The issue some people, myself to included, have with Remebrance is the inclusivity of it with regards the military, the way it covers all soldiers, combined with the exclusivity of it, in that it treats the military as something special, something above others. Throw in the stigma of criticising it, something that has become increasingly prevalent in today's society (at least in the UK), and the recurrence of the glorification of the military in the media (the depiction of soldiers as "heroes" is all over the place to the point where it's almost the default word for referring to a member of the military) and I am beginning to find it a slightly disturbing spectacle at times. The simple ceremonies, the short silence, remembering those who gave their lives fighting for a cause worth fighting for, or those that had no choice but to fight, I have no issue with. But it is so much more than that.
There was a bit of a media fuss here about a football player (McClean of WBA IIRC) who refused to wear a poppy on his shirt as is the custom around this time of year. He grew up in a town in Ireland where many of the unarmed civilians killed by British troops on Bloody Sunday came from. He argued that he would've be perfect happy to wear a poppy if it was only to remeber those who gave their lives in the two World Wars, but but as it covers everything else, including the Troubles, given what British soldiers had done to people from his hometown, he couldn't in good concience wear it.
And I think that's a perfectly fair argument. Not all soldiers are the same. Not all conflicts are the same. Not all of those who gave their lives did so for things worth giving their lives for. Those that fought in conflicts like the world wars, or those that had little choice about giving their lives in other conflicts (for example, those Americans drafted to fight in Vietnam), are different from those who chose to fight in wars like Iraq (and yes, they did choose to do so - while they might not have specifically wanted to join that war, they volunteered for a military that was only ever going to fight wars like that).
That's not so say I don't think the latter are worthy of some degree of respect and remebrance, or that they shouldn't be well treated by the government. But I don't believe that they are worthy of the same degree as the former group. Hell, I don't believe they are more deserving for any number of other groups of people that have lost their lives in making our world a better place (for a leftfield example, how about construction workers ? While things have improved massively in recent years, building sites are very dangerous, and huge numbers of people have been killed or seriously injured over the last century and beyond. And they have doen so in order to build the world we live in. Without them no roads, no railways, no schools, no hostpitals, no water treatment plants or sewage pipes, no offices, no factories, no sports grounds, no houses. Builders have risked and often given their lives to make our world what it is today, yet when is their Remebrance?)
And yet Remembrance ceremonies put them all soldiers on the same level and puts them on a level that no other group gets. Being a soldier, risking and even giving your life is somthing worthy of repsect. But it is not something uniquely worthy of respect, and the degree of respect is dependant on what you are risking or giving your life for. I'm not by any means calling for such ceremonies to stop. But the way they are viewed, the way people will leap all over the slightest suggestion that someone isn't giving perfect respect to them (hell, look at the way the Sun attempted to discredit Corbyn by lying about his behaviour at the ceremony last weekend), the way that everyone who served is viewed in the same way is to me too far.
Now, much of this I suspect is due to the way the media have started treating the military and everyone associated with it in the last decade or so, which really disturbs me, and so maybe I'm taking out my frustration at that on Remembrance. But too often these days, I see things associated with Remembrance and the treatment of soldiers in general that remind me far to much of the old lie from the poem Arwon posted. We say never again, but the very ceremony is being used to glorify those still fighting and to attack those who criticise the military.