What is your relationship to work? Actually enjoy it? Hate it? Have thoughts beyond that?
I am lucky enough to be doing the sort of work that I always thought I'd be doing, back in high school and university. I'm a software engineer, web developer, database design, UI design guy. Basically what you'd call a full stack developer. If I wasn't doing this for a living I'd probably desire some sort of job related to the travel or tourism industry, although I am not quite sure about that. It took one epic trip to get me hooked on world travel, and if I wasn't already a developer at the time, this trip might not have happened.
My relationship with work is complicated, I suppose, although that sounds a bit more dramatic than it really is. Essentially I view work as the mandatory thing I need to do in order to pay for the basic needs I require, such as shelter and nourishment, but also to pay for and spend time enjoying certain luxuries, and everything in between.
I see my job as a contract. I provide my expertise & labour for 7 hours every day, 5 days a week. In exchange I am provided a reasonable salary, 5 and a half weeks of paid time off a year plus holidays and a week off during Christmas time, and health drug dental and other benefits that stack on top of the generous universal healthcare we have in Canada. I view Canadian labour laws and to a lesser extent provincial laws, as well as the unions that rule our workplace, as the guardians of this contract.
My bosses are flexible in how they allow me to walk this contract, which is something I am grateful for. I will not get into any details, but I am treated like a professional who can manage his own hours. That sort of respect from my employer goes a long way in me wanting to respect the contract from my end, including being flexible from my end as well.
If my employer did not allow me to go on 3-5 week long backpacking trips to {whatever country}, I would probably be looking for a new job. What good is a job that does not allow you to embrace your hobbies and passions?
I am not really at work to make friends or to socialize, but we are sort of like a family here. I have made several meaningful personal connections through work, and I think that's an important part of all this to mention as well. I am a firm believer in a somewhat strict work/life balance, but that doesn't really contradict having friends at work.
When I leave work at 5pm I switch from work mode to non-work mode. If I am called about a problem during non-working hours, it better be a damn important emergency. There is some flexibility here, like I said, but I think it's important to be firm about this, but to help out during difficult moments as well. It's a fine line to walk, but we've struck a solid balance that works for me and I assume works for my employer.
Would I be working a 9-4/10-5 job if I didn't need to? Nope. Work is not my life, it's essentially a thing I need to do in order to pay for stuff. It takes up 35 hours of my waking week, plus the time it takes to get here and get back home, so I better enjoy it to some degree. Which I do, I'm somewhat passionate about software development and really enjoy programming. But let's say I created some personal initiative that made me the same amount of money every month and was stable income? I wouldn't be working for somebody else at all. I see work as a necessity that only exists as long as you don't have another income stream that will cover all the stuff I'm paying for every month. If I had that, working for somebody else would not cross my mind at all.
Work is simply a consequence of me living in this period in human history, in this Canadian society, in this socio-economic climate and reality. It's not something i get excited about beyond this project or that project being interesting to think about outside of work hours. I enjoy coming into the office, maybe not every day, but I have an office that's my own, a place where I can sit back and think about the problems I am asked to solve, I am given enough flexibility to not feel like this job is much of a nuisance, so in the end you have a happy enough employer and a happy enough warpus.
One thing I'll mention is that my personal philosophy is that it's dangerous to mix a hobby you are passionate about with work, although not always. It's something to be careful about. I always wanted to work on more freelance programming projects, but 35 hours a week is more than enough programming for me. So outside of work I mainly turn to other hobbies. Yes, I do some programming on the side, mainly for fun, but I would be doing a LOT more of this if I was working a completely different type of job. I am glad that I have other hobbies I am passionate about that can engage me after working hours, and that my life isn't purely centered around software development.
People say that you should find something you love doing and make a career out of it, but the danger there is that you could end up hating a hobby you are passionate about. Or burning out. Yeah, I bet you could find examples of people who do something at work (and love it) and then go home and do the exact same thing as one of their main hobbies that they are passionate about. I also bet you could find a lot more people who found a job doing something they love, and ended up not really enjoying it that much as a hobby outside of work.
This is why I'm not so sure a job related around world travel would be a good fit for me. A lot of people tell me this, they ask why I haven't started some blog or become a social media travel influencer, or something of the sort? Why don't I try to monetize my trips? Would I ever consider quitting software development to become a travel agent? I enjoy planning trips for myself (and other people), so surely that would be a perfect fit? The thing is that I really enjoy the flexibility I have when I travel. I can do what I want, eat what I want, relax when I want, go on a walk when I want, and hit up whatever sites I want, depending on how I feel that day. If I needed to monetize these experiences to pay for my basic needs + luxuries, then that would take a lot of joy out of travel for me. Having to plan trips for people day in and day out? Nah, that would burn me out. I enjoy occasionally planning trips and doing research. Having to do it for a living would probably push me away from world travel to some degree. I am really happy that I'm able to dabble in this hobby outside of any sort of work considerations. And I mean, yeah, it'd be amazing if I was making some extra money while I travelled, but my priorities lie elsewhere.
I have had the opportunity to move to the U.S. for work opportunities. High profile programming jobs that would see my salary double. Every single one of those opportunities contained a work-life balance that's just not for me. The expectation of working long hours to push products out. The LACK of work-life balance. I have met some expact Canadians who work in Silicion valley, and they make $$$ but their lives sound miserable to me. Living for work, instead of working to live. I would hate it. Yeah, the money would be nice, but there's so many other considerations here. The Canadian healthcare system for instance means that I don't have to ever worry about going bankrupt due to a medical emergency. How much would it suck to worry about that working a high profile job in silicon valley, when your healthcare benefits rely 100% on your employment? If I was fired from my current job the Canadian social safety net would prevent me from having to worry about bankruptcy due to a medical issue. We also have better employee protections up here. All these things are considerations for me.
I find work to be a complex subject. You can look at this thing from many different angles. I could never understand the people who live to work though. That's not the sort of person I am at all. I work to live and my employer knows it. The contract and mutual understanding between us is a compromise on both ends of the equation. We are both happy enough with the status quo, and in the end I deliver very good work for my employer. I am passionate about solving unique problems and that's what sort of helps drive me at work. So you need
some passion there IMO. A job where I just don't care would make me miserable.