Beautifully put. This sums up my approach too.
I'm a builder so really I like to treat Civ as an empire simulator. Just let me build loads of cities and a few Wonders and I'm a happy gal. Though, if you do happen to send your unescorted Settler my way, don't be surprised if you don't get it back![]()
In the current state of the game, the AI is almost completely unable to attack you if you appease them (instant embassy, open borders, send gifts, please agenda).