The questions-not-worth-their-own-question-thread III

[Annex]

Believe me, I am just as socially inept as you guys. I tried the "Ill never see them again" approach, but it doesnt work for me. I want, nay need, people to like me even if I will never see them again, which just causes me to get more nervous.

 

[hossam]

can someone help me install something? i would prefer it if was done via PM.

 

[Cutlass]

install what? until I know what it is i don't know if I know how to install it.

 

[hossam]

install what? until I know what it is i don't know if I know how to install it.

a torrent, a game specifically.

 

[Cutlass]

i've never worked with torrents. i don't know if it installs different from other programs.

 

[PeteAtoms]

if its the torrent file, you need to use a torrent program like uTorrent to download it.

 

[hossam]

i've never worked with torrents. i don't know if it installs different from other programs.

yes, it does install differently

 

[hossam]

if its the torrent file, you need to use a torrent program like uTorrent to download it.

ive already downloaded it and i have poweriso i just dont know how to install it.

 

[Brighteye]

I cannot deal with other people socially, i make mistakes etc. I generally just f**k up, conversationwise.

Welcome to my world.

Believe me, I am just as socially inept as you guys. I tried the "Ill never see them again" approach, but it doesnt work for me. I want, nay need, people to like me even if I will never see them again, which just causes me to get more nervous.

Shy people generally have focussed on other pursuits, often intellectual. Just treat social interaction as an intellectual exercise: make as many jokes as you can.
Look out for puns and opportunities for humour. Say them out loud, but never repeat unless specifically asked.
Also try to remember three confessions from every person you meet, whether they be about likes and dislikes, or events in the person's life.
It's a little bit of work, but combining the two into a concerted effort very effectively mimics the most socially adept of people.

 

[lndm]

Avoid apologising to people in any way unless it is necessary. Avoid talking about yourself using put-downs. Both of these behaviours set a person up as seeming to be a lesser human being.

Learn to recognise a need to please other people. It's perfectly good to please others but a need to do so indicates an unhealthy attitude.

Most importantly, remember that none of us is perfect. People generally understand what it is like to have social troubles. Furthermore, people would only choose to put you down for it in moments of weakness (theirs).

 

[hossam]

never mind i found out how to do it.

 

[GinandTonic]

Avoid apologising to people in any way unless it is necessary. ... Both of these behaviours set a person up as seeming to be a lesser human being.

Terrible advice, and untrue. Good manners show a superior person, and apologising is a part of than.

 

[lndm]

Please don't misunderstand me (as I fear you may have). (Now I'm concerned others may have taken me the wrong way too so I'll try to explain).

When I say "unless it's necessary", there are many reasons where it is necessary, including politeness.

I agree with your point.

I was refering to situations like, for example, the way people can sometimes apologise for what they are about to say before they say it. You must agree that such a position does not help a person's confidence.

I do believe in politeness and I think good manners can help to build confidence.

 

[Mesousa]

How can i lessen my social anxiety? I cannot deal with people outside of my familiy/school/friends. I have great problems socially.

If you can/do answer thank you.

Try to ease into it. That is to say, don't try disagreeing about a topic you don't know much about, with a lot of strangers in an unfamiliar environment. Try encountering few or single strangers while you're with someone you know, in an environment you're familiar with. Try to talk about something you're interested in, talking to a fellow fan of your favorite hobby will be easy. Maybe something like an afterschool club would be a good idea for you. Once you build up your confidence this way, realize you do not make a fool of yourself constantly in front of strangers, and that strangers will not eat you alive if you don't charm their pants off immediatly, you'll continually get better. It really comes all down to confidence in the end, and the best way to build it up initially is to go for easy successes. Just try it. You might be afraid of failing, but if you never try, you'll never get better and your anxiety will only grow worse. Heck, even failing will help you, because you'll see that the consequences actually aren't half as bad as you might be imagining them to be.

 

[Globex]

If I have 200mL solution that is 5% sulfuric acid by mass, how do I calculate the mass of the sulfuric acid?

 

[Taras Bulba]

If I have 200mL solution that is 5% sulfuric acid by mass, how do I calculate the mass of the sulfuric acid?

that problem seems too simple

200mL x .05 = 10mL

because mL = g, 10g of sulfuric acid.... that seemed too simple, so I'm probably wrong

 

[PeteAtoms]

that problem seems too simple

200mL x .05 = 10mL

because mL = g, 10g of sulfuric acid.... that seemed too simple, so I'm probably wrong

i don't know how to find the answer, but i think your answer is if it were 5% by volume, not mass.

 

[nonconformist]

that problem seems too simple

200mL x .05 = 10mL

because mL = g, 10g of sulfuric acid.... that seemed too simple, so I'm probably wrong

Argh 1ml is not 1g, that's only using the relative denity of water.

With that data, you can't calculate it simply. you need the relative atomic mass of H2SO4 and from there you can calcuate the mass.

 

[GinandTonic]

i don't know how to find the answer, but i think your answer is if it were 5% by volume, not mass.

Indeed. What are the different densities of the soloution and the acid.

 

[Taras Bulba]

Argh 1ml is not 1g, that's only using the relative denity of water.

With that data, you can't calculate it simply. you need the relative atomic mass of H2SO4 and from there you can calcuate the mass.

darn, I knew there was something I was forgetting.

well... anyway... I'd just imagine you do what he said in the second half of the quote, whatever that number is