aguliondew
Prince
Quest choices can increase affinity (the multi symbols quest). Also excavating artifact site can give you a free affinity level. When picking up that first affinity make sure it a useful one. You do not have to always go X because that resource is next to you. Explorer a bit and you may find a good city site.
http://well-of-souls.com/civ/civbe_overview.html
http://well-of-souls.com/civ/civbe_overview.html