Life...

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This is the Off-Topic forum but not the Say whatever the heck you want to say forum. Keep your replies in reference to the thread's topic.
No more of this will be allowed penvzila.

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"You're gay"
"No you're"
"Naha YOU'RE GAY"
"Oh yeah?"
"YEAH!"
"OH!"
This is a useless discussion, that would be very suitable to continue on Apolyton, but please not here, penvzilla...
 
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Weimar: Like Alcibiaties of Athenae said, you're just a normal teenager. I took me until now (16) to get a steady girlfriend, having sex before this age is very rare.


[This message has been edited by PaleHorse76 (edited April 21, 2001).]
 
just came home from work...
all the people I know at school were there, ordering food. they had just come back from a party... 1 hour and 30 minutsd AFTER I must be home, 11pm

I have never been to a single party
I have never had a single girl look at me
I have never had a good friend
I am opposed to drinking in a place where everoyne drinks

now, if anyone can say they have been though the same, then so be it, but if you havent, then dont say that things will get better cause, frankley, you dont know
half the girls at my school think I am a stalker {long story...} the other half have boyfriends.

the only thing that keeps me going at times like this is the Weimar Republic... I just think how weak it was in 1923, and how strong it had become by 1943... controaling almost all of europe.

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Whats the point of living if you cant do anything stupid?
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haha just like corn said , join the club :_)

(corn by the way is probly one of.. nah.. is one of the closest friends i have)

16.. let see.. 16

i think i was in grade 10, and in all places, gander newfoundland, little tiny town in the middle of no where and it sucks!!

corn moved to st john's in grade 9 i think.. so when i was 16 i have no friends either *aside for him and the others i talked to on icq*

look man.. don't worry about it.. don't get depressed about it, i used to get depressed all the time, i used to take drugs just to get away from things, i nearly killed my self on more than one ocastion, trust me, things will get better!!!

if your ever lonely and you want someone to talk to just icq message me or something, it's in my profile.. i know.. talking to people a million miles a while sucks.. but i sapose it's better than nothing.. i know i get sick of it a lot

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Perhaps it's time for a nice %STRING0
 
Being considered cool by others is a total bullsh*t concept! In my opinion, what being cool is about, is being happy with yourself. Anyone who goes through life living by other people's standards is selling themselves short. Nobody loves you more than you. You'll never be happy with anyone else until you become happy with yourself. Confidence is both a powerful ally & a useful tool. If you don't have it, GET SOME!!! I wish it was as easy as telling you how to do that...But it's just not that simple. Everyone finds their own road to happiness & nobody is afforded the luxury of a map. Lastly, if you never take a chance you'll never know.

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well I guess I am ok now. it just irks me sometimes when I realise it.

I sent a pretty good PM to leowind on this topic. I asked that he eathier send it back to me or post it here himself. its rather intresting.


also


Pedro
posted April 20, 2001 09:47 PM

vladmir_illych_lenin
posted April 20, 2001 09:56 PM

Pedro
posted April 20, 2001 10:06 PM

Pedro
posted April 20, 2001 10:43 PM

try to use PM's more often

and

penvzila
posted April 20, 2001 10:38 PM

penvzila
posted April 20, 2001 10:48 PM

if this isent Spam, then I am not the Emperor of the world... well I aint... YET... but you get the idea

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I myself hate life to the fullest, i'm a chronic depressed and i hate life to the fullest. And i fill suicidal alot of times life just sucks a big one

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NOTE from the Good Doctor,
If you think life sucks, then you need to wake up. And by that I mean alot of things, but mainly that your were put here (under the basic law) somehow or another. So from now on your fate is in your hands, NOW, paly it like civ....life gets alot better.
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How can life suck???

What is wrong with you people???

This life thing is all ya got, better start learning how to enjoy it now. Who knows what is going to happen after it is over???

Being a teenager sux unless you make it better for YOURSELF. No one else will do the work for you.

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uh... you guys are contradicting yourselvs a bit... how can I both "be myself" and get cooler, when whenever I "be myself" I even go so far as to loose friends I already have?

I am at a happy median at the moment, these past few weeks have, defetinally, been the best few of my life so far. I have tried many things that have worked and things are much better. but still... not as good as I would have hoped...

Sun Tzu, how about you tell us a bit about your life. you are a moderator, that seems pretty cool to me. you also have a cool sig, and say pretty cool things.

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uh... "major" social life?? I dont have any
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Mate, life can be really strange and impenitrable at times, particularly the troublesome teenage years. Just don't spend too much time reflecting on your own troubles, because that just makes them seem bigger. Plenty of people, me included have had similar experiences to those which you describe, but it is just part of life, and life is how you make it. Sure, you may not have a girlfriend or major social life at the moment, but things can and do take dramatic turns. Just be yourself, and be happy in doing so, and good things will come to you. You may not have a life like that of a perfect Hollywood teenager, which we were/are all "supposed" to be like, but from the sound of it you are a fairly well adjusted bloke who is just going thru the blues. Chin up old son, it can only get better. Give it time.
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Ok here it goes.
My dad got addicted to drugs and spent our money to buy his drugs, when i was 2years old he was drunk and on drugs and he pulled a gun on me and my mom when she said we were leaving. We Moved from Washington, DC to West Memphis,AR. Something from my childhood probably that screwed me for life as i'm have chronic depression. He never called his own son. I also have a low self-esteem. I have anger management problems, and whenever someone pisses me off really bad i just blank out and start beating his brains in, and the only way for me to calm down is if someone holds me down for a few minutes. In 1998 my dad died while driving to his new family for x-mas he had a heart attack while driving, just like his dad. So i'm kinda worried about my heart since my dad's side has heart problems and my mom's side has heart problems.
Before 1998 i made pretty good grades, since then i have been struggling making low grades i'm finally getting them up. And some other things ect......

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I have a good social life, i go to parties i play sports i have lots of friends i'm liked by everyone. I'm shy as hell around girls though, don't know what to say, actually its with anyone i want to be accepted but don't want to say some dumb sh*t. I think its my low self-esteem. I have one more year of high school then college hopefully life does get better cause it sure hasn't ever gotten better for me

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wow! I had no idea. thats pretty sad. my advice, talk to your friends alot. I think that good freinds will always be there for you when you need them. talking about things seems to help alot. I am sure you will pull through, things like this only make people stronger in the end.

fight on!
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Sun Tzu's story pretty much puts to rest the 'grass is greener' theory, doesn't it? I mean, he goes to parties, has friends, etc, and still isn't happy. So being cool, in itself, won't make you happy. Only your perspective on the world can make you happy.

Which is not to say that being 'cool' doesn't help. It's just not all there is to it. As to 'being yourself,' I think that's a phrase that has no meaning anymore. It's a cliche. You can't possibly be someone esle, so don't worry about it. I have found that people who won't do this or that because they are concerned about 'being themselves' aren't serious about self-improvement.

THere are some very simple rules to both being cool in high school, and making friends. Some of those rules sound pretty trite, but they're important nonetheless. For instance, fashion is important to being cool in HS. So, first step to being cool is finding out what's considered cool and learning about it. Going overboard is bad: Don't get entirely decked out in Tommy gear, or you'll stand out like a wannabe-sore thumb. But think about the small points of fashion and don't commit any major 'crimes' like wearing a pocket protector (or whatever is a faux pas these days). Start from there.

Use your better judgement and don't do anything really stupid, like drunk driving or whatever, just because you think it will make you friends. Fact is, people will respect you in the end for having a conscience.

Think critically about people. What do people look for in a friend? I think it's the ability to listen. Empathy. So, listen. Ask questions about things they want to talk about. If it's something you completely can't relate to, so much the better. THink about why the heck someone would be interested in that crap. THey have their reasons, and they're probably not as shallow as you might think at first. Go from there.

One can be cynical and say that what I've said above is 'faking it.' But it's not. THere's a big difference between posturing--trying too hard--and thinking critically about how the world works, and then applying that knowledge.

I personally couldn't give a rat's *** about fashion, but wearing relatively 'cool' clothes has the simple and desirable effect of allowing other people to concentrate on my personality. If others are silly enough to believe that my clothes have any connection at all with the kind of person I am, so much the better. It makes it easier for me to be myself, not harder. Besides, you can't fight fashion anyway, so use it to your advantage.

I'm not sure this is entirely on-topic here, but my mind hasn't been grounded by coffee yet
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I'm probably the last person anyone wants to take advice from, but I can at least let you all in on some mistakes I have made in my life(I am 31, single, and likely to remain that way for the rest of my life.)

FL2's Big List of Don'ts:
(Remember to put a DON'T in front of all of these)

1) Be afraid of what will happen if you ask.

2) Worry about what other people think of your dreams.

3) Get used to being alone so you won't have to worry about rejection.

4) Put your goals on the back burner while you're sorting out your problems.

5) Go straight to college out of high school instead of getting a crappy job so you know what to expect if you flunk out of college.

6) Loan money to someone you're just starting a relationship with.

7) Have sex with the first person willing to do it with you.

8) Buy a car without taking it to a service shop you trust to have them do a quickie inspection of the engine/brakes/suspension.

9) Dwell on every single failure you ever suffered, and torture yourself until the day you die by imagining what your life would be like if you had only done it differently.

There's probably a bunch of stuff I left out, but that ought to hold you for now.

Remember the don't.
 
well I think I am pretty well ok with stuff. just that I hope that I will get a girlfriend when I get into university. all I really want is for a girl that loves me... <IMG SRC="http://forums.civfanatics.com/ubb/frown.gif" border=0>


1) Be afraid of what will happen if you ask.

I know what will happen. I will get rejected. half the girls in my school think I am a stalker {long story} and the other half have boyfriends

2) Worry about what other people think of your dreams.

my only dream is to get a girlfriend

3) Get used to being alone so you won't have to worry about
rejection.

I know nothing else but lonliness

4) Put your goals on the back burner while you're sorting out
your problems.

again, my goal is getting a girlfriend

5) Go straight to college out of high school instead of getting a
crappy job so you know what to expect if you flunk out of
college.

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6) Loan money to someone you're just starting a relationship
with.

what money.

7) Have sex with the first person willing to do it with you.

I am opposed to casual sex anyways

8) Buy a car without taking it to a service shop you trust to
have them do a quickie inspection of the
engine/brakes/suspension.

no money, but good advice

9) Dwell on every single failure you ever suffered, and torture
yourself until the day you die by imagining what your life would
be like if you had only done it differently.

if I cant dwell in falures, I will not be able to dwell on anything. all I have are falueres. honestley, the 200something posts in this forum are my biggest victory in life

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[This message has been edited by weimar_republic (edited April 22, 2001).]
 
Well, hey, the first thing I said was I'm the last guy to take advice from. I just wanted to give younger people here the benefit of a look ahead at possible pitfalls so they could avoid the mistakes I've made...

Live your own life, that's the best advice I can give anyone. I'm having enough trouble living mine, I can't deal with your problems too.
 
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