't act like that, it's completely and utterly out of character for me. How do I get over that last hurdle?

 

[soul_warrior]

Simple answer: nice guys finish last because they believe that being nice means desexualising themselves when dealing with women so that there is no perceived threat, which is an incorrect belief, and leads to the woman never considering you as a potential sexual object.

@ Civrules

I've read a large amount of good, solid material on the theory of attraction and everything else discussed in this thread, and I have all the theory down pat, but my chief problem consists of translating it into practice. I just can't act like that, it's completely and utterly out of character for me. How do I get over that last hurdle?

relax.
if you need extrenal help, dont be afraid to use it.
as long as you dont abuse it.

 

[punkbass2000]

I don't know; I think all this "nice guys finish last" crap is bull. I think you can be nice and successful with women.

 

[JerichoHill]

No, the nice guy stuff is pretty right on the money. When you try and treat a woman like a princess , she becomes a royal pain in the ass, and the figures that if you'd grovel for her, she could get someone hotter, richer, etc.

When you consider that they are, like you, just another human being and highly replaceable, their attitude changes, because you don't give them what they want

Ya leave em wanting more...surest way to get them chasing you.

 

[Civrules]

How dangerous is it to explain to a girl about her current relationship even if I am being very confident and funny about it and other things?

Don't talk about her relationship. It's not advice from the dozens of sources I've been reading but from those sources it is implied that doing so signals that you are needy.
The fact is, and I quote from the biggest player in the world, Mystery: "If your game is tight, girls will leave their boyfriends/cheat at the drop of a hat." I respect Mystery's opinion because he is qualified enough to know what he's talking about.

But in this case it's NOT about you making the girl cheat. That's her dilemma regarding what she wants to do. The fact is that you should just keep doing what works and progress every day.

DO NOT LIVE IN FANTASY LAND. Because that’s VERY easy to do.

Make things happen

@ Civrules

I've read a large amount of good, solid material on the theory of attraction and everything else discussed in this thread, and I have all the theory down pat, but my chief problem consists of translating it into practice. I just can't act like that, it's completely and utterly out of character for me. How do I get over that last hurdle?

A lot of this stuff is from different sources.

If you want to learn how to improve yourself, it helps knowing where to start. Starting with the wrong material will not help.

That said, it is by accident that I started off with John Alexander's book "How to Become an Alpha Male." That book is fantastic. But why? It is totally different than David DeAngelo's or Mystery's writings.

John Alexander's book focuses on improving yourself so that you are attractive to women. David DeAngelo and Mystery's writings focus on tactics. Well... as far as I know you can't apply these tactics without being confident.

Thus read "How to Become an Alpha Male." It will re-wire your brain to think like an Alpha Male. The more I read it, the more I internalize what is written.

AFTER you read this book, then you can move on to doing other research.

Realize that I've changed myself 180 degrees because of this material. This is not only about the girls. This is about being more confident for life.
There is no doubt that some people find what I'm sending on or what the experts are writing as disgusting and disturbing and totally extreme. Like Mystery has said, it is controversial because it works. Like it or not, there is no stopping this.
I used to be such an ***wipe, but now I don't really care what girls do and how they behave. Not only will reading these books make you better with the females, but it'll make it a whole lot easier for you to deal with the "problems" you might perceive.




PS:
Here is something else I've got to say regarding the nice guy argument.
Read enough material and you will realize how much more inefficient the nice guys are when it comes to girls. They don't know how to get results. It's as simple as that.
You have the right to believe whatever you wish, but that's a conclusion I've formed that can't be changed. And I used to be the nicest of nice guys 6+ months ago.

 

[Civrules]

PS:
With this study naturally comes the study of body language.
Study it enough and you'll become as sharp as a fox when it comes to detecting subtle signs.

You will find it easy to find guys who know this stuff also. When you know these guys, you know what your competition is.

It's one of the most powerful feelings when it comes to being socially aware of what's going on around you. Almost like a sixth sense.

THEN you start enjoying yourself more.

 

[Captain2]

PS:
With this study naturally comes the study of body language.
Study it enough and you'll become as sharp as a fox when it comes to detecting subtle signs.

You will find it easy to find guys who know this stuff also. When you know these guys, you know what your competition is.

It's one of the most powerful feelings when it comes to being socially aware of what's going on around you. Almost like a sixth sense.

THEN you start enjoying yourself more.

heres the only part i suck at... i cannot tell body language

little help?

 

[cegman]

find a book on body language?

 

[Masquerouge]

I don't know; I think all this "nice guys finish last" crap is bull. I think you can be nice and successful with women.

No, the nice guy stuff is pretty right on the money. When you try and treat a woman like a princess , she becomes a royal pain in the ass, and the figures that if you'd grovel for her, she could get someone hotter, richer, etc.

I think I agree with Punkbass2000, mostly because being nice doesn't imply treating the woman like a queen.

 

[Civrules]

heres the only part i suck at... i cannot tell body language

little help?

It's a big topic itself. Reading the book I mentioned above will help a lot. But then after that, get your hands on everything else you can get.

You can't be successful with girls if you don't know body language well. In fact, just knowing body language without knowing how to be successful with girls will attract girls, interestingly enough.

A few very basic tips:
Slow down all your movements. Make calculated movements. When walking, hold your head up and look straight ahead. Not down. Never down.
When seated, take up as much space as possible (ex: don't fold your arms). Seem as relaxed as possible.

Go to the book store and read up on it.

 

[punkbass2000]

No, the nice guy stuff is pretty right on the money. When you try and treat a woman like a princess

I don't see how being nice equates to treating a woman like a princess.